Thanks Apu for that excellent post. I would have replied sooner, but I only read noticed your post last night.
First I owe you guys two reports.
Thursday night
I sprayed on 2 times IOx4.
Went to pick up 2 funny dudes and one of the gf’s. Mood in the car wasn’t all that funny and though I had applied IO I have never experienced them that quiet. We arrive at the venue where usually there a nice women. We get blatantly rejected at the door. All sorts of crazy people enter before and after us. Weird.
Next bar. We enter only to be told it is a private party. We must leave.
Third bar had a preliminary poker tournament. All dudes.
Went home. Waste of mones.
Friday night, NYE
2xIO(x4) + 2xIG
Spent the evening prior to midnight at a friend’s place with a bunch of people. Was nice. We all had tickets for a NYE party starting 01:00. We arrived at 02:00 because of logistical problems. I could only fit so many people in my car, rest took a cab.
We were there an hour before the first of 3 friends-involved fights broke out. To make long story short: my night involved 3 fights, crazy bitches, hospital, police station. As the only sober one I did some logistical planning etc.. Went to bed finally at 07:30
Hey Bolkie, sorry I haven’t replied for a while. Don’t feel bad about NYE. A lot of people didn’t have much going on this NYE so you’re not the only one who didn’t have a crazy good time. It’s good to read that you’re trying to smile more…that will definitely help you.
Steve is right…water will definitely help you in more ways than just one. Even if it doesn’t help with your depression it will help clear your body of toxins and give you better looking skin as well.
Apu also hit on a few things that you should really really consider. Number one is start approaching women and asking them out more. This is much much easier to do when you’re a little drunk, but even more satisfying when you are stone sober and grow the balls to approach a women and end up getting that number. The Second thing that he mentioned is the crowd you’re with…you are wayyyy less likely to be approached when with a group of guys. Have you ever tried just going to a bar by yourself to see how it feels? It may sound lame to go out by yourself but you will get a lot more eye contact from girls and you will stand out more as being single and approachable. Not to mention you will have a new sence of confidence that automatically comes with being your own Alpha male in an environment like that. If you’re with a group try these tips… Always smile and concentrate on having a good time and less on the women. Keep a little distance from yourself and the group you’re with…this will do a few things for you 1) since you’re shorter it will help mask the height difference between you and the guys you’re with. Think about the buildings in the nearest city to you. Think of one which is much taller than the other. When side by side you would notice a huge difference, but when looking at two buildings that are different heights from afar and they are spead apart they start to look very similar in height. 2) Standing apart a little from the group will make you more approachable to women as there is an opening to talk with you and more space to have an intimate one on one conversation if they decide to approach you. And the bonus is that you look like your own man…or the leader of the bunch because you are standing back a little and standing out. Try breaking away from your group for a little and go to the bar for a drink by yourself or take a walk the long way through the bar to the bathroom.
Yeah New Years sucked for me . Like this girl stuck her tongue down my throat and nearly sucked the life out of me. Can’t go anywhere these days:O
How’s the water treatment going though my friend? Have you noticed any differences? With me even the mones get better with lots of water. Fill us in here (LOL, notice the pun>.<)!
You suggestions make a lot of sense. But about the distancing myself from the guys and going out alone: wouldn’t that go completely against all the ‘social proof’ stuff I keep hearing about. A cool guy wouldn’t be alone anywhere because people would want to join them I think. Aren’t solo guys on the prowl ‘creepy’ ?
@Stevie
Yes, I am doing the water thing. It feels good. I have liked the taste of water all my life. I would order water in a club if it wasn’t weird.
As a rule of thumb I now drink enough to maintain a ‘clean’ urine. Except when just out of bed in the morning ofcourse. I have also downloaded an app on my phone that reminds me at the top of every hour to have a glass of water
Funny thing though: now that I am keeping an eye on what my urine looks like, I am noticing some sort of foam forming on top of it. So far my research has led me the knowledge that this might be a sign of protein in the urine. I am just not sure if this is a bad thing yet.
