I think I might have made a mistake of wearing the mones around somebody. I wasn’t entirely sure he was into me before as he was giving me mixed signals (which might be due to the misunderstanding that I was rejecting him somehow because his lack of confidence). Now I guess the signs were all there before the mones. Shaking and nervousness around me. Hanging out around me. That look in his eyes when he looks at me. Now the mones seem to have pushed him over the edge. I’m either wearing Shine or going mones free now and he’s still acting that way. Is it the mones or is this his personality?
I’ve been attracted to him since I met him but I don’t want anything too heavy breathing or smothering. I’m not sure if I should pursue this as I don’t want it to turn into a possessive relationship.
How is he acting obsessed ? Can you explain the behavoirs that indicate this to you.
These are not indicators of obsession unless by “hanging around you” you mean stalking.
Define pushed him over the edge. You indicate he is “still acting this way” so if his behavior is the same then its his personality. Its always his personality. Pheromones will not create something that doesn’t exist in a person.
The behavior your describing doesn’t sound possessive as much as it sounds needy to me. A person can smother you with there neediness though and it can be far worse then possessiveness.
By obsessed I meant if we’re sitting not far from each other and if he thinks I wasn’t paying attention or listening (unfortunately for him, I have darn good hearing…), he would be whispering/mumbling to himself something along the lines of “f her. f her. She’s easy. She’s driving me insane” constantly. I have never met anybody who would voice something like that vocally. Much less actually around people. Other than that though, he’s actually a pretty nice fellow. His friends are acting like something’s up. One of his friends is always trying to get him interested in other girls his type all the time and looks at me like I’m dirt.
Thats not just obsessed thats unstable. I dont care how “nice of a guy” he may be. He has some serious issues and I wouldnt trust him.
You have a choice to make here.
You could go out with him but prepare yourself because he will smother the hell out of you and possibly become aggressive when things dont go his way. His insecurities are going to effect you negatively and drain you.
Next choice and this is probably the smartest one. Distance yourself from him.
Next choice and this would be what I would do. Next time you hear him talking smack to himself about you call him out on it. Let him know you dont like it and he better knock it off. Not saying you should do this especially if your afraid of his reaction, its just how I would handle it. I of course am married to a huge man and have two huge sons for protection though LOL
Mumbling to yourself in public is not crazy or unstable, lots of perfectly normal people do it. Its what he is saying while he is doing it that gives you some serious indicators that something is not right with this person.