I think Idle has made a good observation here that ties into what we have said before and into what most everyone seems to be indicating.
Namely: Pheromones generally work best immediately with people who are just meeting us for the first time(s) as opposed to those who know us best and our relationships are established.
Now this does not mean established relationships are static. Everyone knows that the only constant in life is change. (Not to forget death and taxes but that is a discussion for the lounge, likewise the concept that we can either be proactive and try to anticipate and steer change in our lives or just be passive and get washed through life by it.) Both LaurieNY and I (and a few others) have reported that our Moms were really upset at first when they first were around us wearing pheros. My wife and Tisha’s husband were the same also. Funny looks like something is different but I can’t put finger on it. But they eventually did grow accustomed to the new phero-signature once it became the norm. Or even accustomed to a changing phero-signature.
I think what also happens is that the change is more easily absorbed once they realize that the other major factors in the relationship are still the same. Namely this phero-change is not a signal we are seeing someone on the side or have been bitten by a vampire and are now one of the living dead. In other words the change in our phero-signature does not herald “danger” or a “problem”. Once that is absorbed consciously and subconsciously, the defences go down and it is back to business as normal. Almost.
Because once this defensive reaction goes down, it is then I believe that the pheromones can start to affect our stronger relationships. But because the relationships are strong and long-term and operate off of patterns and history as much as day to day interactions, then it can take a while longer to make major course corrections. Kinda like you can’t turn an aircraft carrier on a dime kinda thing. But once you start wearing Ammo or whatever around the spouse, close friends, family etc. and they will affect hopefully what is a positive influence/change within the relationship and you will have achieved a new balance, a slightly new course so to speak.
Once that happens, then a day or so without them is not such a big deal because that relationship has alreay achieved that new balance or new course so to speak, and a shift in your phero-signature will not have such a big effect for one or two days. And again that happens because long term relationships run as much on patterns and history as they do day to day events. (Unless of course that day’s event includes catching you in bed with … well, you get the picture.) Plus they may now be subconsciously accustomed to the fact that not only does your phero-signature change but also the changes do not represent danger or a problem. A changing phero-signature is now your “norm”.
Now obviously I am not talking about what I call “point adjustment” applications - Instant Female Magic, Turn Up The Heat, Cops or even Instant Shine - designed to elicite certain behavior RIGHT NOW, whether it is calming/happy (Instant Female Magic or the “socials”) because the wife or SO is in a bad mood or it is arousing (heavy 'none or cops) because one or both of you are or want to be in the mood. Because again this DOES seem to work on spouses, SOs, etc.. Becuase here I am talking about causing something “right now” as opposed to a long term shift. But then again like all pheromone products even this has its limits. If she is in a bad mood and just does not want to be calmed or wants to stay angry, then all the Instant Female Magic in the world will not help. Same with Turn Up The Heat or Cops: if he or she is really tired or just not in the mood for whatever reason - it ain’t goona work. And we have all had experiences with that too.
On the other hand strangers or sometimes even people we are around daily but don’t really know us other than in passing or quick exchanges are the peole most likely to be strongly (and less permanently) affected by what we wear daily. And this seems to be born out time and again anectdotally. Whether it is what I would consider “longer term” type products - A314, Instant Gentleman, Ammo - or “point products” - Turn Up The Heat, Instant Shine. Or romance vs. social products.
The point is the relationship is very fluid and still very dependent on subconscious as well as conscious clues more so than relying on “patterns” and history as more established relationships are. So they may react more strongly but don’t necessarily retain the “behavior pattern” the next time come in contact with you unless you are wearing the same pheromones again. They may remember how they felt and acted but there is no guarantee they will feel and act that way again either without you wearing the same pheromones OR outside that social environment (like a club environment) even if you were wearing the same pheromones.
I also think there may be differences in reactions that interplay with personality types, but I am still sorting that idea out.
Sorry for the long dissertation. Some day you guys are going to remember not to ask me open-ended questions …
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When I’m not wearing these mixes, I’m sometimes treated like I’m invisible or just another customer who they could care less about.
