Eye contact article: how a killer look can get her to approach you

** Killer Eye Contact Can Get Her To Approach You**

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August 15th, 2007 by

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Eric a.k.a. Disco

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I’m sitting at the table with Cory Skyy and one of his friends. We are outside the club. We just finished eating.
This hot waitress walks over to our table and starts clearing away our dishes. She’s not the same waitress we had earlier.
“Hey, how you doin’ tonight,” Cory says to her.
“Good! How are you?”
“Good,” he says.
“Are you from around here?” she says.
“Sort of,” Cory replies. “I moved here three years ago. I’m originally from New York. You?”
“I’m from Ohio. I’ve lived here for four years.”
She finishes clearing off our table and walks off.
Five minutes later she walks back outside and comes over to our table. She says “Okay, I’ll be the big one,” and slaps a card down in front of Cory before walking off.
The two of us look at Cory and then look down at the card. Her phone number is on it.
What in God’s name just happened??? The two of them barely exchanged two sentences and she’s giving him her phone number?
Two words: Eye Contact.
This is Cory’s specialty. Cory is what you’d call a natural. He’s a modern day Don Juan.
This normal looking, shorter-than-average 26-year-old guy started young. He was with over 100 women by the time he was 18.
The last 3 or 4 years he’s learned to do everything with eye contact alone.
He pretty much doesn’t approach any more—he gets women to approach him.
I ask him how he did it with this particular cutey and this is what he tells me:


When I walked into the place it was so damn packed, you couldn’t see anyone. I’m working my eyes throughout the bar, I hit eye contact with a few different girls, she just happened to be one of them.
With her, the eye contact wasn’t long. She’s a waitress. She’s got drinks in her hand. She’s looking around. She’s everywhere.
Her mind isn’t into picking up guys, her mind is into working. When a waitress is working, she’s working. She’s busy. She’s dealing with drunk assholes all night.
I hit eye contact with her twice. The first time I made I contact with her she looked away first, with a smile. The second time I was walking and I had my own thing going on and I broke eye contact with her.
Before she came to our table I actually talked to her once. I saw her walking by me and I grabbed her hand, very gently. I looked in her eyes and I said “Busy night?”
“Yeah,” she said.
And then I turned around and I walked away.
The first time you hit eye contact with a girl, you hold it until she breaks it. If she breaks it and you do it right, she’ll break it with a half-smile, a smirk on her face like she’s interested. And you’ll just continue to escalate.

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You’ll wait a few minutes to look back.
She’ll continue to look at you on a regular basis, but you want to maintain a higher value than her, so you want to hold off on looking back at her immediately. She’ll be waiting to hit eye contact with you again.
You want her to continue looking at you while you’re sitting there talking to your friend, blasting out the energy that you’re a confident guy. She’s gonna be attracted to that so she’ll continue looking at you.
You are gazing around and you just happen to stop by with your eyes and catch her looking at you. But when you stop by, she’ll have already looked at you three times before you’ve looked back. And you actually hit it again.
You want to position yourself so you’re facing her from the side so she’s in your peripheral vision. I’m looking at my buddy and talking to him, but I can see what she’s doing out of the corner of my eye.
I’m not going to face her and look at her. I’m looking at my buddy and talking and laughing. After she looks at you a few times, that’s when you gaze over at her.
That’s how I can sit there and stare you, my friend, in the eye and see if she’s looking.
But it’s important that when you do hit eye contact with her, that you’re in the moment with her.
Be with her. Listen to her. Feel her through her eyes. Connect with her on a deeper level. Look deeper than her just being a good-looking girl.
You’re not thinking about what to do next. What to say, how to say it. What you’re gonna be doing with her later. Whether you’re going to kiss her at the end of the night.
Who the fuck cares?
Enjoy her presence while she’s there. When you do that, it’s gonna come across to her and she’s gonna love you for that.


Check out more of Cory Skyy at BadBoyWithAHeart.com.

Good read.

Though I’d love to know what this Cory guy actually looks and sounds like.

I must agree that eye contact is KEY…If I lock eyes with someone, I’ll probably be checking back for another “moment” every now and then…especially if he has those killer sexy eyes.

Malia

An operative phrase if there ever was one. :slight_smile:

But yes, EC is key. Even if he looks like Bozo The Clown.

