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Super quick late hit report.

Wore IBF, went on another date with QEG. A friend called her while we were driving and I heard her say, “I’m on a date with jayarea.” Milestone: using the word “date” to her friends, in front of me. That’s a nice progression.

We got a little tipsy before dinner and somehow the conversation got onto the topic of her “girlfriend.” I forgot what exactly I said but it was something like, “I never would’ve believed I’d be having dinner with a beautiful lesbian.” I wasn’t exactly prepared myself to use the word “lesbian” but the alcohol made it slip. I did mean that sentence as a compliment though. She took it in stride, chuckled a bit, and we moved on to dinner. Milestone: me using the word “lesbian” in direct reference to her, for the first time. To the best of my knowledge, she has not called herself a lesbian before.

Later, again in the car, I teased her about something and she playfully (actually, this time) smacked me. She smacked me again and said, “That’s for calling me a lesbian earlier.”

Now, let’s process this. I see this as meaning she does not think of herself as a lesbian. Yes, she goes on dates with her “girlfriend” (that’s why it’s in quotes) but somehow, I’m still around.

Let’s process this further. Exactly one week ago, she was half naked in my bed - granted, with a bit of distance between us. She’s never called herself a lesbian, she playfully hit me for calling her a lesbian, and she’s been in my bed.

Could this be the go-ahead I’ve been waiting for to step up my romances with her?

We’ll find out.

Back to the car, after the smacks. She said, “But you smacked my ass that one morning when I was on your bed, so we’re even.” I replied, “Yes, and that was the best thing I did all week.” I was driving so I couldn’t really gauge her reaction but just like when I smacked her ass, she didn’t seem to respond in a good or bad way.

Chip away.

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OK, this is the third time I’ve tried to put up this post. The first time, the forum went down, the second time, my browser crashed. I’m low on free time today and really want to get these thoughts out so I’ll have to shotgun it, sorry.

QEG called me as she was leaving for work on Friday to ask to meet me for dinner. She had a long day and didn’t want to cook, plus she had to keep working that night. I put on IBF and met her.

Hit 1: she had changed into a comfortable camisole that revealed her cleavage. Right as I saw her, I said, “Your boobs look great; I’ll be staring all night.” She laughed and tried, not very hard, to adjust her top. She’s self-conscious so compliments to her are usually not taken seriously. This was the first time I’ve been so direct about focusing on her beauty, aside from smacking her ass that one morning in my bed.

Hit 2: playful smack that was again a light brush on my arm, as if she just wanted to touch me. She was also hesitant about hugging on the way out but once I opened my arms, she jumped right in.

Hit 3: deep conversation with no alcohol involved. When we first met, we needed drinks to get the conversation going. Later on, we needed drinks to really dig at the topics we wanted to talk about. This night, we had a meaningful conversation (with actually a lot of personal information shared between us) and no alcohol was needed. I’m actually very happy about this. The next hit I hope to achieve is to have drinks and for her not to break down.

I will now present three observations.

  1. Our planning-to-date time has drastically gone down. We used to plan dates weeks in advance. Over the recent July 4th holiday weekend, we hashed out details in the morning and then met that night. Regarding this post, we met thirty minutes after talking to each other. That’s amazing. Yes, our schedules have worked out a bit better but we also have been making efforts to meet each other. She called knowing I was most likely free and I didn’t even hesitate when she asked about dinner.

  2. Which brings me to my second conclusion. At least in my view, I’m becoming more of a “first choice” for her. We hung out two out of the three holiday weekend nights over July 4th and for this dinner thing, she outright said “You’re the first person I thought to call.” Maybe she had her girl (I’m saying “girl” from now on since they’re not actually a couple - I was corrected on this) queued up if I didn’t pick up. Maybe she saw her after dinner (not likely). Maybe they hung out all the rest of the holiday weekend and I only saw QEG at night. Who knows, and I’m not saying I’m replacing her girl or anything. I just know that QEG has made me a priority more than once in recent times. I’m really happy and I think it’s a good step forward in our time together.

  3. I used to think I was ghosting with IBF around her. Then I thought she was intimidated by the sig. Now I think she’s confused by the sig, but likes it. She hasn’t had a boyfriend in years so she’s probably forgotten what that feels like. I came on strong the first night we met, then toned it down once she said she prefers women, then came on strong again once Mustang and everyone else told me to stay on this roller coaster. All this time, I’ve worn IBF and really given off a “boyfriend” vibe, even when I wasn’t coming on strong to her. It’s probably very shocking for her to be so comfortable with a guy she’s only known for a few months.

We both finish major work projects in the next week or so. I need to travel for work occasionally but aside from that, the rest of the summer should be a great time and I’ll be working hard to advance the “relationship” I have with QEG.

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Selling some stuff.

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I find myself at another crossroads with QEG after we parted ways in an unsure manner.

Long story short, she brought some external emotions into a date and it ruined things for both of us. We only saw each other for about an hour when we had planned for at least four hours.

At the end of the night, I kissed her on the cheek. My first move on her. Not the right time or situation, I know, but I figured I wouldn’t get another chance as you’ll read below. It was received neutrally. Hey, at least I tried.

Regardless of who made the first attempt at contact last time we were at a crossroads (me), I firmly believe that she should be the one to reach out first this time. I think she knows this too. I won’t go as far as to say our bad date was her fault, but all the negative things about the date did stem from her. I don’t want to hang out with someone like this again so I won’t be asking her out again, but if she tries to make things right, I’ll give it a shot and see what she has to say.

This is the “make or break” point for us.

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Dropped prices on a lot of great stuff in my sale thread: Unofficial Trading Post (Buy-Sell-Trade) PheroTalk Members P2P Pheromone Market - #49 by jayarea

QEG is just a memory now, mostly. I haven’t heard from her since the last post when things went wrong.

I’m back in the dating scene though and I’ve met up with a few girls. We’re all trying to enjoy the last of summer.