I don’t know much about pheromones. I tried pherlure about a year ago, got discouraged, and just ordered some stuff here tonight. But it really sounds to me like the guys on the porch were being cock blocks and you got blocked my friend. Please excuse my language, but I know of no other way to explain it. It’s basically when a guy or guys decide to rip on someone to look tough around ladies, and unfortunately, it works, but with the wrong kind of woman. I could be wrong, but the way to describe it sounds to me like you encountered a group of friends on the porch that saw you as the outsider in their group and some insecure jerk or jerks in the group saw you as competition, which happens when the male-female ratio is really bad. The cheapest cock block out there is to call someone who you percieve as competition as a “gay” or a “bitch.” But it works. I’m not advocating that you do that. It’s cheap, and it’s effective with the wrong kind of women. One solution is to step up and dish it right back like it doesn’t matter to you- like it’s all water off ducks back, and sometimes, rip back, but in fun. If you run into a group, that might not be advisable. I’ve been cock blocked in the same way. I’ve been called gay, and my response is to turn my nose up- basically nod upward quickly while maintainind eye contact and say, “You wish I was gay, because you want a piece of this, but I don’t swing that way. But I accept you man. I’m cool with your life choice” Now, you have to be careful where you bust out such a comeback. If you’re out of your element and the interloper, you could get into a fight, so if this was say a group of jocks or something, I would stop at “you wish.” If I knew the guys, my comeback would include the word bitch.
Now, as far as the chick, she could have been flirting with you, but I wasn’t there. Sometimes when you run straight into a group of guys like that, a woman will even join in the ripping if you don’t stand up. But if that happens, she just identified herself as not worth your time. Be a gentleman, but she’s not worth your time, and she did you a favor by identifying herself. My gut tells me she was teasing you, though. Like maybe she saw you were bummed and was trying to lighten the mood, but I wasn’t there. But I guess ask yourself if she’s worth the benefit of the doubt.
Now, I’m not trying to discourage you from experimenting with pheromones. People here tell me that pheromones are 20% at most, and the rest is up you. And maybe you’re at the wrong kind of party anyway. I mean, crap like this happens in the proverbial “sausage fest” but again, I wasn’t there. But if you’re at a party where guys start acting like apes with mating dances and ritual displays of aggression, you’re at the wrong party and you won’t be missing anything by just leaving. I’m not saying run away. I’m saying that’s a crappy party anyway.