While I know that this topic has been discussed here and there over the years, I thought it would be good for our newer members to look through this and discuss. Also, it’s helpful to have a better understanding of how social values come into play with respect to how pheromones can affect any particular person. I’ve seen a lot of people say “for Asians, use this mix.” The problem is that there is an important need for clarification here. An incorrect assumption is being inferred by our newer members that the ethnicity is the main reason for using such a mix when it would be more accurate to say that the culture of said ethnicity is more critical. That is not to say that physiology does not come into play. As I am not a physician, I can not make any statement saying that there is a definitive physiological connection between pheromone mixes and ethnicities. It is my theory that the reason why such mixes are not always effective on a particular ethnicity is that the cultural and social values that the target has been raised with, take precedence over physiological predispositions.
On a more basic level, the social/cultural environment that a person is raised in, will have a greater impact on how they will react to pheromone signatures. Meaning that just because a black woman is assumed to be more receptive to a higher none signature, does not mean that ALL black women will react the same. What would make us assume that a black woman would be more inclined to a higher none signature than say, an Asian? How do we mold our personalities? We learn from what we see. If we have a family that is high aggression and intensity, then we learn that is the norm. Freud once assumed that we marry our parents. Perhaps there is some truth to that. We look for what we know and what we know comes from who raised us. My preferences have been towards women of higher class, intelligence, artistic inclinations, etc. This is because I was initially raised in a higher class family with higher class values. What changed for me was at the age of ten, my family lost everything. This didn’t change who I was as a person or how my parents thought, but it did require me and my sister to learn humility. Now if I were raised in a highly aggressive environment, one that shows that aggression is the norm, it could be inferred that I would have leanings either towards another woman who is as aggressive as myself or demure, passive.
So how does this play into our use of pheros? If you’re looking for a shotgun approach, IE, going to a club and seeing who will respond, then a more well rounded mix, appropriate for a physically and emotionally intense approach will be needed. If you’re going on a date with a particular person, then what is important if you’re looking for a particular outcome, is to focus more on who they are as a person, their personality, their quirks, etc. Is the person demure, aggressive, sleazy? Does he/she come from a socially conservative background? One with a strict and severe family? Or do they come from an aggressively charged family/background? IE, the inner city where aggressive is the norm, the strong tend to survive, the weak perish type of mentality. If that’s the case, then a higher none signature would be useful, also providing that you can remain congruent to your signature. Remember that when you wear pheros otherwise your body language will override what the pheros say and will actually work against you. Also, wearing a higher none signature around a woman whom was raised in a less aggressive environment “Might” put them off. I stress might because as is the case, there are always extremes on either end and variables that can’t always be accounted for.
Hopefully I still have your attention here so I end with some tips to keep in mind when figuring out what will work best with a particular person or group.
- Observe how they dress. Style of clothing will tell you a lot about how a person is. A more conservative style of dress could indicate that Instant Jerk may not be the best option.
- How a person holds themselves. Body language is very important. A person who walks with slightly hunched shoulders, looks down or doesn’t make eye contact could be an indication of social anxiety or confidence issues. Enhancing with more socials would be better, coming off as aggressive might not be a good idea, the person could be scared off by such a vibe.
- How a person talks. Yes, the way a person talks, the inflections they use, the tone of their voice, their grammatical skills, these can give clues as to how a person behaves, or might react.
As I have said, these are just my observations but I’m reminded of my days at film school when studying film theory. Film theory is the psychology behind film and the essence of film theory is this: “Everything in film is done so for a reason. Set design, costumes, lighting, angles, positioning of the actors.” We’re in a area of research that requires us to be more observant of how people react towards pheromones. Instead of just focusing on how they react, observe how they are as a person. Getting a gauge of what they might be like as a person can help achieve better results. Obviously we can’t always do this but the main thing I’m trying to get at is don’t just slap something on and hope for the best. Observe other’s for their reactions, tailor to suite the needs, observe how you are as a person and make sure to remain congruent with your signature.