From a woman’s point of view:
Alpha males are quietly confident, not arrogant. They know who they are. They never bully or take a one up position while putting someone else down. They are the exact opposite of a weasel. They never go behind someone’s back to salt the earth or torpedo that person, while pretending to engage them when face to face.
They are born leaders. People naturally quiet down when they speak. They never have to raise their voices or shout. They are prone to reflection, meaning they *really *listen and think about what others have to say. People naturally trust that they know what to do and how to do it.
They are consensus builders. They find the good to work with in everyone they have to deal with. They listen to everyone, then make decisions and act on them. Even when they disagree with you it is done respectfully. These guys don’t need to take away from you to be who they are.
They have true inner strength, and never need to put someone else down or siphon power from others to puff themselves up. They are already far and away above the rest of the pack. They don’t need to climb on others to get there.
They are centered. It is extremely hard to knock them off their center. Even when facing extreme personal adversity they have the inner strength to stay who they are.
They are consistently emotionally in control. Because they don’t get too excited, they exude a restful aura that really does engender trust from others.
Hope this is helpful.
Diane