good vibes for and from everyone. life can be difficult… just gotta pick ourselves up and go at it again.
back at the game
1d a314 r25 sbe split ears
2s mx203 neck
2s p126 @ 15 mcg neck
cover: creed aventus, neck
the short version
picked this mix to hit on caucasian girls, did well, ended up doing even better with asian girls.
the long version
one of the many “first” big clubbing nights in the fall semester when schools are starting up and students are filling in. we were scheduled to visit two clubs and the previous times i have been at both, they were filled with caucasian girls. i layered the mix accordingly.
at the first club: we didn’t stay here long. it was only a short trip to pick up some more friends, stay for a drink, and then go over together to the second club. got glances from two girls, returned with a smile since i knew we weren’t staying long enough to try anything.
at the second club: way more crowded so body heat was a factor. probably 30 minutes in i was all clouded up.
hit 1: status from guys. a314 on the ears is my favorite spot since people have to lean in to catch names, and it’ll hit them right there.
hit 2: “who is this guy?” vibe (in a good way) from girls in the new group. my group met up with another group and that’s how i got status hits from guys. when meeting girls, they got this feeling like “ok, this mysterious guy just walked into the party and something is cool about him.” you can tell when you’re shaking hands. a normal meeting gets a normal handshake. a flirty meeting pretty much swaps the handshake for a hug. a “who is this guy, i want to get to know him” meeting gets a handshake where the girl’s hand is kinda folded over yours, as if she was picking up your hand. hard to put in words, but you’ll know it when you get it.
hit 3: i had locked eyes with a bunch of girls around the room all night but one group in particular stood out - all asian, all cute. i met eyes with one of the girls in the group and she smiled, and i smiled, and i started walking over toward their group. immediately she nudges her friends and they all start fixing their hair and smoothing their dresses. game time, i guess. 
the vibe must’ve been just right because it was the easiest pickup ever, and it didn’t come off as cheesy. when i got to her group, she asked me “why do you keep looking over here?” and winked. not missing a beat, i said “because you girls look absolutely killer in your dresses. why don’t you come hang out with me and my group?” and that was that. they walked over and partied with us.
so much for mixing for white girls, right? 
back to hit 1: i met everyone about 45 minutes ago. then i leave for 2 minutes. then i come back with 8 (i think? there were a lot of them) sexy asian women, all dressed to kill, all ready to party. i could see the looks in their eyes: they were trying to wrap their minds around this and thinking “wow, we just met this guy a few minutes ago and now he’s bringing hot girls into our group?” status all the way.
back to hit 2: bringing these girls back actually worked out negatively for the existing girls, but overall it was a huge positive for me and my friends. the girls that were there before immediately became jealous of the new girls. it’s not my position to judge or anything, but i think it was because all the guys knew the girls so they were already in the dreaded “friend zone” and there weren’t many sparks, then all of a sudden new girls show up and the guys are flirting with them and basically ignoring the other girls, and they just got bitter.
while i was talking to some of the new girls, i got confronted by two of the “bitter girls.” they asked (me) who the new girls were. i could tell they were pissed off but i answered as if they were asking a serious question, so i said “well, this is girl A and girl B and girl C…” they cut me off and asked “why are they here in our group?” i took this opportunity to sort of diffuse the situation since now i could see that the new girls were feeling uncomfortable (sucks to show up to a group of people and get asked why you’re there). i answered (falsely) “i knew these girls from a class we all took a long time ago, and we haven’t seen each other in years; i figured we could all share a fun friday night together.” the bitter girls muttered something and walked away. to be honest, i didn’t see them around much after that, so maybe they just left the club.
one of my biggest faults as described in a post a few back is that i consider dating to be “locking myself in to one girl for a long period of time,” which actually isn’t true. dating is getting to know different people, seeing what works, what doesn’t work, etc. the “old me” would’ve met the existing girls in the group, felt their “who is this guy?” handshake, and stayed and tried to dig deeper into that all night. all my eggs in one basket, and if they flake or don’t like me, there go my eggs. the “new me,” as you might call it, says no, let’s go meet other people, especially those cute girls who have been looking your way all night. so i did, and it worked out well. now my eggs aren’t in one basket so considering i lost some throughout the night, i still came out on top. it’s all about meeting people.
hit 4: one of the girls in the group, actually the same one who i approached originally, took a strong liking to me. soon it became obvious and while the other girls were still flirty towards me, they gave her some space to work. we hit it off pretty well. i was staying sober to drive and she was drinking “moderately” as in not getting raging drunk, so i enjoyed our flirt session because i know it wasn’t some alcohol-fueled sloppy grope and mumble words thing. straight, honest, genuine flirting. good to experience that again.
hit 5, kind of: my roommate, the same one i’ve had for a while, was there too. he’s pretty good at borrowing my sig and rocking it. that’s default behavior but i mention it this time because he went to work pretty fast. usually he needs some time to warm up and get drunk or whatever before he really starts flirting. last night he was talking to the girls and introducing himself before i even got their names. good for him.
back to hit 4: it was super warm in the club. every time i left and came back to the group of girls, i would have increased body heat and thus an increased cloud. not surprisingly, every time i came back, my girl would have increased kino and sniffing. we had relatively low kino while flirting. the first time i left and came back, she put her arm around my waist and took a deep breath. the second time, she wrapped her arm around my shoulder and put her face in my neck, again with a deep breath. the third time she boobed me. i think that’s when we traded numbers. 
conclusion
we got the club at 11 or so and before we knew it, it was closing time. numbers traded, we walked the girls to their ride, and headed home. the whole time on the way home my roommate kept commenting on how he’s never really seen this side of me before (this is first time i’ve been single around him). i agreed. it feels good to get back into flirting (and not having to watch yourself before you cross the line into cheating). a lot of people have told me that i’m young and now is the time to flirt and feel out what’s right and wrong. i think i will do just that.
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at least i dont feel obligated to do so anymore…