Ah. Most of ‘em ain’t born knowin’ how ta dance…but if he’s willing and open to suggestion…a spin around the dance floor with a few private cheek to cheek lessons, from you, just might get him steppin’ to the right rhythm. Be gentle and take it slow…they’re such senitive creatures. 
If he does well don’t forget to reward him with a yummy biscuit …or two! 
Yeah, I have an interview tomorrow actually, with a femaile and I definitely will be wearing MX134
Congrats Girl…way to phero em
You go girl! Hope your interview goes well. MX134 is the bomb and I’ll definitely be adding it to any work related important things from now one.
I can tell you’re one happy kitten 
And I’m one happy little kitten too, thank to you!! :o
Thank you Bella. I’ll make sure I teach him how this dance is done… But to be honest, it feels kinda hopeless most of the time because I’m so terrified of ruining things with him. He’s one of those important (in my life) friends that one gets terrified of losing. He’s not the touchy feely type either, so it feels like an uphill struggle to get any actual action from him. I do get all the secondary no-contact signals.
It’s silly but I’m pathologically terrified of showing my interest directly.
Sorry to be sounding so pathetic and maudlin tonight but I’m actually quite unsure of myself on the relationships front. I’ve been told I’m an alpha-type female, with a “court” of guys (I have a 10/1 ratio of male friends/would-be lovers/ex-es…). I’m confident when it comes to public speaking, social interactions and whatnot. But when it comes to relationships… I’ve had my fingers burnt and my heart stomped on so many times that if I spot someone I really fall for, I freeze up completely to the point where I’d rather not say anything. My relationships usually happen either from their initiative or we fall into it by accident.
sigh
Ahh Takhisis, I know the feeling! I don’t freeze up and I do fit the alpha profile well enough, but I’ve been burned more times than anybody should ever have to be too, and it’s been my experience that if a woman comes on too strong I need to turn on my heels and run.
I love an alpha women in life and in business, but in affairs of the heart I’ve learned that women that come on to strong they are usually either looking to hitch a free ride or just out to get laid, and even though it still happens occasionally I’m not one to seek out one-night-stands.
If you’re freezing up and a guy is still willing to pursue you, I think that shows that he believes you are worth whatever it takes to make you comfortable and win you over.
That’s the thing though, Mark. I’ve been careful to make sure that he never found out about my feelings. Talk about screwed up…
ooo hi thanx for that! i hate hate LAM smell. i smell like feet 
im not bad at covering cops by now tho unless i overdo it.
i tried live by J-LO and be-delicious by DKNY and those have been working pretty well to cover up some of the smells.
<3 remmy
ps. cute journal!
The amazing Lor, from back in the Golden Age of Pherotalk, used to swear by Be Delicious. And she definitely knew what she was doing.
Nice use of punctuation and, in particular, your commas.
And I do miss Lor. I hope all is well with her.
Oops, been neglecting this, haven’t I?
Ahem… Yes. So please get us up to speed with the TG and the job. We are waiting for a RIOT - remember.
Hmm its thursday. So can we expect a little something this weekend?
And all your friends here …
The job:
Things are going smoothly. Despite my slight procrastination, people think that I’m doing good at the moment. Definitely MX134 helped!!
TG:
For the past couple of weeks and until our holidays, TG’s been having a lot of work and he is a little stressed. People at work just take advantage of him and dump all the hard work on him. I just don’t know what to do because he’s really confusing:
We’re close, spend a lot of time together but he’s retreated in his little bubble. On one side, he’s more curled on his side, on the other, he does more things (comes home early, comes to get me when I arrive in town, cooks for me).
Pheromones don’t make me less clueless
TGFF: Thank God for friends.
When women have a rough day or set of days they want someone to talk to, talk it over with, vent to.
Guys retreat to a quiet place to decompress. They tend to push people away mentally/emotionally if not physically because they want peace and quiet and personal time after the noise or the stress of the job. Even if that quiet place is more mental withdrawl than physical withdrawl.
The fact that he is still cooking for you etc. shows he still cares. But he is stressed and is pulling into a quiet zone to decompress. Best guess is its nothing personal. Maintain the connection. Let him know you are there - you do not even necessarily have to say it - just a warm presence.
He will resurface when he needs air …
Glad the job’s going well! MX134 is great for generating respect and definitely helps get things done for me. I don’t need to pull it out often but when I do it works like a charm.
