What happens if a girl really likes you but you’re wearing IH and she makes a candid slip that she has a BF? What if she was more controlled without being exposed to IH and normally she would nottell you?
Wouldn’t that kinda ruin your chances of getting to know her? After all if a woman tells me she has a BF its like her rejecting me as a potential mate even if she likes me.
What would you do say as a response to “I have a boyfriend” as a candid slip and not necessary a woman telling you off.. Maybe its the IH and she’ll regret bringing it up later and wonder what made her slip.
How would you react to the I have a boyfriend if you want to get to know her better? Would you feel discouraged after hearing this and blame IH for opening her lips, or would you still pursue if you liked her even if that meant taking things slow.
Also how can you tell she is telling you she has no interest vs a candid slip?
IH deepens conversation and increases rapport but candid slips like this can destroy potential too and perhaps start arguments.
It’s not so much a woman having a bf that is the issue I’m referring too as much as its IH causing candid SLIPS that women may REGRET stating to someone..
Think about it if we told everyone in life everything about our personal lives the world would be pretty messed up. There was a movie about this subject I watched once.
Imagine you think someone is ugly and you say that is an ugly person.. Well it is true to you doesn’t mean its something you should be admitting to people for many reasons. It will create enemies.
Therefore my point was not if a woman has or has not a BF but whether IH is necessary always a good mone if it makes the truth to hard too handle and thereby even creating resentment amongst people exposed to it.
Sometimes, I HAVE A BOYFRIEND, is a test or a shield.
I think you think too much, D. As I understand WHY … maybe start practicing RIDING YOUR SITUATIONS OUT, and see where you end up WITHOUT seeming or sounding DESPERATE, maybe. ??? Just a thought. I’ve been wrong LOTS OF TIMES.
All the bloody time with IH - but that can be good as well as bad as it often helps the conspiratorial/bonding/trust aspect of any interaction nicely and helps comfort/closeness no end.
And if you steer it with IS, you can help ensure she enjoys sharing all this and the right attitude/responses can be quite a turn-on.
However, it can also be awkward if her husband/partner is looking over her shoulder and hearing every word when she’s telling you just how turned-on you make her! :o
And yes, I’m in full agreement that “I have a boyfriend” can also be a challenge or a very clear IOD depending on situation and how its delivered. I’ll usually take it as time to move-on as its seldom worth the effort.
However, if she is down to her underwear on the rug in front of your fire saying, “I’ll just call my BF now, so we don’t get disturbed later,” then its probably safe to ignore!
What if she doesn’t mean to tell you she has a BF and its just a slip and she regrets it later… that is the issue.. Or like someone here said what if it happens just before you shove your dick in her because your wearing IH?
If it is a shit test how would you go about it? There might be no BF.. half the time its just an excuse when a woman is put on the spot… so many women have orbitors around them at any time they can call a BF…
In this particular case you wanna make sure if its a shit test you pass… if its the truth its different. With IH you’ll never know!
IH is not truth serum. It gives a feeling of connection and trust that makes people want to share and tell you things. That feeling doesn’t just totally disappear when your IH does or when your out of range. So later on when she thinks about things she told you she is not really going to be regreting it, she will be recalling that feeling of connection.
“I have a boyfriend” is rarely a shit test. Most times its just a fact, they have a boyfriend and are commeted to that relationship. When they are making it up its usually a statement women use for the soft rejection. It means they aware of your interest and uninterested.
Every statement we make is not a shit test. However if you really feel as though she is shit testing you when she says it say something playful in return.
Her >> I have a boyfriend
You >> Thats ok, I wont tell him your into me. Then smile and wink so she knows your kidding.
A friend of mine used to take the “I have a boyfriend” remark and come back with, “Well, you can tell him about us - but I think we should keep it a secret”.
I’d say, from what I’ve seen, 50% of the time he closed soon after.
