Hi everyone. First of all, let me say I really enjoy these forums as they allow for some honest no-bull discussions about what works and what doesn’t! And that really is the question, isn’t it?
Anyway, I’m a pharmacist by trade, so I’m pretty much into anything that falls under the umbrella of “better living through chemistry.” I had heard about pheromones in the past, but had never given much thought to actually making a purchase until now. To be honest, I’m not sure how I made my way to this site, other than I was doing a lot of google searches and somehow ended up here.
So here is my situation. I have a new girlfriend of ~3 months and I’m crazy about her. The scary part is that I am SO crazy about her that I’m already terrified of the possibility of things not working out between us. And let me be clear about something: I’m not some ninny who just landed his first girlfriend and doesn’t know what to do. Prior to ‘her,’ I considered myself something of a professional bachelor and have enjoyed a rather active dating life.
To get to the point. I know she has very strong feelings towards me as well. But she is somewhat inhibited. Perhaps inhibited isn’t the right word, but she is very cautious and slow to open up. I don’t want to move too fast for her emotionally. I just wish she would allow herself to really “jump in” occasionally and follow her feelings. Every time we make any kind of progress like this, she tends to quickly pull back into her safety zone.
I suspect some of this is due to the fact that she is a bit younger than me, and that it is just in her personality to be cautious, but I would like for her to feel (to know!) that my feelings for her are 100% genuine and honorable and that I’m not going anywhere. I know myself well enough to know when I’ve fallen
Anyway, regarding pheromones. I am interested in anything that will help her to trust her feelings when she is with me and to move forward with me in our relationship (as things would normally) without being so damned cautious and guarded. Bottom line is this: we share (I believe) the same feelings toward one another, but it is harder for her to act on those feelings. Any info would be much appreciated!
I agree with the other guys guy’s suggestions, but I’m wondering if also you might want to lighten things up too. Sometimes people “freeze up” when everything starts getting too serious. You might also want to use Instant Openness to encourage lighter conversations.
I’m even wondering if you might be a great candidate for Come Talk to Me, which has both Instant Honesty and Instant Openness together in the same bottle.
You haven’t really said what kind of personality you have, but I’m also going to suggest you try Instant Shine, which enhances your confidence levels.
Mind if I ask what your GF is like, personality-wise?
You haven’t really said what kind of personality you have, but I’m also going to suggest you try Instant Shine, which enhances your confidence levels.
Mind if I ask what your GF is like, personality-wise?
Thanks everyone, first of all, for the advice. It is much appreciated. In response your questions:
My personality: I am somewhat aloof, and probably an introvert (though people I know don’t believe me when I tell them that). I am generally very confident, however. Though quiet by nature, I don’t find myself particularly intimidated by many situation.
My GF’s personality: As I said, she is a little bit guarded emotionally. She is quiet in general, but has a playful sarcastic side. Her usual self is very “business-like.” By that, I mean she tends to feel guilty if she is not actively being busy and accomplishing something. In other words, it is hard for her to just slow down sometimes and enjoy the moment. Especially if it is something unplanned. For instance, this morning the two of us had absolutely nothing to do, but I could tell she didn’t feel comfortable staying in bed. It’s funny, because a part of her really just wants to kick back an enjoy, but she sometimes just won’t let herself.
I might be overstating things a bit here. This is her “usual” self. Though she does have different sides to her personality that are downright adorable. She can be silly and goofy and look at the world as if through the innocence of a child sometimes, which is really funny. And on the flip side, she can be a bit “naughty” sometimes as well. Though I think she feels guilty for allowing herself to be so after the fact.
Anyway, I hope that helps clarify our personalities.
I’m gonna stand by my suggestion of Instant Shine. I also think both Instant Openness and Instant Honesty will serve you well, because of the different characteristics of each product.
I’m gonna also make another suggestion that has nothing to do with pheromones. I suggest that to drive your relationship in a lighter direction, that you start flirting with her like you just met her-- or like you never met her at all-- and you’re trying to impress her. Since you’re already in a relationship with her, in some ways you can be very brazen, but build up to that. Start out winking at her, teasing her. Pretend you’re trying to steal her away-- from you.
My name is Tisha and I am the hostess/mone adviser here on PT.
Great intro and great replies as well.
I am going to suggest IH IFM and Ishine for you and here is why…
You mention your aloof and introverted. Ishine will boost your charisma and give a warm charm and uplifting feeling.
You mention your GF pulls back and is cautious which translates to me she is a bit nervous. IFM is calming and eases nerves, It helps get past last minute resistance and gives comfort as well as increasing affection and feelings of security and trust.
IH opens up deeper communication. Gives a feeling of connection trust closeness and intimacy.
Use one at a time at first and get a feel for your dosage and what each one can do for you. Give her time to adjust to them, just like with medicine sometimes it takes a few dosages/exposures to get the full effect.
If you have any questions just ask, I look forward to your participation in the forum
Gotta go with Tisha’s recommendation there, I used IFM and IH to great effect in improving my marriage, the one thing I am not is introverted but I still use IShine because it makes me fee good. The only addition I would make is a small amount of ammo to gently encourage the sleeping tiger/naughty girl more often.
Diamond has a good point to consider there with the AMMO but I will tell you why I didnt suggest it.
You mentioned she has a naughty fun side to her sometimes and I think the only thing holding her back is the nervousness and comfort level. Once you take care of those the rest will come naturally and you want to stay close to natural when you can in the establishing stage. After all this is the “one” .
Later on once you get past that phase then I figured if you were looking for a boost in that area then go for the more sexual products.
Just a thought its up to you, it is something good to consider though
Extremely valid point from Tisha about remaining close to natural in the establishing stage. Sorry, I didn’t even consider that when I replied.:o
Another thought has occurred to me and, I speak from personal experience here, have you considered some pheromonal experimentation together. When I first started using these, it was just me, I saw valid improvements in our marriage. Two months ago, I told my wife, she got interested and has started using some of the ladies pheromones herself, this has vastly improved her confidence at work and, more latterly, at home.
Now, I’m sure the girls will be able to give better advice but I would suggest introducing her to Instant Shine and maybe some Instant Sexiness or MX135. These alone have done wonders for my wife’s self esteem.
Thanks all for the excellent advice and encouragement. You’ve all made some good suggestions. I truly appreciate it and I look forward to beginning this grand pheromone experiment.
Am placing an order today. Will definitely post results as I experiment with the different products.
