I think I might benefit from some one-on-one coaching with some of the pheromones I’m using. I know what they are supposed to do and how they’re supposed to make others feel. So far, I’ve been so stunned at their success that I just watch other people’s reactions in amazement.
What I want to learn to do is to act in accordance with the way these pheromones are making people feel instead of reacting to their reactions (if that makes sense).
I want to learn how to “work” these pheromones. What can I do to work with them to amplify their effects?
I would just dig out old threads and gather the statistic from other people. You would get an idea of how they work and how to MAKE them work theoretically. Then test it out by yourself LOL that’s how science work, research and experiment! This is what I am doing right now. Pheromones work differently for each person. Compare your field observation with the theory. It’s a process of trial and error. There is no shortcut. Nobody can summarize the universe in one post. This forum is a archive of treasures. One has to put some effort to dig deep down into the earh. good luck
Oh, yes, I’ve made extensive use of the “search” function and it is indeed a veritable treasure trove of priceless experiences. I’ve enjoyed reading them. I’m not so much looking for a shortcut as a way of making my own actions congruent with the effects the pheromones are supposed to produce. And, being that this is the “tips and tricks” section, I figured this would be a good place to ask.
So I might ask for example, if I’m using EoW as an attractant when I don’t consider myself a flirtatious person, what I can do to make my actions more congruent with that vibe. Tisha has mentioned body language in previous posts. Is there anything else? What else?
In the interest of saving product (and my money), I ask how to amplify effects BEFORE I walk out into the world, doused with pheromones and because it’s exactly my lack of experience that would hinder the results I’m shooting for.
There’s nothing wrong with getting the most bang for your buck, especially when you pay top dollar. Amen to that. Remember, more isn’t necessarily better. Moderation is best, so start low and no dousing, lol. Although feel free to Dosey Doe.
I think this is what you’re looking for and hope it helps.
You’ll find various insights on what congruence is, how congruence relates to specific pheromones and “tips/tricks” on how to be(come) congruent.
Read all about it… then be brave and go for it. Get yourself out there and mix it up! It’s the only way to learn/get a handle on things. It’s how you gain experience. Have fun and experiment. Step a bit out of your comfort zone, no need to put so much pressure on yourself, chiquita. The more you do it, the better you’ll get at it. Rome wasn’t built in a day. You just need a little time/practice to learn how to “work” it.
While mones will work with or without congruence to evoke emotions and behaviors in others as Bella said to get the most bang from your buck you want to work with them.
This doesn’t mean you need to “act” or be different. Hell we can all do that without mones. What your goal is, is to not act in opposition to the mones your wearing. Thats easy with mixes that have names. You get some inkling of what they do just by the name.
So suppose your using IO as an example. Well use open body language. When people approach or talk to you listen, smile be friendly. Dont sit in the corner all closed up or ignore them. Keep in mind when people approach with IO they feel compelled to talk to you. This doesn’t mean what they have to say is interesting but they are just trying to get in the door. If you slam it your not being congruent.
Now when you get to single molecule putatives it gets a little harder because some of them dont create a feeling that you would need to be congruent to. Some of them just steer other mones in a direction. There are very few from the putative group I will wear solo after I have tested it and figured out its character. Solo they have little pull to you they just convey a character trait. You can be congruent or at least unopposed to the feeling though.
For instance P74 which is bonding and forms a feeling of ease and corporation. Well when someone reacts this way you can use it to your advantage or blow them off. Its up to you.
Body language is huge. We communicate in three primary ways. Verbally, visually and pheromonally. Touch is another communication tool but its not a primary. People “talk” with there bodies all day we are just not conscious of it. Learning to read what they are saying gives you a huge advantage. If your not verbally flirtatious then learn to be flirtatious in your BL. As Bella said you don’t need to jump into the fire just take baby steps. Pretty soon you will be running.
The more you use mones the easier understanding them and working with them will get.
So your first step is to try not to work against them.
Thank you, ladies! I guess my biggest worry is that I won’t match the signals I’m sending out with the pheromones and it’ll render them useless. Gotta get over the shyness.
I am in the same situation too gotta be more confident. There were some people looking at me when I wore EOW and IS last time, but I freaked out and then look away.
Remember, more isn’t necessarily better. Moderation is best, so start low and no dousing, lol. Although feel free to Dosey Doe. 
