Hey you’re not suppose to know that! Why are we sneaky? Back to the old equation…so HE will chase.
Not that you know of. For instance, I will tell a guy I don’t want kids. That could mean I don’t want kids …now, or I do want kids with his genes…or I don’t want to scare him…another trap. But if the guy says he doesn’t want kids ever, he is on the low priority list. If he’s hot and there is chemsitry, there may be possibilities. I have been know to get drunk and horny while single. I have also been known to rub it in an exes face, like oh…is this your best friend…didn’t u imply my girlfriend was cuter and smarter than me? In that case this lucky bastard won a free one.
I know there are women who chase, they are not dumb or unattractive. They really view themselves as a take charge kind of women. Yes men love that. The constant struggle here is they complain about why guys don’t do things to please them. Other women and some protective men will say duh! Cuz you chased him. He has you. There are even claims that the more alpha, career oriented a woman is, the less success she has with the man. Not to bed him but to keep him.
Again in the book the Red Queen, it brings up another species where the female will chase after a male, and she will pretty much control is ass, to make sure he is around to take care of the babies. She usually picks the beta male the one she can control.
Again this is a biological thing not something we are consciously aware of until you really think about it.
And then there is another species where the males have to spread as many seeds as possible as a form of continuing his species.
And there is a species where the males chase and actually sticks around to protect the babies with the female.
And there is one where the female impregnates the male and watches over him until it hatches! The list goes on.
Humans seem to have a combination of types. I suspect the more sophisticated the species the better it’s strategy to continue it’s kind. Whether you know it or not your urges are basically to continue our species. I suspect the number of guys who don’t want kids have increased probably has something to do with overpopulation. Perhaps there was a strategy built in place to make sure if we get to good at reproducing there are measures to control it.
So much to cover! It’s got to be a case by case basis. Maybe one day I will write a book. First I need to succeed at my end of the relationship too.
But yah women spill everything to me and sometimes we match and sometimes it varies. I can only tell you the view from my side, with my selection of peeps. If I were Amish, my views … and hairstyle may be different, of course. Then again what would I be doing on a phero forum.
Gonna have to point out that what women (and men, for that matter) say they want and what they actually act on are not necessarily, or even often, the same thing. If it were, then the Mystery Method simply would not work.
The whole dynamic is structured around the concept of creating and/or presenting a persona that women will chase. Hence things like cat-string theory, neg-theory, etc. Whether or not they are really great things to use is beside the point. The fact is that they work. Same thing with David DeAngelo’s C&F. It simply works, and it usually doesn’t matter what “type” of girl it is used with. It is a dynamic social theory that is applicable to all kinds of personalities, albeit with some adjustments to the presentation.
The whole thing is built on the concept that women say “I want B,” but when it comes time to act, they often go for “A.” That’s because they know they should want “B” and consciously that is what they think they want. But on some subconscious level, they are drawn to “A.”
At a basic level, I don’t think it has much to do with upbringing. It’s simply being human. Upbringing will simply influence how one expresses any given internal reaction. A flower-child girl may simply go with it, while a super-conservative girl would steel herself and draw a line. But drawing the line would be a reaction to the things she is feeling. It doesn’t change the fact that she is feeling what she is.
About the game… I’m sorry, but that’s never worked on me. I don’t call or contact people. I don’t chase. If he’s not interested enough to do the chasing, it’s no deal. The things guys do to supposedly mess with the female psyche… it just makes me laugh. It’s so transparent! I actually get insulted when a guy talks to me that way. I’m immediately put off, and you know what I do later? I laugh with my friends about it.
Apparently though, it works on most girls. Whatever works, I guess.
I know what I want in a guy. Usually the ones I’m physically attracted to aren’t what I’m looking for personality-wise, because I go for the cute scruffy ones. They’re usually shy and non-alpha, and I want to NOT be the dominant one in a relationship. I personally hate alpha guys that sit back and let you do all the work. What I want is… girly sigh… a strong silent type that lets loose around me, who’s a great story teller that can make me laugh… slightly more intelligent than a brick…
As to the flaking thing… you’re in a bar/club, right? What sort of phenomenal relationship do you hope to start at a club? Just doesn’t seem like the proper place to start something serious. It’s basically party time, and women are going to let off some steam and get reactions from men, while having fun with their friends. Some are into one night stands, but you say you don’t want that. Basically, they’re not at a bar/club for you; they’re there for themselves.
Why are we sneaky? Back to the old equation…so HE will chase.
Whatever works, I guess.