What Are Vibes?
By the time you finish reading this section you’ll know a big misconception most men have about vibing and understand why this misconception prevents them from vibing with women.
These days we normally think of emotions or moods as inner psychological states.
Take love, hate, anger, sadness… or any other emotion you fancy.
We feel these emotions on the inside, right?
Well, not according to the ancient Greeks. They had a different conception of moods. They believed we find ourselves in inside of moods. According to them, moods color our world. In fact, their Gods were personifications of these moods.
For example, they believed when the Goddess Aphrodite appears, everyone is inside of an erotic mood. Eroticism takes everyone over.
There’s even remnants of this Greek conception in our culture. When referring to romantic love, most women don’t say, “I feel a lot of love towards him.”
Instead they say, “I’m in love with him.”
In other words, they are inside of love.
If you’ve ever perused a romance novel, you probably noticed that when a woman is in love, her whole world is colored by the mood: Food taste different, things look different, music sounds different… and so on.
Naturals Intuitively Understand Vibes In The Same Way The Ancient Greeks Understood Moods.
They don’t deny for a second that we have inner psychological states – such as, happiness and sadness. They’d even concede that changing a woman’s psychological state is an important part of seduction.
But there’s something far more important than inner emotions when it comes to attracting women: Vibes.
A vibe is not something created inside us but something we find ourselves inside of.
When you and a woman are sharing a vibe and you feel those warm fuzzies, you might think it is something that comes from the inside. But actually it happens from the outside in. It’s the affect of the vibe taking you over.
Big warning: I’m not talking about anything mystical or spiritual.
Instead…
A Vibe Is An External Blueprint That Directs Our Attention At Certain Things While Taking It Off Others… Guides Our Perceptions & Actions… And Determines What Matters To Us Most In That Moment.
Think of a group of girls in a “laughing and joking” vibe. Within that vibe, their focus of attention is on the humor in everything. This is what matters most to them in that moment. And they sustain the vibe by laughing and joking.
If you approached them by asking a question about the existential meaning of life, you’d probably get one of two responses:
Either they’d perceive your question from within the vibe by laughing at you…
… Or they’d interpret you as killing the fun vibe they’re in and ask you to leave.
This brings up an important point most guys don’t get: You cannot change a woman’s vibe if you’re not inside the vibe she’s in.