See.. that’s the thing. Just like many suggested before, STOP THINKING NEGATIVE. People and especially women READ that!
Here’s a tip: when you’re out, think as if everyone around you could HEAR whatever you are thinking and saying to yourselves.. What do you want these people to exactly hear? If you think “I hope I don’t look creepy in these clothes”, most likely people will consciously or unconsciously know you are insecure.
Have fun AT ALL TIMES
He’s right! I go out all the time by myself. As a confident ALPHA male where ever I go I meet people. When you’re alone it forces you to talk to more people. I’ll be going out alone tonight.
Dude, its piss. Seriously you’re not dying, so stop looking to analyze everything. Water will cure most ailments especially depression. I bet that’s gone
and IF someone asks you if you are just by yourself and you want to appear more “busy” or “social” or w/e.. say I’m just waiting for my friends or my friends are going to pick me up so I’m just chilling here..
I am having a dinner date tomorrow evening. I have not met the girl face-to-face yet, but we have been texting. I asked her if she wanted to have dinner some time. And she happily said yes.
I am going to have to make a good first impression.
She is young, 22 I think. Blonde.
I am thinking IS is an absolute must, plus maybe IG ?
My sincere apologies for being absent from here for so long. I did not know people had replied in my thread.
At the moment my entire world consists of finishing my master thesis. I have a job already, but on one condition, I must have finished the university 100%. To make a long story short: thesis -> job -> car -> buy a house -> a woman in my life. None of these can be accomplished without finishing step 1…
I see my last post was about the impending date Well let’s see. She is very attractive, but not my dream woman, she has flaws. This is a good thing. She is definately not on a pedestal.
The date went good i think. I looked like a million bucks and so did she. The entire three hours there was not a moment of akward silence. I looked her in the eyes, like a man does. I paid the bill. I asked more questions then I answered. She laughed alot.
At the end I did not kiss her. And I have have no idea if I could have done so. We just gave each other three kisses on the cheeck, like the Dutch custom is. We kept in touch afterwards, but she went on a skiing trip to France. I know she is home from the trip, we spoke a bit by text.
I once read here or somewhere else that:" every woman wants to sleep with you, until you mess it up.". I don’t think I messed it up already. I intend to take her on another date this or next week. She has some heavy exams so this might take her mind of things.
Now I know I can go on a date with a woman and present myself well, carry a conversation and enjoy myself. This shit aint scary
I was wearing 2xIG and a spray of ISx4
Next time I see her I am going with at least one spray of IJ. I know IJ does not make me a jerk or an asshole. It just pushes the nice-guy to the background somewhat in favour of the sexual guy ( I hope). That is definately needed.
Don’t forget though to live your life too. Have fun and keep things light while going through all that. Meeting and obtaining goals are only as good as the journey itself.
Keep us posted though of how its going. I might have to come out there and put my foot down
I think I need your help and advice on something. This might not be really suited for this forum, but this is the only forum I am a member of and you guys are for real.
I am thinking about doing something, which probably sounds like very weird thing to do, when you are not in my shoes.
How about I place an ad-like post somewhere on a forum or contactboard (maybe even a newspaper or magazine) in which I very shortly state my predicament. I will then ask for a girl/woman who would be willing to teach me how to kiss. I will make it clear to the reader that it will be my first kiss. This is not about sex.
Is this a very stupid idea?
How do I avoid coming across as a creep and/or phoney ?
Should I offer money? Wouldn’t that make it a business transaction / prostitution?
Do you know of a case or someone who tried this and what happened?
Hey Bolkie!
Long time no hear. This is a tough one. Even I’m bashful on how to explain this.
May be this will help. How to Kiss a Girl - wikiHowKissing - AskMenFirst kiss - AskMen Also ask the ladies here. They’ll tell you what makes a good kisser and a bad kisser. Good luck buddy.
. Like this girl stuck her tongue down my throat and nearly sucked the life out of me. Can’t go anywhere these days:O
