I’ve been playing with one of new products a bit.
Instant Shine is the product from Androtics I’ve been using. Since Instant Sexiness B, TAH, and MX135 (Jasmin had a great, fun post about this product) are all out of stock, I decided to take the plunge and ordered Pheromax and Scent of Eros.
I tend to be a bit of a chatty Cathy, but I’ve noticed that when wearing Instant Shine I am more chatty, it lifts my mood (which has been a bit foul the last few months due to the evils of grad school and lack of sleep – we’re talking like 48-72 hours of NO sleep on top of the constant lack of sleep every night.) Those around me seem to also chat, smile, and even laugh more which is most noticeable in my interactions with individuals generally in a hurry, e.g., cashiers. Overall I like the effect, especially the mood lift. 2-3 sprays seems to do the trick. I’ve ordered a larger bottle since I like it so much!
I’ve also tested Pheromax (PM) (1 spray to the back of my neck) and Scent of Eros (SE) (rolled along my wrists and about 2” of my forearm) two times on top of the Instant Shine. Both times were evenings I saw the man I’ve been dating for the last 10 months. I’ve only seen this gent twice in two months because I asked for a break from the very serious and difficult conversations about the future of our relationship during my last month of classes which rolled into two moths due to our mutually busy schedules.
The first time IS didn’t seem to make him more chatty than usual (he’s a chatty Carl). Though we’ve never had any problems in the chemistry dept. I decided I wanted more ammunition to help us get through this rough patch. Though the horizontal pokey has been off the menu as we try to figure out our future, the chemistry was very high but I can’t be sure if it was charged more from our time apart or from the products.
The second time, I used all three products the same way, in addition to 1 spray to the air in my living room and kitchen (we were getting together to have the “big talk” and I wanted all the help I could get to relieve what I anticipated to be some fairly tense and difficult conversations. ) Instant Shine made chatty Carl even more chatty, I swear he talked non-stop for more than an hour. For me, well it made receiving some difficult information less difficult and I was successfully able to remain open and did not become defensive.
The PM and SE also seemed to heighten the chemistry but again, I can’t be sure if the time apart, the products or the combination were more responsible for this. I did want to remind him of one of the many reasons why things (up until the last few months anyway) work so well between us which is why I used PM and SE. And we’ve always been great at communicating but the IS seemed to really help in this case.
Unfortunately, hp may be removed from our relationship for a while as it seems our break was, at least for him, a time to explore with other women and I am not a woman who has ever been able to manage an intimate relationship that is not exclusive or monogamous. While our issues are not resolved it’s at least everything is out in the open now.
I do have a couple of questions:
Is it really fair to be using these products during our rough patch? I suspect that there will be a few more heavy duty conversations in the near future and the help would be great but am I really playing fairly by employing this help?
When you tell a man you can’t manage an intimate relationship that is not exclusive or monogamous are you really giving him a choice?
By initiating a heavy duty kiss fest after conversation two did I remind him that our intense chemistry (emotional and physical) and ability to communicate openly can get us through this rough patch or did I send a contradictory message about what I can manage. (I initiated the kiss fest to determine if I still had strong emotional feelings for him, (I do) I had missed him during our break, and though he delivered crapy news it didn’t change my feelings for him and to communicate I would remain open to possibilities.)
My studies made me a stress ball and nut job, zapped my confidence, and turned me into a needy woman that I didn’t even recognize (and I’m sure he didn’t either – we’ve know each other for years.) A few weeks without classes and activities to return balance and structure to my life I feel my old self returning. My gents own complicated story (VERY recently divorced with custody share) in addition to my own spinning may be too late to save this romantic relationship, but I can say, without a doubt, that the products have been helpful, at least for me.