So I was out in this club for New Year’s eve and something happened that left me thinking how to deal with situations like this if they happened in future.
I was just going through some dancing couple and the guy grabbed me on my shoulder and told: “Look where youre going!”. Before I answered anything his girlfriend apologized. Then I wanted to see if that aggression occurs again so in a few secs I approached and asked if they saw some of my friends. The girld said: “No no no” and when I turned away the guy pushed me. Then again - his girlfriend started apologizing telling “Really sorry, a guy had too much alcohol”. So I stood there, nodded to her and left them.
I really think I know what caused that aggression. Firstly it’s because I am young (19 ) but self confident. I walk straight, head held high. Im good looking, got tan, longer hair, earring, nice clothes. I dont blame mones here but I understand they could have stacked up ( I wore 1xA314, 1xTUTH, 4xIO, 1xCTTM2 - nothing unusual, not the first time wearing at club).
My question is how to react in that kind of situation? If it wasnt for his girlfriend I think it would have evolved into fight, but then my night would be ruined. But if I walked away with my head down and fear in my eyes then people would consider me being a pussy instead of alpha.
Oh and later after that I passed through him, we looked in each others eyes but nothing happened.
So all in all, I can just see two possibilities:
You get into fight and ruin your night and probably get kicked out.
You flee like a pussy and people think you’re a coward.
I live in not such tolerant country xehe..and I think it might happen again sometime, since guys get jealous. Your thoughts?
I recall that story too… and that’s a very good point. I lost my control the other day, and any time I do, I don’t care how much someone pushed me and how aggressive I got, even if I won the argument, I feel so weak.
This is a bit off topic unless you’re looking for information on how or if the pheromones affected the situation. Do you normally get more aggression than usual with the mones?
So walk away with your head held high, no fear in your eyes and a grin on your face. Fighting doesn’t make you the Alpha. You attitude and body language makes you the Alpha.
He is the one who felt threatened by your presence. If he didnt he wouldn’t have reacted the way he did.
When he touched your shoulder, shrug it off with a How dare you attitude. Dont be mean or confrontational just shrug it off as it to say with your body. Do not touch me. Then look him in the eye and say. Whoops sorry, didnt see you or whatever then just walk away.
I think you knew the guy was drunk the first time so why you approached him again is beyond me. He isn’t worth your time. His aggression was just a sign of his own insecurities and alcohol.
