Sometimes men can’t take a hint and don’t want to make a move for fear of screwing of things up.
Guilty!
Actually, we have been friends a long time, and that could be part of the hesitation b/c often times adding sex to a friendship can change things and sometimes not always for the better… if that makes any sense.
I have made the overt gesture, practically moletsted the poor guy!
I think the problem lies in his confidence, so maybe I need a pheromone I can wear that will help out HIS confidence? Is there such a thing?
He dated a MUCH younger woman recently, and I get the sense that she probably destroyed his confidence. I’m younger than he is, but not as young as this other obviously immature woman who didn’t know what she had, and maybe that is still holding him back. I don’t know, that might be a question one of the guys could answer, but I’m guessing the male ego can be a pretty fragile thing in this area?.. I’ll try your suggestions although I’m not good at the being cold part.
Or being rejected and embarrassed? I think this is part of it, too… BUT I’m giving off ALL the signals and making plenty of moves that let him know he will NOT be rejected OR embarrassed.
I was wondering if there is a pheromone I could wear to give HIM more confidence to ‘get on with it already!’? 
I’m hoping there is nothing that will spoil our friendship either! Maybe he’s worried that ‘going there’ will? I guess that can happen, but I don’t see it happening here in any scenario.
Overt gestures have been made, he HAS to know how much I want him by now!.. I mean, men know that kind of thing, right? You CAN tell, can’t you?
I think a youngster rattled/crushed his confidence so maybe I need a pheromone that I can wear that will also boost HIS confidence. Is there such a thing?
I’ll try the reward/punish suggestion, b/c I’m desperate for ANYthing to work at this point, but I’m not good at playing out the ‘being cold’ part.
Maybe you can give him a massage with oil that has pheromones added to it. Have some nice scented candles to set the mood. Victoria’s Secret has a little kit called “I’m in The Mood- Sweet Craving”. It comes with candles, lotion, massage oil, and a little bottle of perfume. It smells a lot like Angel. It is on sale for $10. If your man likes the scent of chocolate, this stuff is great!
I think i remember reading somthing a long time ago, about cops being able to increase mens confindence, im not 100% sure about it though.
After you’ve exhausted every conceivable option, simply stick your tongue down his throat and start ripping his clothes off. If he won’t close then, he probably never will or there is some weird stipulation you aren’t aware of.
Get Essence of Woman from Love Scent, Instant Sexiness A, and Instant Shine. Put lots of Essence of Woman on your forearms, neck, and cleavage. Since he likes chocolate, cover with a chocolatey perfume. Two sprays each of Instant Sexiness A and Instant Shine in your hair.
Then get into a play fight with him. Figure out physical ways to get into his space and mess with him, and kind of dare him to respond. For example: ask him what time it is. When he tells you, tell him it can’t be that late or whatever and reach for his wrist and undo his watch. Try to get the watch away from him. Do this repeatedly. If you get it off his wrist, put it on your wrist and playfully refuse to give it back. You can see where this is going. 
You want to provoke a wrestling match of some kind. (I know this “play fight” method works because I’ve used it successfully on a guy who is normally pretty repressed.)
Good luck!
Kitten
Well if it were me I would just flat out ask him. Next time your together just hanging out and talking say something like. “Have you ever thought about you and I having sex?” do it in a curious tone not a asking to tone.
This way you can gage his reaction without actually asking him to have it and if he is not interested in you that way you can still salvage your friendship by just saying you were curious.
I would wear Instant Honesty and IS/A and maybe some EOW when I asked.
Also I think the ladies need to find a pheromone that evokes Trust and comfort when men are exposed to it. Kind of like Instant Female Magic we need a Instant Male Magic. There is the above mention of Liquid Trust but I am not sure how well it works on women. More of us need to get are hands on this product and test it. Anyone have any picks when it would come to Androtics for this kind of reaction ?
Tisha
Tisha, you do have a point. Sometimes nothing beat being up front, and then taking it from there. One thing that I’ve learned, is like that guy said in the book " He Is Just not That Into You", is even if you do manage to get him to have sex, if what you want is a relationship, it still will not happen. No amount of pheromones, or voodoo, works because people have free will.
I’ve been reading on here that EST is the Instant Female Magic for men, but I haven’t used it so I can’t comment.
Gotta save up the reward points for that one, since it doesn’t come in a TO GO…and even if it did, I’d have trouble affording the 30 mL.
I’ve just ordered this. I was hoping to try it on my grumpy boss - who would have been brilliant testing material for this.
Unfortunately, that would be possible because after certain revelations, of which I was utterly unaware, were made to me last week [courtesy of Instant Honesty] I have had no alternative but to quit my boss’s team. In effect I have fired him and am going to another team because I can’t trust him and, in my line, I can’t work with someone I can’t trust in the slightest any more or someone who has no loyalty to me, or respect for me whatsoever - all behind my back of course.
However, I will try to find someone else to test it on.
In the meantime I need to work out a killer mix for the meeting we all are having about this next week. Any suggestions? I think he is going to try to block me from going to the team I want to go to - as he despises the guy that runs it.
Best
May
Wow, I’m really sorry to hear that, May.
This explains why an attractive female friend of mine, 8 years ago, saw a new ring I was wearing, tackled me, tore it off my hand, made a toe ring out of it, and refused to give it back.
Back then, I didn’t get why she did it.
I didn’t realize she WANTED me to wrestle with her. Believe me, there’s nothing I would have liked more, I just didn’t know she would have been ok with it. So I was just annoyed with her and with my desire to use her tactics to get it back. 
She should have then said to my dense self, “Take it back. See if you can do it in less than 5 minutes. I dare you.”
Cheers,
Quicksilver
P.S. That was advice, masquerading as a personal experience.
May, definitely go for MX134 if you have it. And add a little bit of Shine. If not, definately go with something TAL heavy. It will up your confidence, and make them see you as strong and capable.
Thanks Dolly,
I’ve got turn up the heat as well.
I was thinking of MX134 based perhaps a few drops of Turn Up The Heat with about 100 - 150 mcg mcg of tal and loads of Instant honesty with a smidge of 134 under the nostrils to keep me cool and counteract the Honesty’s self-effects.
How much shine? I don’t have much left until the big bottle arrives but I am hoarding everything for Tuesday!
Hugs
May
I have ordered Instant Sexiness, Instant Honesty, and Lust After Me to start with. I was worried about getting the EoW since I am so new. It sounded a little tricky to get started with.
I’m not going to be able to see Charming for another couple of weeks, but I figured this would give me a chance to do some testing beforehand so I will have an idea of how much of each to wear by that time… well, maybe except for the Lust After Me. I should probably save that for Charming alone… unless it’s okay to ‘test’ that out as well. I just don’t want to be irresponsible about that one b/c from what I’ve read it seems to be pretty effective.