All right! Jasmin – thank you so much for your comments. Unfortunately, I read your post AFTER I got back – so I wasn’t able to try it. Next time, though!
I was never a tomboy myself – but I WAS one of the guys in highschool (kind of like Alseides, only without any attraction… that I knew of). I’d be the girl the guys would come talk to to get advice or unload their girl problems (since I already had a boyfriend) so I never allowed any of that kind of conversation to happen.
And now I’m just starting to get the innocent talking skills back. What I need now is flirting and banter, although I’m slowly starting to learn it.
So Alseides and anybody else who is reading! This is what happened last night:
1 IS to each wrist. 1 to neck.
1 Instant Openness to neck - and 1 to hair. (I have hair that stops at my chin, kind of like a 1920s wavy bob, so I have to touch it a lot and put it up with my hands to get cooler.)
We get to the bar:
Second time in a row!!! Got in for free (my friend did as well), and this was without any back story. Just a wink and we were through.
It was a very different night than the one before. It was just the two of us (some of her friends, though strangers to me, were going to show up later), and as it was only 11:45 NO ONE was dancing. So we started dancing ourselves, because that’s what we went there to do. Did the robot, shopping cart, fishing reel, all the stupid dance moves to kill time. People laughed at us, a few people started dancing at their spot on the wall or in their seat, but no one came up to dance on the floor.
12:30 on the DOT the dance floor instantly fills up. Her friends show up. A couple other girls from our school come as well, and this is what made the night perfect for testing some of the skills I learned from my friend.
I had two different groups of friends on two different sides of the dance floor, and I would switch every now and then, walk around the room, squeezing between people, that kind of thing. I can’t remember if sweat sort of rinses off pheromones or enhances them – I know heat helps – shoot. Well, I tried anyway.
Anyway, there was a group of maybe seven guys, all cocky pretty boys JUST STANDING in the middle of the dance floor. I figured they were waiting for girls to come up to them, which they did, but please, move out of the way. It’s the same thing as being a wallflower, only taking up space in the middle. I made eye contact with a lot of them, one the sort of simultaneous smile, but none of them came over.
We had a few other guys come over to dance (all the jock types you mentioned, Jasmin). I realize now, me dancing with them for a little bit, but then ejecting, was actually a way of validation to the group in the middle. Over the course of the night, I made more and more eye contact.
I have rule, though:
If a guy doesn’t make eye contact, and starts dancing behind me (ESPECIALLY when they sort of lock hold you against them), I don’t dance with them. The least you can do is make eye contact, or even ask (novel idea!!! And almost all of the time I’ll say yes if they ask.) I just find it incredibly rude. Suggestions for any guys who might be reading this: Just ask to dance. If a girl says no, it’ll be just the same as if she were pushing you away, with less energy wasted on struggle.
So I danced with a few boys, a sweet guy who had been shy and then suddenly became very outgoing asked for my number (although I’m betting he won’t call) and I made eye contact with a LOT of people (several times with a tall guy with a mohawk – I am a sucker for mohawks, and I don’t know why). But I was too chicken to actually bring a guy in by myself – next time. It’s easier when you have a friend with you is naturally outgoing and has no fear.
All in all, it was a success – but not nearly as fun as the night before. I kept looking around the room, hoping the guy I danced with all night the last time would show up, but alas.
So yes, pheromones definitely helped last night.
And somewhat as a disclaimer: I’ve been writing pretty detailed events that may or may not have EVERYTHING to do with pheromones, simply because all of this is pretty new to me. I’m getting more comfortable in my own skin, but being able to read back on it, and get comments at the same time is definitely helpful.