Something for you to try if you have a mind to… MX134 and Instant Sexiness/A together. It’s got the same alpha vibe but with a little sexy kick from the IS/A. You might like that in the right circumstance. Though it might not be appropriate for your work environment. Personally, I don’t wear much cops to work. It would be awkward for me. Socially, outside of work, they’re great fun.
TG’s been having a lot of work and he is a little stressed.
People at work just take advantage of him and dump all the hard work on him.
This is a problem. They probably dump it on him because he can get it done. Give it to the guy who’s already overburdened, somehow, he always manages to get it done. 
Wonder why they feel they can just dump it on him…are they his superiors, or just lazy co-workers he can’t say no to?
How he can fix it, I dunno. Maybe some A314 would help? A new job?
Yes, we need to get it out…lol. Not that men don’t.
You’re not clueless…quite the contrary …you realize he’s having trouble. It’s more a reflection of the pressure and stress he’s under at work. It’s not you. I agree with Bosshank. Trust me. This is the way men are. They need space. They need that time to themselves. Think of it as recharging his batteries.
Even if that quiet place is more mental withdrawl than physical withdrawl.
Often when Wolf first comes home from work he needs some quiet time to unwind. I understand and respect that, he deserves it. It doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to be alone, per say, we converse…he just doesn’t want a lot of yabber.
He obviously enjoys being with you. He comes home early, picks you up and cooks for you too. I usually only cook for those I care for. Knowing you care, your understanding and support that’s what he needs most. And, believe me, he appreciates it. He’s been pushed enough.
Truth is most people need/want a soft place to fall. Be each others soft place to fall. That’s the ticket. When he comes home after getting beat up all day…let’s face it everybody has days when they feel like that…he needs soft curves not hard edges.
Exactly. Be patient, be ready, and help him when he’ll let you.
Maybe sometime when he’s feeling down…do something extra special for him. Just a little something. Maybe a little gift of some sort…a little something he likes…it may sound silly but sometimes I buy Wolfie chocolates. Every once in awhile I go out of my way to another town to get them, no biggie. I know he loves them and they always bring a smile.
Even ones who talk too much…lol?
Firstly, I’ve been laying off the pheromones for a little while (ok, it’s been three days, Euro’s coming back down, pheros become a wee bit more expensive, I’m taking an expensive holiday in the Big Apple…) and been a little busy at work, so please bear with me. Oh Pheromone Gods, do not banish me to the hell that is “Non reporting User” group!
As I wrote last week, MX283 gave me superhuman sniff-o-scope powers (for those of you who know Futurama) and a bit of a headache.
So I left the MX’s aside for a couple of days… and now I can’t find them anymore. Where are my @¤$###!!! bottles? They were in the dining room and I moved them. Never mind I, (corporate) Robot! I, Moron.
I know where MX282 and 284 are so all is not lost for the testaroo (specially 284 which hasn’t gotten a spin on my skin -hey, that rhymes- yet)
Mmm, yes, I know what you’re saying. It’s just that men and women have different timings on the bitchin’
For now, I’m just trying to make sure that he finishes what he has to do before we take off on holiday. That included forbidding him from helping with party preparations this weekend and making sure no one bugged him while he worked.
Biggest reward was that he said that he’d progressed somewhat and we had time for a coffee before he went back home.
I had a bit of a bad time last year (I got soooooo depressed that I considered quitting and going to work elsewhere) so this is a definite up and a breather!
That’s mah combo!! In a male dominated work environment, I found it works better to be the cute, sexy yet competent girl, rather than the butch career girl. Guys are friendly, helpful and fun to work with when I use it. Girls are not so threatened because I feel it’s not too cop heavy (must be not too heavy on the IS/A though).
Any of the above, all of the above. Usually less competent/meticulous colleagues with the blind-eye of everyone’s managers and because they know if they somehow make him feel “responsible” for doing something, he’ll do it and do it well, no matter how long it takes him.
It was like that in college as well. He’s just so sweet and competent that people take total advantage of him. The student body staff were always coming to him with their problems and their “We need somebody to help clean up after the party”.
Back then, people saw me as a bit of an bitch-from-hell and I don’t fawn over people or coddle them to sweeten them up. Got in trouble a fair number of times because I opened my big mouth. For various reasons, it’s always been expected of me that I be meek and grateful for any attention people deign give me. I’m not like that and it creates a bit of conflict.
They expected him to keep me on a leash and when he didn’t, they said he was whipped and incapable of “thinking” when I’m not there to think for him.
