I am going to tell you something that has recently been going through my life…here it goes…
Since i started my new job i have been talking to a lot of girls at work. I have been getting a lot of hits with “no” pheromones but nothing sexual either.. Just long conversations about our lives… Well recently i mentioned that my car pool guy quit his job and i needed a new carpool but I never bothered to ask.. This one girl offered to jump at the situation and give me a ride in the morning too work. So 4 days have gone passed and she started mentioning about how she broke up with her husband and already signed the papers… then the next day comes and she says she has been pissed off, because her “booty call” didn’t answer the phone and he needs to be replaced.
So she said on the week-end she wants to go to the club with her friends because she wants to get laid… she seems to be pretty horny, but this whole time in the car, i have been wearing instant honesty. I don’t have much attraction for her, but I simply have sex with her with no strings attached if the question ever came up… but what should I do? I don’t want to destroy our working relationship if i say I will sleep with her..but I don’t want her to hate me if I don’t make a move on her either… this seems to be a pretty sticky situation..
On a further note, i will be receiving AMMO + TUTH in the mail today and should be getting a314 in 1-2 days… I wanted to know what would you do in this situation, as I haven’t been laid in almost a year!!!
She is not just being super open with you, she is being super obvious with you. She is laying it out in your face on a silver platter. Does she really have to tell you she wants to fuck you before you make a move? Ask her the name of the club, see if she needs a guy there. Start some playful banter, “anything I can do to help you out there”. Office games are good too. Let her know you have some sexual interest. She is probably not looking for a LTR right now, just a rebound so FEEL HER OUT (out, not up) and you might just get that nsr sex after all. In my experience, rebound sex (when not completely emotionally fucked up) makes for fantastic friendships and usually friends with benefits.
I’m going to have to disagree with you the whole “anything I can do to help you out there” don’t even say that. You just became a beta. You make it playful, create more sexual tension. Make her want it so bad she’s practically jumping you in the car.
You take this by the reigns and control it, do not let the control go to her.
She will lose interest so quick you’re gonna be left without a carpool and a FB.
Bro don’t do it, it will mess up your whole work relationship. You said your not even attracted to her then why do it. Yea it seems like she wants you to bang her but unless you know she just wants to be f-buddies no strings attached then go for it. But girls always develop some kinda feelings after you have sex with them, most of them do not all. You might end up having to get another ride to work.
However, it’s our responsibility, as experienced/semi-experienced users to provide the best advice possible to people who are starting out and who have legitimate questions. I’m all for fun and sarcasm but once in a while we have to be careful to notice the context in which our responses are viewed. Your words WILL carry weight with people who take your advice. I’ve made a critical mistake in giving someone advice that was incorrect. If I wasn’t corrected by a senior member, then it would have been detrimental to his experiences and growth in knowledge when it comes to pheromones and interactions. Answer questions based on your experiences and let them know that this is based on your experiences. If you are to give advice based on research or posts you’ve read, let them look at that actual post, link it, help them find it, or if you’re well versed on that specific topic then clearly mention that.
This doesn’t just go for you but to all members giving advices to newcomers, we want to foster growth and a fun filled atmosphere here with with respect to everyone. We’re all here to learn and share our experiences and we need to analyze what we say before we say it.
You guys also have to take into consideration, we know this because we experienced it. Part of growth and learning. BTW I’m not saying to do either or, but this is really going to be your call.
Stick with a mix that’s both sex and fun/light. say equal parts Ammo, Instant Shine and Instant Honesty…two or three sprays each, maybe a little TuTH later. Stay away from A314, that’s a good product for adding a ton of strings to what you think would be a no strings arrangement. Same with IH, it creates a bit more of a “connection” vibe than you probably want. Coming off as a high status/value guy that she feels a sense of connection with is not the best idea if you want to keep things physical and nothing else.
Sexy, fun, light, that’s it. Even then it’s no guarantee that strings won’t start appearing. Sex effects the neurotransmitters and hormones in the human brain in ways designed to create a sense of connection and bonding. It’s very difficult for most women to keep emotional attachments out of it. So tread carefully. Avoid BF compliance tests. Don’t offer gifts, don’t take phone calls where she just wants to vent about her day, really if you find yourself doing anything, or her requesting anything that makes you think “that’s such a boyfriend/girlfriend type thing” then don’t do it. She may not mean to but she’s testing to see if you have potential as more than a sexual partner.
