Unless you’re Brad Pitt than yeah, but what if our friend rise here didn’t get lucky in the gene pool? I never said “cocky eye contact, acting douchbaggery or any jerk factor”. Our friend rise has a problem with being stuck in the friends zone, so let’s stay on topic and address his problems. This may be long rise but maybe it may help you why you are stuck in the friend zone.
THE MEETING STORIES
Here’s “Meeting Story #1”:
Boy is attracted to girl. Unfortunately, boy
doesn’t have a clue about how to make girl feel
ATTRACTION for him… so, instead he tries to
“pursue” girl by offering her dinners, gifts, and
flowers. Girl finds boy “nice”, but there are no
“sparks”, so she “just likes him as a friend.”
Here’s “Meeting Story #2”:
Boy is attracted to girl. Fortunately for him,
boy understands ATTRACTION, and begins to
communicate with girl in a way that makes her feel
a powerful physical and emotional response for boy
that she can’t control. The sparks fly, and boy
and girl “get together.”
As I’m sure you know…
In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the
situation and both of them know it.
In story #2, BOY is the one who’s in control of
the situation.
THE STORIES OF HOW THINGS “END UP”
Let’s assume that somehow, boy and girl
actually “get together”. Things usually go one of
two ways after that…
Here’s “End Up Story #1”:
Boy and girl get together. Boy realizes that he
“REALLY likes” girl. Boy begins to act more and
more predictable. Boy starts to share “how he
feels” about girl too often. Boy becomes more and
more submissive. Girl loses that feeling of
ATTRACTION that she once had for boy and has no
way of explaining or understanding why. Girl
leaves boy and boy is left wondering what
happened.
Here’s “End Up Story #2”:
Boy and girl get together. Boy understands that
no matter how much he likes girl, he cannot let
himself become a Wussy who chases girl around
“sharing how he feels” and becomes boring. Boy
keeps the relationship interesting and he keeps
challenging girl. Boy stays in control of himself,
and by understanding his role as “The Man” in the
relationship, keeps girl interested and attracted
to him into the future.
And again, as I’m sure you know…
In story #1, GIRL is in total control of the
situation and both of them know it.
In story #2, BOY is the one who’s in control of
the situation.