Eye Candy: What we like in a man ...

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Since there was objection from certain quarters that we women are not concerned enough about a fine-looking man’s physical attributes, here’s my list of quirky preferences … features of the male physique that get my riveted attention … whether or not he lives up to his visual promise!

  • shoulders - I love broad muscular shoulders

  • forearms - rippling, musular and veiny. ow!

  • dark golden brown skin and dark hair - aaaahhh. sorry, white guys …

  • noses - long aquiline or semi hooked/flared noses are hot! brad pitt’s little boy nose can stay home.

  • that classic V-shaped torso, though the waist doesn’t have to be tiny

  • jeans or pants that fit - all this baggy business, what are they trying to hide?

  • hands and feet - long bones, visible joints and veins, graceful and strong from use, mmm.

  • graceful confident movement - no exaggerated swagger please, that’s trying too hard.

  • that look in the eye!

anyone else?

What do women really look at?
Manly Traits that turn Women on
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drools you just described my man :smiley:

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I go for eyes every time..

“The Man” has huge pools of liquid-chocolate gorgeousness that I drown in. Not bad considering we were only best friends for 10 years before anything happened. I always thought he had great eyes though. :slight_smile:

My hated violent Ex-husband also had lovely eyes.. I can tell so much about a guy from just reading his eyes..

Apart from that..

I like the guy to be taller than me. It’s not essential, but being 5 foot 10 in my stocking-soles, I do prefer it. “The Man” is 6 foot 7 so that works very well.

Since I run a health and fitness-orientated course, I like the guy to have at least a modicum of concern about the wellbeing and overall fitness of his body.

I hate and detest facial hair of all varieties. I also hate stubble, though many of my female friends love it.

Should always smell good, and should always LOOK clean, unless he’s been under a car or whatever.

I love floppy hair, longer on top, but NOT long. I detest shaved heads, or extremely shorn hair.

I like guys to have a bit of style. Suits are a must for the office here in Scotland, which is a definite plus. I LOVE men in nice suits, with a shirt and tie.

Casual wear, should be smart, but casual. Cannot abide sloppy, scruffy dressing in a guy. LOATHE it with a passion. Detest jeans where the crotch is hitting the floor. So aesthetically UUGH!

Lovely hands are a big plus.

Will get back to this later…

Ail :slight_smile:

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  1. NOSES. I guess it could almost be a fetish. And I mean serious noses, such as the ones Carrie described. Look at Adrian Brody – :open_mouth:. Now that is a nose. And Chester Morris, in the '30s. Ooh! And Rudolph Valentino! Alan Rickman! Ben Bratt before the nose job! Jason Isaacs! Djimon Honsou! Ken Watanbe! I guarantee this is the first thing I see in a guy. And thank God I’m not the only one who thinks Brad Pitt is lacking!

  2. Hair - it’s not a make or break situation - but my eyes will automatically stay on the boy with the messy, curly hair.

  3. Glasses. Frames that compliment the face. The guy doesn’t have to wear them to be cute – but they’re added points.

  4. Style. How many boys just wear the striped polo with baggy jeans or khakis? There are so many other options! Which might be why I tend to be drawn to the Mod and Indie rock styles, as they tend to be a bit different. There’s nothing like a cute boy wearing a suit and crazy shoes.

  5. Body - does not have to be built! In fact, if they’re too built, I find it a little gross. Strong, healthy, nice to hold onto, that’s all that matters. And by being nice to hold onto, the teddy bear types definitely count.

  6. Smell – he has to smell good. And the smell of clean can equal good.

  7. The eyes – and what’s behind them. Georgette Heyer wrote constantly, “His eyes sparkled with amusement.” I LOVE it.

  8. Everything put together. I’m one of those girls who make NO sense in her individual parts, but look at me as a whole and it’s a very different story. I’m the most unphotogenic person in the world – not that I look bad in my photos but I look so different in every single one of them. Mostly unrecognizable. So I understand how important everything together is. Example: Owen Wilson. Now that nose has eluded me for a while, I still can’t decide whether or not I like it – but as a whole, yes.

These are the things I’m partial to, but at the same time, boys automatically become unattractive without the qualities mentioned in the other thread.

And looking at my choices, they aren’t permanent attributes, except for the nose which will forever be my number 1. And they’re dependent on the guy’s own likes and dislikes. I say, if you own your sense of style, and don’t care about what other people think, POINTS.

And I think somebody mentioned race somewhere: and truthfully, it depends on the above list. There’s this adorable Korean-American teddy bear guy who I’m acquainted with and hoping to meet more. And there is also this Middle-eastern / Indian man I’ve seen a few times at our dancing place, who I dig… very much.

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DID YOU FORGET TALL MEN? I’m 6 foot 6 and I get all the attention from women. I always though that tall men are like eye candy. Anways, thats what my momy told me :wink:. LOL, nah, i have been told by many girls that they like that i’m very tall and they always keep hugging me and stuff.

Yhea, small girls are HOT!:stuck_out_tongue:

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I already mentioned men SHOULD be taller than me (I’m 5 foot 10), but it’s not essential.

As also already stated, “The Man” is 6 foot 7, so it’s all good for me..

