Ok buddy, I am here to help. 
You are 31, good looking, just have a problem striking a solid connection that lasts.
I am going to skip the normal “What type and age of woman do you want” and dive into the meat, as plenty of other users can advise on solid blends that have been used hundreds of times.
You intimidate women. If you are considered “Hot” by women they already are intimidated. When you use IG you are so Alpha than men bend over for you. I do not think that being Alpha is the problem. If it were, a dab of A314 under your nose for self effects is enough to make you congruent,. But this will further isolate you from who you are after.
To meet a gal, you need a Hook. A hook is something which sets you apart from other guys. Yours may be your looks. If you can approach a woman, get her to respond and get some relationships, you know how to do this dance.
Then you need to connect. If your long term relationships fails, you are never connecting.
Mone wise, you have two options for a ‘crush’ effect. A1 and MX412 give you a crush effect on a physical level. A1 can lead to depression in some men, so be wary. Then you have the crush effect from socials, P74 and IH. They give off the boyfriend vibe quick. It can be friend zone, but your actions can dictate other wise.
How to be Alpha? How to stay outside the friend zone? All in the same. Touch, leading, intentions. Hug, hold hands, and push the envelope physically quick. Lead her, make her know you are the man and in charge. Direct her. And your intentions. Stay on your purpose. If she wants to talk about something negative or friendly, change the topic. She knows that 9/10 guys who approach want something, she is not stupid. So do not beat around the bush.
Small talk kills early stage interactions. It goes from non-personal to personal to sexual topics. So first is weather, then is where does she live, and third is how was her first sexual experience.
If you ramp up the touching and your subject matter for conversation, you will not get friend zones, she will know your intentions and you will be Alpha for doing so.
If you do all this, you still will not have a connection. You can lead, get her hooked, have attraction, and she may want to sleep with you. P74 and IH establish a primal connection. With leading and the P74, IH combo, P83 could be priceless, she will be attracted and act.
But we still have a commitment issue. An intimidation issue. MX297, that you enjoy, could help. It has top notch self effects, is Beta-like to me (Not Alpha male), and party-esque. But 297 can give off the clown vibe and rides the fine line between best friend. All girls would love a friend who is fun, but odds are they do not want to marry “that guy” per se.
I love MX297, if you approach, and are Alpha it can be steered. A far as relationships go, I am in a relationship that plans to end when she goes cross-country back to school, and on my end it is open. She is only seeing me, and she knows I am looking around because she is leaving. I wear 297 around her (Note, drinking plus 297 get you hammered quickly) and we have a load of fun. Its a self amused blend. When I go out, to bars, or clubs, my entire premise is self amused, always has been. So MX297 is PERFECT for me.
I would NEVER wear MX297 during the day, I am busy, women are busy, they do not have time to chat with the fun guy. But they do have time to chat with the direct, Alpha man.
If at bars or clubs you are not the self amused guy, I would not advise MX297. It is not congruent. It will off put your intimidation, but at what cost?
So you go out at night, are Alpha, women already are intimidated. You need socials for women under 30, for over 35 you are good to go with some Ammo.
MX297 is the ultimate social mix, but as aforementioned is iffy for you. I would without a doubt go for IH and P74 as your connection mix. Add it to any attraction molecule (P75, Ammo, Summer Ammo, TuTH, ect) and you are good to go.
Establishing the connection is not enough. You need to feed this river water. Early stages you work on standing out, attraction. Once you have that you jump into what in the PUA world they call comfort.
What is the most effective way to solidify a connection? A compliment. Plain and simple. Compliment something unique to her. Her aura, a birthmark, a unique sense of fashion. Something non-physical. Boom, its another hook, that shows her you are interested.
Layer on IH/P74 with a steady way to solidify a connection and you are in.
Now we handle the last issue, the long-term relationship. Comfort, letting herself be who she wants to be. Sadly, PUA material does not help much, nor can I offer a wealth of knowledge, I am only 21. I do know I had a girlfriend want to marry me after 6 months, I had to break up with her because I was too young, and she moved too quick.
How did I hook her? Simple, really. For one, I always tease, cat and mouse if you will. Second, I compliment when she would generally impress me or make me happy. Third, I established that and why I needed her, and vice versa. And fourth, we openly discussed just about everything.
For one, I teased her religiously. This is why we cant have nice things, was that supposed to be a joke, thats cuts my little sister does it the same way, ect. Always being a bit sarcastic to keep her on her toes and interested.
Two is easier. If she does something nice for me, I compliment. In fact, I was open on things I did not like, and complimented what I did. Honest communication and she knew she was appreciated.
Three is natural. You can find something you have and she doesnt (A car, knowledge, a job) which many guys do, or do it the natural way. Plain and simple you are a man and she is a woman. She needs you and you need her. You are Alpha, strong, masculine, she is feminine, beta, and weak. You need her as much as she needs you. Establish these roles early and ensure you two are equals.
Fourth is what I would call the third date syndrome. First couple dates are fun and light. Third you two decide if you have substance to continue the relationship. I continue to expand on date three. We talk as much about our hopes, dreams, and past as much as what is going on in the moment. This was HUGE because it makes her realize you are a person, a regular person. A normal guy. It removes the intimidation and the stand-off vibe women may feel.
Lets bring this home, Mones are great but are the icing on the cake. You must be congruent with them. They help set a good first impression, so the P74 and IH crush mix is perfect to establish the connection. You need to keep the fire going always. Once you are in a relationship, keeping it dynamic is key. Tease, joke, compliment, and connect. Making a solid bond and giving her a reason to date you (Not friend) is hard. But most great relationships include a friendship within them.
Good luck mate, and other questions I would be glad to field as well.