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Why Girls Don’t Answer Phone Calls
This is an insight I just had after commenting on my boy Derek’s lay report on another forum, in which he mentions that almost all of the solid phone numbers he gets are from girls he has a chill interaction with. That got me thinking… it’s pretty much the same for me. Why is that?
I remember a while back BradP saying that phone numbers from girls in nightclubs can be next to useless. I’ve noticed that myself too. It’s rare that I get a solid phone number out of a nightclub, or when I do the girl turns out to be too boring when I talk to her during the day or afternoon and I don’t really want to talk to her again. On the other hand, girls I grab digits from during the day or from mass transit or wherever are usually solid and when I talk to them it’s the same as when I met them.
A big piece of the puzzle is the difference in state. Susie’s emotional state in a big, crowded nightclub is a LOT different than it is during the day sitting at home after work or studying for the final. So how does she feel when she sees Mr. Awesome Joe the Wild and Crazy PUA ringing her on her cellphone? “Oh no, that guy from last night. I just don’t feel like talking to him right now.”
She may NEVER answer if you call her during the day. But try calling her at night when she’s at a bar or a nightclub (I’ve done this), and suddenly she answers quickly and is thrilled to hear from you.
It’s all state-based. As happy as she was to meet you in the nightclub, she was in an extreme, heightened emotional state. And when she is chilled out during the day, the prospect of talking to the guy she met when in that extreme state (and whom she associates with that extreme emotional state) is daunting. It is because of this reason:
It takes a lot of energy to change state.
Now let’s say you met Susie during the daytime instead, when you were relaxed and easy going, and so was she, and you guys had a lot of fun and enjoyed each other’s company and exchanged contact information. The next day, you call her around the same time of day, and she is in the same state she was when she met you. Chances are, she’s going to pick up. Why? Because it is easy. It takes no work for her to change state to talk to you; she’s already in the same state as she has anchored to you.
This is the same as the reason why you don’t want to call your insurance or credit card company when you’re feeling really lazy, and why you’re more excited about calling a girl you recently #closed when you are walking around and getting stuff done. Because of your current state matching up with the state you will need to be in to make those calls.
Really, this concept can be extended to a lot of other things besides just phone calls… but I’m feeling a little lazy right now myself
If you want more solid number closes from girls, here are a few suggestions:
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Chill your interaction out and bring it down to a level around where you expect she will be the next time you talk to her
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Anchor a lot of strong, positive emotions to yourself so that even if it takes a lot of energy for her to answer the phone, she will still want to, in expectation of an emotional boost
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Build a solid connection with her (usually you have to be more chill to do this anyway), because this again provides incentive for her to overcome the hump of changing emotional states
My thoughts on the matter. Feedback, thoughts, experiences invited.
Cheers,
Chase Amante
Staff writer, theApproach newsletter
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