I haven’t been using phers since like September or August when I ran out. IS/A leaked out once and since I haven’t really used it ever since. The Target guy finally gave me his phone number like 2 weeks ago on his own since his dept moved far from my side and I barely ever see them. I text him once to ask him to save my number but in two weeks he didn’t even bother to text me, not even for my bday which was Dec 17.
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So, on Xmas Eve, he decided to text me around 8:30PM. I was shocked since I had lost all hope. After texting back and forward for like 2 hours he decided to come to my house pick to me up, and he met my mother, my aunt and a friend of the family. We went out to a local bar had a few drinks and just talk.
After we got back home we stayed outside talking for like 45 minutes. We hugged when he left… and that is it really.
Then he text me to let me know he arrived to his house safely.
Sounded like the building of a meaningful relationship to me. If thats not what you’re looking for, than let him down gently and walk away. But from the sound of it.. looks like the guy respects you.
Hi John Sebastian, he really did behave like a total gentleman. I enjoyed his company very much. We talked about many, many different things. When we got to the bar we were ordering I asked tequila since that is my drink of choice. He said " are you sure you can drink that because your mother entrusted you to me." He told me jokes and many things about himself. It was awesome and almost magical to an extent. I spent Christmas eve with an awesome person that I have been crushing on for like 6 months and he was the one letting me down all this time. I could not believe it. He told me so much personal stuff, it was awesome. But I have not heard of him ever since. Idk what happened. I texted him today saying hello… and have not heard from him. I mean, the christmas eve night he was at his house 27 miles north and he came all the way to my house to get me and meet my fam and I thought that was super cool. And then I haven’t heard of him, like wtf. Seriously I been crushing on this dude for ever. …and it was like a Mirage that disappeared. O, o I wonder if I did anything wrong.
Maybe he was just bored that day, or maybe he expected to get something and he didn’t soooo…
At least I thought it was a cool night to hang out, but I dont think by no means that it was a date per say. Eh, I thought that hanging out like that was definitely an ice breaker. :-X It wasn’t.
This guy seems to like you. No man is going to drive all that way on Christmas Eve to spend time with someone he doesn’t like and for men “like” pretty much equals attraction. Much can grow from like and attraction.
I just get the feeling he is a bit anxious and maybe unsure of himself. He doesn’t know how to escalate whats between you and he is struggling with that. You see the men talk about it all the time in the mens forum all the time. Its not easy for every guy. When it comes to relationships every one has there own comfort level and speed.
I suggest when you do see him to use lots of comfort mones over some of the sexier ones.
For instance if it were me I would …
If I was trying to him to move into a relationship with me…
Instant sexiness, IH, Est maybe a little P103 or P93 if you can get your hands on that. I would drops hints about getting together to do something outside of work. Flirt mildly, use open and interested body language.
If I wanted him to make a move sexually and I know he is anxious and a bit skittish like your target I would use…
2 or 3 drops of copulins (which is the really low end of my dosage) If I am looking for more sexual response I tend to wear 5 to 8 drops. If I am looking to Spackle the walls around 10. You would have to adapt this to your dosage range.
Then I would cover with lots of IH and EST. Maybe a little P83
Then I would mirror him and use some very mild kino when I see him in a environment where others are around. When I was alone I would escalate the kino a little. You have to learn to do this in a way that signals without coming off a overt. Then after I created and built that tension I would let him catch me looking at his crotch a few times and that usually does it.
The mones are going to help but you have to work with them.
I have told him. This is an on going situation since like August. The thing about this dude is that he is a supervisor. :-X
So he is aware that I like him. Very aware. But when I told him he was hot there were talks about me becoming one of his agents. (I wasn’t aware of it until later). Later on that week I found out that I was almost transferred to his dept and I was almost going to be in his team.
He shut me down like twice. Even at one point he told me “There is nothing ever going to go on more than this friendship here. No more than that” I was like"OH OK!" lol I dont really insist or ask questions or be like ohh wwwwhhhyy…I just be like ok… sooo this is one weird dude and by “Friendship here” he meant work.
So if you’ve been following this since August like Tish… You’d be aware that I sometimes stop talking to him for different reasons ( to avoid making him uncomfortable, people talking, or for me… because i like him a lot so sometimes I avoid talking to him to see if I can stop liking him) When I do, he kinda starts to talk to me. He grabs my attention. Sometimes he will be mean to me. Sometimes he will be chatty. He is like a on a constant shuffle… you never know what track he would land on.
When we hung out at the bar he even told me that sometimes I look like I want to kill him, and that I breath hard —smile and turn back and leave.. He says I applaud you for that because sometimes you look like you want to kill me and you play it off well. This is not an easy target because he varies in behaviour.
The other day I asked him for a favor to a open the door for the corporate level because I was supposed to be in a meeting but my badge doesn’t open corporate doors. He walked me to the meeting room but by the time I got there no one was there, so we were walking back on this empty hallway and I said “So, can I ask you a question” and he smiled and said “Yea…I am still single”. That threw me off from what I was gonna’ ask him to begin with. I was like WTF. I think he likes having my attention, or leading me on but thats it. SMH this guy kills me.
I think he’s as much as said that he risks his job dating a possible direct report. Meaning, most companies have policies against someone being romantic with a person who reports to them as a supervisor.
Yes some companies do. But even though I have been at risk to being placed under his management, I have managed to avoid being sent to his dept. I told him once at work that he would never have the pleasure of having me in his team. Lol
And when we went out last week on xmas eve he asked me why I don’t want to be under his management. I jus said that I didn’t want him as a supervisor. He said “you don’t want to see me in that light.” I have only been at risk of being under his management but never actually been in under his management. Most he has done was when I was training that I trained with him 2 days straight when he was on my dept before he became a manager.
I think this is a job for IO and IH, about three sprays of each to the wrists. That may get him to blurt out the undisclosed reason for resistance. Works on women just fine.
I have texted a couple of times with him, he goes by my desk when he is in my department. But the super nice guy side of him that texted me on xmas eve is not the same way he texts me now, now he does it but its kinda douchy , playful, kinda weird funny perverted… but he barely texts me though. Its whatever, I really like him but im gonna leave that guy alone. I think I have become his ‘lil homie with no nuts’, that gentle man aspect I liked became like an act he is so weird now. Idk what happened
