First of we suggest what product is best for you because of our experience and based on the information you give us. The more info you give the better we are able to understand what is going on.
We should not recommend the amt of sprays you wear since everyone is different and you will need to find your sweet sport. Pls read this thread carefully :
Here is a great thread you should also read :
I wonder if your wife always had a low sex drive or has it just recently started. It could be because of a number of things.
I suggest instant honesty to get you guys some warmth and closeness and this will have her opening up so you can find out more about her low sex drive.
openness will make you more talkative and feel less awkward esp in first convos since you are shy
ammunition will make you feel confident and give off that masculine vibe.