This is how to seem subtlety sexy and comfortable with yourself.
Great post, eye contact is so important if done properly.
I’m rep’n you for this one.

Thanks for reminding me to stay cool about it all. I need to be reminded sometimes and you just did that Pheroquirk!

An enhancement and an advancement… I’ve been studying hundreds of hours of broadcast in every genre, hoping to decode the hidden, unaccounted for factors that radiate sex and desirability. :smiley: Here’s one they might have omitted… the neck… all the hot actors and actresses have this physical feature in common… GREAT neck energy.:stuck_out_tongue: :stuck_out_tongue: .. the head floats on a powerful, graceful, articulated neck… look at what gives Tom Cruise his screen presence… about 50% of it is neck… shlubby guys have weak or blah necks, their heads are just sort of like balls glued to the ends of a cardboard tube… a trained body will INITIATE motion from the neck… look around at a bunch of sweaty tourists milling through some european cultural site… dead necks, hunched necks, ZILCH neck charisma… FWIW I started a neck routine about a month ago… combined yoga-alexander-pilates…DAYUMM that HURT… for days and days after sore as hell, deep in the upper chest where the ligaments connect… I got it… these beautiful people work like dogs for that powerful, procreative Hollywood Neck… right up there with the perfect bronze tan…:wink:

IWAL. Care to share any specifics (movements, etc.)?

Time to reconnect with my Alexander teach…

lol i luv that

lmao, you are the ‘Rodger Dodger’ of pherotalk…

With this basic difference… Roger was neurotically fixated on dysfunctional relationships… because he couldn’t connect with himself, he was kind of the emblematic “company man” who had no idea who he was, an animated shell of a guy… excellent movie though… would suggest all the PUAs watch it two or three times… then maybe graduate to Dusan Makavayev’s Covek nije tica “man is not a bird” or the hard to obtain Casanova by Federico Fellini… and there was something essential about Amores Perros…Alejandro González Iñárritu… maybe the guys should grad some brewskis and settle in for a night of soul purge ?

OK… if you have a pilates platform handy, lie on either side with your head and shoulder girdle extended past the end of the platform, extend one hand down to the floor and flatten your palm for support, then let your head drop as far as it will go in the direction of gravity, rather like a heavy ball bending a spring, so one ear is aimed at the floor, the other ear at the ceiling… now lift your head through its full range of motion so it is pulled towards the other shoulder, and do this initially 25 times, then flip over and repeat in the other direction… this is like a sideways sit up for the neck and shoulder muscles, where most routines only do the sit-up crunch… problem with too much crunching is that it collapses the chest and draws the head-neck relationship into a head thrusting, can be a touch monkey look, such as you see in obsessive gym rats who don’t have good trainers… the second one is a great postural workout, hard to do unless you have a helper… lie face down with the upper third or so of you chest off the platform, then do a reverse wheel asana, meaning you reach behind yourself, clasp your ankles, and grip your back muscles so you can rock back and forth on your mid ribcage area, your head will be free for a full forward to back range of motion, so begin with 25 “reverse neck crunches” to do tho opposite of the sit up crunch… this will marketdly develop your upright postural reflexes and people will admire your evolved vertical poise…

Pheroquick,

Great post. I remember coming across this piece of advice in a book a couple years ago. Thought it wouldn’t work, but tried it anyway. Whoa, boy did it work! The longest session of “eye flirting” that I have ever done happened over four quarters with this hot red head. She finally relented and approached me (I really wasn’t expecting it.) at the begining of summer quarter (first saw her in my class in autumn quarter. Anyhow, this was before I came across this advice (every once in a while I seem to do this sort of thing w/o thinking about it.)

-SwingerMD

Good to see you back SwingerMD! Are you still playing with any putatives You were a real pioneer with them in the early days of the forum!

Yea I agree about the quality of the post - props to the Quirk man.

-Visionary

tacitus, that sounds somewhat like the warming up we do for latin dancing .. good to know :smiley:

perreo pa’

huh? what’s that?

Been really busy as of late and I’m saving up for some really expensive new toys. So I’ve been poping in to see how new products are shaping up and to replinish supples (gotta replace some Instant Shine soon.)

-SwingerMD

Awesome. I hadn’t been around for awhile, so I didn’t see this til just now…so, THANKS!

Tacitus is a Pilates afficianado. What doesnt this man do?