I was going to post this in my journal, but thought I wouldn’t get many – if any – replies. The women’s section seems like the ideal place to post this as its advice of woman I’m mostly after. Some of it is pheromone related, but mostly its just plain old advice I want.
I’ve been seeing this girl for a few months now. We’re dating exclusively. See each other about 3 times a week; talk either through SMS or on the phone pretty much daily. Everything is great with her, for the time being anyway. I can see her friend sticking a possible spanner in the works – which I think she has just started already – and that is what I want advice on.
My girlfriend and her friend are best friends, a proper two-some. They have other friends, but really it just them two who are very close friends, they see each other daily. At first her friend had a mild crush on me (or Ammo); because my girlfriend said she used to get jealous. But mostly I think the problem is that she is jealous of her friend finding someone and settling down. I think she is scared that I will cause them to see each other less and disrupt the friendship (which is totally untrue, but I can understand the concern). The reason I’m getting this vibe is because my girlfriend told me one time whilst snuggling that, her friend said she had turned “boring” and that “there is no me and you anymore”. On Friday when we where out she told my girlfriend not to spend the night sat down with me, but rather dance all night.
Me and my girlfriend are still good, and her and her friend are still good. Even me and her friend are still good. I just want to resolve this potential problem before/and if it progresses and starts causing tension. I don’t want her friend spoiling what I’ve got with this girl and was wandering how I should approach the situation.
Sorry if this is a long post, I tried to keep it as short as possible. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
This is the pheromone part of my question. I’m making a separate post, so the original one isn’t to long and unreadable.
When I was drunk a few weeks ago I agreed with my girlfriend’s friend - who works at college doing a beauty course – that I would have my eye lashes tinted, because she needed to tint someone’s as part of her assessment. I thought it would be pretty funny and I’m going tomorrow to have them done haha. I’m trying to stay in her good books, like the other day for example she didn’t want to hang out in the pub as a threesome so I agreed to do something with my other friends and let them both have a girly night.
When I go to this beauty salon tomorrow at her college (without my girlfriend), I know there are going to be quite a few other girls there who are her friends. My plan was to wear a kitchen sink mix of higher value and attraction.
Do you think my approach to appear higher value and attractive to my her friends is the right approach? When I leave the salon, I want to leave the girls talking about me and hopefully my she will realise that I can be a catch and therefore not sabotage my and her best friends relationship. The following mix is the one I had in mind:
2 drops of A314. 1 under nose and 1 spread behind ears.
3 sprays of MX292
1 Ammo
2 Instant Shine
2 CTTM
If in this post there is any confusion who ‘her’ is, ‘her’ reffers to my girlfriends friend. Rather than repeat girlfriends friend all the time, I used ‘her’ instead.
Wildflower… You seem to be very, very, interested in your girlfriends friends opinion and making her happy. What about your girlfriend. why dont you try and reshift your focus away from this other girl for awhile.
I have to admit when I read this it almost sounds as if you have have a thing for your girlfriends friend.
As for your mix.. each individual girl in the house will physically interpret (feel) you are interested in them and only them once they get a whiff of you (Ive smelled male pheros and thats the message they send). could be very good or very bad.
playing it safe would be none free, Shine and Cttm only… you do have a girlfriend after all… save the fun stuff for her, Im sure she’ll appreciate it.
haha, yep. There very nice The story behind me getting my eyelashes tinted is that she’s doing a health and beauty course at college and they always need people to go in and experiment on. It was a fun experience and the end result is OK. I can tell when I look in the mirror, but most people don’t notice any difference. PHEW!!!
She isn’t jealous of me. I think she’s jealous of her best friend finding a boyfriend. She wants to have her friend all to herself, and she can be very clingy with her. I think she’s afraid of change.
I’m maybe being a bit of a control freak, but for good reason. If you look at this thread: two girls and me. Desperate need of help. (two girls and me. Desperate need of help.) or some posts in my journal from around the same time, you’ll realise that I had a chance to go out with another girl I really liked but her best friend prevented me from doing so. The biggest threat it seems to me being with a girl, is always her best friend. I asked here to see if anyone had any advice on how I should handle a jealous best friend. Maybe my approach was wrong, but that’s why I was asking for advice here.
I’m not focusing on my Girlfriend here because everything between us is great, I have no issues. I want to keep everything great, and can potentially see her best friend spoiling things, which is why I was focusing on her.
The mix was great BTW, I got hits of all the girls in the mock-salon and hits from shop assistants male and female when I went shopping around town after. It was my first time wearing A314 and MX292 together and I really like the effects, especially the self effects. I’ll write more about the mix later when I have more time.
Wildflower.. Im happy for you it worked out great.. I did get a chance to read your post, seems like you have this “friend” karma kinda thing happening, so I can see how youd like for everyone to be happy, flowy and content.
Ive certainly been in situations myself where someone has tried to thwart my relationship (usually a “friend”), either because they wanted me or they wanted my partner, and if that 3rd party can somehow deter me or the person Im involved with away from each other, then I just look at the relationship like was not meant to be. real connections and feelings are swayed that easily at the influence of others are really just superficial and flippant or maybe they also serve as are popular mating contests/conquests.. who knows.
Im going to stop giving advice now and leave it up to the more experienced ladies here…
I wonder if mx135 would get you positive results with “her” or negative ones. It has a kind of girls night out + higher value feel to it.Then again maybe if you got it in say mx335(grapefruit) your gf could wear a spray or so when they hang and her friend would relax some.
The story behind me getting my eyelashes tinted is that she’s doing a health and beauty course at college and they always need people to go in and experiment on. It was a fun experience and the end result is OK. I can tell when I look in the mirror, but most people don’t notice any difference. PHEW!!!