Nowadays, very few of them have kept in contact with him (and it’s only been a few months since he last saw them), and those that have only ask him technical questions.
I hated that and it makes me feel soooo guilty. I can’t apologize about it either because he doesn’t get why I’m so sorry when I tell him so. He keeps saying that he’s had fun with the organising of parties and stuff but I really feel bad about those times where he was taking heat because I lived with him and created unrest.
It would make me feel better if he just pulled me in a hug and said “I don’t hate you for it/I’m not angry that you made my life more difficult” but I guess if he doesn’t get it, that ain’t gonna happen.
That being said, considering how we still spent time together and chat daily, the rational part of me knows that he isn’t angry for all of this (or if he resents me for it, it’s a 1% part of our friendship).
My BMF said that perhaps he needed someone to come home to. Same way he feels compelled to do his job so thoroughly, he would probably feel compelled to come home earlier/work a little less because leaving your girlfriend on her own at night to work late, day in, day out, is just not done.
Thanks. I feel a bit helpless though. I wish I understood WTF he’s working on and could help him with it. We’re not a couple (yet?) but it’s really a huge reward when he looks up from his work and gives me a big grin or we have time to watch movies and just chill out together.
He’s recently moved into his new place -well, 6 months ago now- and I’m making him a painting. Don’t know if this is a gift or a curse because he has to put it up because I made it :o and it’s not turned out the way I wanted… Ah well, I’m no Picasso, that’s fo sho.
And you’re saying this to the girl who spent 7 hours on the phone to her best (male, hetero, talkative) friend in one day because…? (Not to mention this extra long post)
Okay, brainless little Takh got herself robbed.
I’ve been working away from the city/so close to home I could walk for a long time now and I forgot the “rule of the road” for the subway which is:
Close your damn bag!
So someone lifted my precious makeup case out of my bag because being all leather and expensive looking, it was like a beautiful wallet. Apart from being pissed about this because it was a one-of-a-kind creation that I had received as a gift (so irreplaceable), it was also filled with the top of the crop of my Magic Make-up Bits.
Supposedly, everything is can be replaced. Except I have a really bad habit: I stock-pile what works for me and most of my favourites are discontinued things that I had to hunt down around the planet in order to get. So my favourite gloss that has just been discontinued? Gone-zo.
Not to mention that since I’m getting ready to travel, I had started to assemble my pheropack. The pheros I wanted to test are gone. MX283, 285, 286? Gone. MX135? Gone. IS/B that I wanted to use on TG on the plane to snuggle me, GONE. Ammo that I was going to gift to my BMF in need of an edge, gone. Fortunately, I’m messy enough that some of my To Gos were in the bag rather than the make-up case, so I have a few things left: MX106, MX282, 287, 284, IS/A, TAH, Instant shine with cops…
Although I’m grateful that it isn’t my camera or my phone or my actual wallet that’s gone, I’m so pissed, I could hunt down the scumbag who stole my stuff and exterminate them in a very painful way.
And now I’m worrying about not being able to report on the testpack after the Androtics team had been so nice to me about it…
What a way to start the day. I don’t think any amount of Instant Shine is going to lift the fact that I’m walking around with a dark cloud of “Angry” around me.
That is really bad. I am very sorry to hear about that. Something similar happened to my wife - she was so upset and angry. Part of me wished we could find the guy but part of me was glad we did not 'cause I need her around to help raise the kids and not in jail for doing unspeakable things to him …
I’m sorry to hear that. I don’t know what’s worse…loosing the makeup bag…the makeup…or the pheromones! Arrrgh! Just be glad that’s all he grabbed. And at least you still have some other goodies to play with.
Where I come from when someone steals from you, they have to learn to type with their nose.
Thanks guys! Definitely the bag… All the other stuff can be replaced with enough time and money.
Shall I sharpen the carving knives?
Anyways, I’ve been having a phero-less day today and so far, it’s turning out fine. I don’t know if it’s because I’m losing weight or what but I’m feeling really cute in the morning, as if waking up had come with an extra dose of Instant Shine.
TG’s been pretty nice so far, despite being really snowed under with work. He finished work at something like 5.30 AM earlier this week (starting around 9am the previous day)…
Can’t wait to go on holidays!
My wife feels really cute in the moring too - although sometimes she does not appreciate the feels … or did I misunderstand you? 
chuckle Oh you’re bad, BH, rrrreeeeeeeeaaaaaaalllllllllllllllllllll bad