I’ve been doing this for 10 years
That being said. It’s generally a waste of time and money (more ways than one).
Paid sites don’t mean serious girls. I’ve found a lot of the women that are on online dating sites… are there for one of 4 reasons: Socially Awkward, married/seperated/dating someone and want their ego stroked, batsh*t crazy, or there is an especially nasty subset that wants nothing more than free meals/plays/concerts/experiences (usually these ones are severely narcissistic.)
I can honestly say over 10 years and hunreds of first dates, I’ve had nothing meaningful come out of it but my financial house has taken hit after hit after hit. Every now and then you might get some sex out of it but I’ve never found anyone that I even remotely wanted to have a relationship with online. I’ve had countless bad experiences. IN fact I tell my worst stories so much that people are constantly insisting I should write a book (I’ve wrote notes about most of the girls I’ve wanted to include, but I keep trying to find a woman to write it and give her commentary and split sales 50/50 with me).
Here are some examples…
Former heroin addict felon that was stabbed 3 times in prison, stood me up on first date because she couldn’t remember what day her house arrest was over…
Girl that showed up with a guy clearly in his 60’s and kept speaking klingon to me and staring at him.
Pre-op transgender (the first one, that didn’t tell me until a couple of hours into the date. there was a second one that told me about 5 minutes into the date, both were passable, the first one I called out, the second one went on to tell me that graduated from an all men’s college, changing her name to the masculine form quickly confirmed this on google)
A-LDS, putting bare feet on booth and table at 20$ a meal place
A-R. the threesome with me and a friend, next day moved in with my friend…
Fat depressed teacher/trying to get me to screw her in movie parking lot in broad daylight
R.R. and the sobbing uncotrollably during sexual encounters, then going to her exes apartment after we spent the day together… cleaned his apartment fixed him a sandwhich and had sex with him because she felt bad for him
S. showing up hour late, leaving 10 minutes in for ‘trainer’ took the food I bought to go and saw her eating with guy in car in parking lot
Girl at Papa Joe Jr’s telling me I’m a Satanist for 2 hours because of my Masonic ring
Girl in eagle creek, watching Poseidon Adventure remake and her 2 sons spill out into the living room sword fighting with turned on dildos
Sorry I vanished after our couple of dates, I was on my honeymoon
Girl downtown at the apartment with the cat making it purr on my junk
The nurse with the pothead brother that was murdered in their garage during a bad drug deal, she was a pothead too
The athletic narcissist at Papa Joe Jr’s, 3 hours about themselves, redirected everything I said back to being about them
Oh yeah. my ex-husband is in jail for arson, my son is in a wheel chair, and I feed/shelter 3 people solely off welfare
I don’t need a job, I’m a professional poker player (at the boats) and poker tutor
I’m single, but I share a one bedroom apartment with my ex/baby daddy of my one child (I recently saw her on a site again, living with same ex/baby daddy of 2 children about 7 months preggo with 3rd)
I love you, but I brought two girls home from the bar… for me though, not you. (this one is a problem to this day, 4 years later. She’s not allowed within 100 yards of me but it doesn’t stop her from following me, she is way out of my league though I should have known she was damaged)
Girl with the 5 year old who was molested by her father, yelling and spanking her kid for being a calm curious 5 year old, where I urinated on my pants in her incredibly tiny bathroom because her toilet was like 3 inches off the floor and I was getting hardcore splashback without realizing, pulled a Billy Madisson and splashed a bunch of water on my pants and said “I missed” and kept insisting I urinated on myself and she just laughed and said I’m silly no matter how much I protested that I really urinated all over my pants… and how all of her furniture was impossibly tiny.
H, 5 kids, 4 fathers, husband with 4 warrants for arrest for child molestation (of oldest kid), illegal immigrant, kids finding dildo and used condom from previous renter hidden atop bathroom vanity and blowing the condom up…
Etc.
Your mileage may vary but do this, imagine all the problems and quirks you have if you are male… keep in mind that women have far better chances at finding a man and amplify your problems 3-10 fold to generally (not in all cases mind you) have an idea of the type of women you’ll encounter. Some women are just busy with careers and/or kids and go online to try and have a dating life… these are few and far between though.