I think perhaps its your understanding of what Alpha is that may be adding to the TAH vibe you naturally emit.
Alpha doesn’t mean aggressive physically or sexually for either gender. Alpha men can be aggressive when the situation calls for them to be so. Alpha females can be sexual when the situation calls for it but its not what makes the Alpha.
Britney Spears and those who give off that Lolita vibe are not TAL women and not Alphas. If you want to appear more mature to this man then let go of that belief quickly. I am not saying to ignore your sexuality or hide it. Own it without over flaunting it. Think more along the lines of Angelina Jolie. She is sexy and she knows it but have you really ever seen her flaunt it like Britney ? Nope she a alpha female she doesn’t have to. Britney has to flaunt it because she is unsure of herself. She is 30 something and still appears to be 12 at times. Dont go for that vibe especially if you like an older man. It comes off as needy and says good for one thing and one thing only. Sure they will look and may even tap you a time of two but thats the extent of it.
Hit youtube and start watching footage of both Britney and Angelina and you will start to understand the difference. Its in how they carry themselves and the vibe just doesnt come from pheromone signaling but from body language.
Its the triple threat. Visual, pheromonal and body language all balanced out. Thats the difference between Britney (TAH) and Angelina (TAL). Men think britney is hot and want to tap that but when they see Anglina they get that DIHL look and they not only want to tap that they want to posess and keep that. She emits strength confidence intelligence and sensuality.
Thats why all the other women in hollywood fear her so much.
Tisha