Ail :slight_smile:

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I didn’t forget :smiley:

all those excess inches do nothing for me, if they’re in your vertical axis :cool:

anything over 6’ 3" and my neck starts to twitch (although I’m sure you’re very cute, Thomas)

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  1. Tall guys (I’m 5’ and all my past boyfriends have been 5’10 to 6’3 - makes me feel protected - TG is about 5’10 - 5’11)LOL
  2. Smile -specifically TEETH, must have great oral hygiene and teeth are very inportant to that!
  3. Lanky men do it for me
  4. I also like blondes or light hair
  5. Stomach/ slender waist - especially when they have that line of hair to the nether regions.
  6. Necks - I love necks!!!
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I have always been attracted to;

-Men who are taller than I am. I am 5’ 3".
-Dark haired men
-For some reason, I would estimate that 75% of all my past boyfriends wear glasses. I guess it may be because they are a symbol of intelligence.
-A nice neck to bite into
-Nice buns
-Chest hair, but not too much.
-Well groomed
-Well dressed
-Masculine hands
-Muscular arms, but not too muscular

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damn it seems to me i need to get to the gym more…

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You know, a guy doesn’t have to be a bodybuilder to be attractive, as long as they don’t look like a slob.

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… damn it i better start going to the gym more :smiley:

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i have a hard time with this.
as i read, i am unable to put into words what i like.
maybe i need to think on it longer lol

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and I’m KNOCKED OUT at the first round!!:smiley: :smiley:

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I’ll confess: the first thing physical (and the most powerful lasting impression) that I notice about a person – boy, man, girl, woman – is how he or she walks.

In high school, after classes, we’d stand and talk at the end of a long dark corridor that ran the entire length of the building, opening at the other end into the front lobby. Someone walking past the sets of glass double doors in the lobby would be silhouetted at the end of the corridor for a second.

I won a good sum of free lunches before people realized I could recognize people at 150 yards with nothing more than a one-second glimpse of a walking silhouette. I was about 95% accurate IDing students out of a population of about 1000.

There are so many “walking” metaphors:

  • “Walking the walk” – authenticity
  • “Walking tall” – integrity, pride
  • “Walk of life” – occupation
  • “Walk a thin line / tightrope” – avoid extremes, thread a narrow path of balance
  • “Walk on air” – euphoria
  • “Walk it off” – deal with pain
  • “Walk over someone” – defeat handily, trounce, treat with disrespect, contempt
  • “Walk off with” – to win easily, to steal something
  • “Walk out on” – abandon
  • “Walk through” – a first reading, or perfunctory performance
  • “Walk and chew gum” – multitask
  • “El camino real” – existential awareness
    … jog, trot, canter, skip, lope, gallop, limp, hobble, flounce, lurch, stitch, stagger, stumble, stalk, waddle, prance, strut, march, goosestep, swagger, roll, saunter, stride, amble, stroll, promenade …

One of the more memorable scenes, for me, of the film “Dead Poets Society”:

EXT. COURTYARD - DAY

The students are standing in a line while Cameron, Pitts, and Knox
are walking in a circle. Keating watches as they go around.

KEATING
No grades at stake, gentlemen. Just take
a stroll.

After a few moments, the three boys begin to march to the same beat.

KEATING
There it is.

The other boys start clapping to the rhythm of their steps.

KEATING
I don’t know, but I’ve been told–

BOYS
I don’t know, but I’ve been told–

KEATING
Doing poetry is old–

BOYS
Doing poetry is old–

Mr. Nolan looks out at them from his office as Keating joins the
boys and begins marching with them.

KEATING
Left, left, left-right-left. Left, left,
left-right-left. Left, halt!

The boys come to a halt.

KEATING
Thank you, gentlemen. If you noticed,
everyone started off with their own
stride, their own pace.

Keating begins walking very slowly.

KEATING
Mr. Pitts, taking his time. He knew he’ll
get there one day. Mr. Cameron, you could
see him thinking, “Is this right? It might
be right. It might be right. I know that.
Maybe not. I don’t know.”

Keating begins walking with his groin pushed forward.

KEATING
Mr. Overstreet, driven by deeper force.
Yes. We know that. All right. Now, I
didn’t bring them up here to ridicule
them. I brought them up here to illustrate
the point of conformity: the difficulty in
maintaining your own beliefs in the face
of others. Now, those of you – I see
the look in your eyes like, “I would’ve
walked differently.” Well, ask
yourselves why you were clapping. Now,
we all have a great need for acceptance.
But you must trust that your beliefs are
unique, your own, even though others may
think them odd or unpopular, even though
the herd may go, “That’s baaaaad.” Robert
Frost said, “Two roads diverged in a
wood and I, I took the one less traveled
by, and that has made all the
difference.” Now, I want you to find
your own walk right now. Your own way of
striding, pacing. Any direction.
Anything you want. Whether it’s proud,
whether it’s silly, anything. Gentlemen,
the courtyard is yours.

The students begin walking about, some walking casually, others
making up silly walks. Keating notices that Charlie is still
leaning up against one of the pillars.

KEATING
You don’t have to perform. Just make it
for yourself. Mr. Dalton? You be joining
us?

CHARLIE
Exercising the right not to walk.

KEATING
Thank you, Mr. Dalton. You just
illustrated the point. Swim against the
stream.

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cool…

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http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a321/mystik610/01-23-07.jpg

Looks like I’m your man :slight_smile:

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lol i was going to say something liek that sigma… but yea im not much on lying lately… :smiley:

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Good advertising, Sigma!!:stuck_out_tongue: :smiley:

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… wow sigma… i neve rnoticed that picture of you before… i prefer that over your animated picture… i dont know why it scares me… >.>