Hi my name is Mike, age 43 male & my wife is 50 , I live in SE Michigan
About me:
I’m kind of a shy type person and find it hard to make conversation with people I don’t know, or a loss for words with people I do know. I find myself to be the wall flower type in large groups and hard to mingle with other new people and generally stick with people I do know.
Why I’m here:
I was on a site reading about a pheromone-based fragrances and wanted to read some reviews if they work or not and came across this site. I have read quite a bit and now very intrigued.
My hopes:
Start out slow, I really don’t want to spend a lot of money to start out but like to improve in this order.
More sex, like have my wife more interested in sex, I have to be the one to initiate sex all of the time (that’s ok I do get some), looking for something to get her in the mood more easily and or hot & horny, I would wish for more on the hot & horny part. (Isn’t that always the case)
To be able to talk to people better I don’t know
3.from a different page on this site: Some of us also get into pheromones without much interest in the science itself, but instead for practical sexual and social purposes, not to mention basic curiosity.
Some questions:
1.Now as for cologne type pheromone-based fragrances do they work ok? I really don’t want my wife to know wright away. I don’t want to influence it by having her know , not to like lye but see what effects that would might have on her.
Would this be a bad idea if my wife did not know?
3.This is the product the got me here: Lure - For Him, the only ingredient that I can find for this states, attractant alpha-androstenolLure - For Him, is this any good? I have not seen any reviews good or bad and wanted to try it out because I can get at a loco store, you know how people are, got to have it now. Although would like to try some products from this site as well.
For your sex with wife, I suggest TUTH. It can sexually arouse her and spice up your sx life. I think it is ok to tell her about pheromones. It is not for bad intention after all.
For social, try IO. It can make people want to talk to you. It can make you more approachable.
There are many fake pheromones but you can trust pheromones from Androtics here.
You’ve told us about yourself and what you are after in terms of objectives with using phero’s…that’s great, it helps when recommending products to try
If you’re shy and find talking to people difficult then I’d recommend somthing like Instant Openness…It’s social phero that makes you and those around you more relaxed and chatty. It increases the quantity of communication.
Another one of my favourites is Instant Shine…It’s a brilliant all rounder that has great self effects boosting mood and confidence. It also gives you a happy, youthful and approachable vibe. It’s great as a starter phero and works well on its own or in combos.
If you want to spice things up with the wife you can always try something like Turn Up The Heat. It’s a very sexual phero tough, so best used for spicing things up in the bedroom or when going out on the pull. Another product that many of the guys here swear by (especally the married ones) is Instant Female Magic…It’s relaxing, calming and works wonders on PMS etc.
I’d recommend that you check out Diamond and Bosshank, they have a lot of great posts on how to improve things with the wife…Have a look at their profiles (they have links to some great threads there)
As for telling the wife…that’s up to you. She may notice something is different straight away, or it may take a while for her to react to the phero’s…that’s because she’s used to your natural phero signature… Be patient and I’m sure things will improve
Hope that helps! Looking forward to reading about your phero adventures!
Good to have you here in Pherotalk Welcome It is great that you found this forum due to your research about pheros there
Ok it seems the others have give their recommendation in which i will give mine as well Ok for your situation, i recommend you get Instant Shine as it will help deal with your shyness & it boost your self confidence there, IO as this phero will be an ice breaker in conversations & it will make your conversations more smoother, better & longer & TUTH with Instant Honesty as these two will help make your relationship much more intimate & closer
Since you say you don’t want to spend a lot on pheros here on a first try, why not try getting them in togo bottles as they are cheaper & easy to carry around
If you start out with the little to-go bottles you can try several things to find out what works for you without spending a bunch of money.
The Wife: Start out easy. She knows what your natural pheromone, natural scent signature is. Too much of a difference, all of a sudden, can have her backing away in suprise. A little bit of Female Magic will help her relax and open up. Up the dose one spray at time. When she notices the scent back off one spray. Some guys swear by it during PMS.
Then add Turn Up The Heat. This one is about pure animalistic sex. Up the dose one spray at a time. By the time she notices, she won’t care. After a couple of rounds, then tell her about it. She’ll probably end up wanting to use the womens versions to get you cranked up.
Probably not a good idea to wear out in public at first.
Socials, to wear in public: Instant Gentleman, as name suggests, gets friendly respect. Instant Shine, smiles and happiness all around.
The best thing you can do is to read the stickies. These are the treads at the top of each section. Stickies will make all of this alot easier for you.
as Xiphoid mentioned earlier, there are a couple of threads that may give you some help and guidance, the first is my journal, linked from my signature block below, The second, and far more important and valuable is bosshank’s married guys thread, also linked below here.
One thing I’ve learnt, don’t expect miracles. Your wife subconsciously knows your pheromone signature. any reaction to a change will either be instant and major or, more likely, a case of small steps over several weeks or even months. You will most likely see reactions from other people long before you notice a change in the wife. Keep at it, it’s worth the effort.
As for telling the wife, I did after a couple of months, my wife now uses the pheromones herself in the workplace and they have done her self esteem no harm at all.
A good place to begin for you is with the socials. I suggest either IH or IO for you.
IH is for more deep conversation and connection and IO is more for a chatty casual openness.
Ishine would be my next choice, Its youthful confident charismatic and draws people to you. Ever meet a person you just hit it off with right away, well that the Ishine vibe.
Now to arouse your wife I suggest TUTH. Keep in mind that you would use this when you are home together and want to spice things up. Dont use it at work or at church or something. it doesn’t go over big there because it sends a strong sexual signal.
IFM is out of stock and will be for a while. Xiphoid made a great suggestion there though so keep it in mind for later when its back.
Be sure to check out both BH and Diamond links in their signature. A lot of great info for the married men there.
Its better she doesn’t know right away. This way you can get a accurate reading of what the product will do. They come with a built in cover of neroli which is nice and fresh once it drys down. You can cover with any cologne you want but you dont have to. She may smell the cologne but not the mones those effect the subconscious mind.
Lure for him is not real strong. Its not your top of the line phero but its not the worst either. If your looking for more of a Cologne type of product skip TUTH for now and get AMMO which smells yummy on a man. Its in its own cologne cover and is mildly arousing.
Now keep in mind they have to-go size bottles so you can get 2 different products almost free if you use the $ 5 in points you get for signing up to the smartmones site and your $25 GC.
