I was looking back on a episode in my life about 10 years ago. I had a really painful breakup. I was in the pits. But the funny thing was that new women would approach me and get into deep conversations. I got laid sooo easily then.
I’m thinking that maybe there is a natural pheromone that people with broken hearts give off. The hits were very social and fearless but with sexual overtones from the women.
Maybe I was just such a lamb, completely without game that I was so approachable.
Anyone ever experienced something like this?
Wow, never really thought about this. My last break up was over a year ago, but the one thing I remember about every break up is that I always became a more social person and gained a lot more friends. I wonder if that’s true for any other girls.
That’s cool about the whole getting laid thing. I think your right. Girls like soft guys because they feel like they won’t just f*** em and leave em. At least that’s what my mind registers it as. So maybe if you could find a pheromone that makes you seem soft, yet manly?
I like guys I feel safe with that I feel listen. The whole if i want to go somewhere with it I can but no pressure or expectations thing..Thats attractive.
But I know what you mean sad guys sometimes you just wanna pick them up and dust them off. It brings out the nurturer in a girl if its the right type of guy.
There may be a pheromone put out in heavier amounts at that time too.I have noticed a few of my guy friends smelled better right after a break up.
Guys I normally wouldn’t even think of dating because they’re so far in that friend zone anyway.
Myself I get less social.
I get mad and draw inward.
I’m fiercely a long termer though so when it doesn’t work out eh it always sucks either way.
what pheros generate from cortisol?
Not every positive interaction you have with females is necessarily as a result from pheromones. After your break up your thoughts were clearly on the girl whom had broken your heart, so when you were interacting with other women you weren’t trying so hard to get laid, you were probably just interacting honestly. Women pick up on your indifference and that can be a highly attractive trait… which is why a lot of those cool rebel without a cause types find it so easy to get laid, because their not worrying about the outcome.
Plus like Electra said, a lot of girls are attracted to guys who are in touch with their emotions and can display their vulnerable side, as you were doing after your break up. Once again this is why a lot of those artist/musician types find it so easy to get laid.