Hi all, long post coming up. Congratulations if you get to the end!
I am a 42 year old man from England living in a celibate marriage. I have taken up mones in an effort to support the intimacy and communication my marriage needs.
A beginner, I have been wearing mones for the last 11 days and combined this with lots of research on the forums - so far I have scanned and read through most of the posts in the most recent 326 pages of the Men’s Tricks and Tips Board 
Perhaps this diary will cover ground not covered often elsewhere - the progress of my marriage back towards intimacy with a helpful nudge from mones. Or perhaps it will demonstrate the limits of mones…we shall see!
Background
I have been in a sexless marriage for six years, since the birth of our second child. It doesn’t take Sherlock Holmes to work out the connection between these two things but truth be told my wife has never been particularly interested in sex. In fact she seems to be fearful of the vulnerability inherentin sexual closeness.
I’m communicative and tactile by nature and have attempted to talk things through many times without luck. I have kissed, massaged, stroked and otherwise devoted hundreds of hours to relaxing and encouraging her to be intimate. All with no result, I haven’t even seen her naked in all this time.
Before you think I must look like Ron Jeremy without his easy charm, I’m physically fit and look more than presentable. If I was intent on having an affair I could have one tomorrow. But that’s not what I want, hence the mones.
Conjecture
I have spent so much time trying to work out the reasons for this situation. If I can understand why she isn’t interested perhaps there is a chance to improve things. Also, the success of mones depends on understanding the problem and finding the right mone mix/associated congruence to make it all work together. I believe the following cover most of the possible reasons for her lack of interest in sex (all in the absence of her views because she won’t talk about it):
- General low sex drive
- She gives all her energy and affection to our children
- A hormonal imbalance
- She isn’t comfortable with her body
- She finds vulnerability and intimacy difficult
- She (subconsciously) finds me a good, sensitive provider but this doesn’t make for sexual attraction and heat
- Some other unresolved issue between the two of us (and which I’m not aware of)
Where Congruence Comes In
Two weeks ago I ordered some A314, AS and TUTH, not really knowing what I was doing. I have also received P102 and P130 as togo freebies (much appreciated)
As I have tried these out and read hundreds of posts on the forum I have come to a new appreciation of the subtlety inherent in mones use and effectiveness.
I now believe them to be a creative way of addressing personal development. The key isn’t to find a magic pill but to help you understand yourself and other people at a much deeper level and change behaviours more permanently than a spray and go will ever do.
The short time I have been using mones has shown me they work but not quite in the way sometimes portrayed. I’m not by nature a dominant male despite looking very masculine, and I’m finding living with the mone imprint an inspiration to be more assertive and congruent with the signals I’m giving out.
My Mones Experiences So Far
I have variously used A314, IS and P102 and P130 in small doses and various combinations at both work and home. I have used TUTH in small doses at home.
A314 - already the absolute cornerstone of everything. As a non-dominating man with a strong identification with the feminine I have found (mostly female) responses very interesting. At work (a feminine environment) some older female colleagues have sought to keep my attention, extend conversations and otherwise respond positively. I put this down to the A314 as being consistent with other reports. Self effects - noticeable, more assertiveness and confidence. However some of this may be confidence from knowing I’m wearing the mone. At home my wife was first ill and then on her period so things have been slow to get going. However I have noticed a certain ‘softness’ in her response, a greater wish to be cuddled and inhaling happily from my neck and upper chest for long, pleasant seconds.
IS - I have used this mainly together with A314 and haven’t perceived very obvious results although I suspect the two are working well together. My wife has made a couple of comments that indicate IS has changed something in my way of carrying myself and the aura I give. People do seem cheerful around me but I’m not certain about whether IS is the reason.
TUTH - I’ve been cautious with this - it has had no impact on my wife so far probably because of her period. She is entering her fertile period now so I’ll try it again…however I remain uncertain because it a lot hinges on the reasons for her sexual disinterest. If she has a psychological barrier or just doesn’t desire me TUTH may just scare her off. I will continue to major on the socials and A314.
P102 and P130 - not yet experienced enough to know hits for these but will pay them more attention when the novelty of the consumer line wears off.
Next Steps
I have IH and P83 on order and will introduce them to the mix. I now appreciate the importance of the socials and really believe IH will be very important to open up the communication between us, I’m really excited about that.
My wife is already much more open to physical affection with the mones but I don’t want sex before we crack the communication side of things. If the communication comes first and naturally leads to sex she will associate the two things in that order and understand that communication and intimacy come first.
In the longer term I can already sense how mones can shape both my perceptions and those of others but also that if I rely on mones alone it will ultimately be hollow and ineffective. Now I can see that perceptions can be changed I will work first on my congruence and hope that eventually these changed perceptions will become second nature.
Apologies for the mad length of this post. I hope to write a new (shorter) entry every few days, thanks for reading so far!
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