I am being set up on a sort-of blind date, although it is a guy I have met a few times in the past. I’d like for y’all to choose what you think I should wear, phero-wise, after I tell you a bit about the situation.
The guy:
40
close friend to a couple of my male cousins on the non-hispanic side of my family
divorced. Bad bad, very bad divorce about five years ago (almost completely swore off women for several years).
very suspicious of women who approach him who know who he is, because he’s really well off financially. I’m sure this is somewhat rooted in his experiences during his divorce.
two preteen kids
“good old boy” country type.
Me:
mid-to-late twenties
half white hispanic (Argentine), half western European, but I identify as hispanic.
very “arty”, sometimes considered eccentric but not flaky.
really girly. I’m really not into outdoorsy stuff unless it’s something ultra fun like horseback riding.
cute in the way that makes me come off as innocent and naive (until people get to know me)
ultimately I want to get married and be a housewife. Yes, I know this isn’t very modern and career-forward of me.
very very into lots of kinky sex, but I’m willing to put that on hold and play the “hard to get” game if that’s what 40 year old men want.
IS/B is my signature pheromix.
My main concern here is that if I use IS/B, which I feel most comfortable with, I may give off a vibe he won’t like. Like I mentioned, he’s suspicious of gold diggers and the like. I think he knows that I want to eventually be a housewife (I’m sure my cousins have mentioned this), so I’m worried that this information + TAH could be taken the wrong way, like I’m trying to sink my claws in him just because he’s well off. He knows my family really well, though, so that may ward a bit of that off.
Anyway, make your choice, tell me why! Or suggest something of your own! Thanks!
IS/A, IS/B, MX134, MX135, MX 250, MX256/257, Instant Shine 2X, Instant Honesty 4X, EST, TAA, TAC, TAH, P83, P86, Lust After Me 20X cops, Turn Up the Heat, EoW, Scent of Eros For Women
You seem to be doing just fine on your own, girlie! Since you asked, I’d go for IS/A, Instant Shine, and one spray MX135. You can let him rough you up later–or vice versa–if that’s your thing. But I’d show a little minxiness at the beginning, personally. That way he knows you stand on your own two feet in life. I’d still say to add a spray of MX135 in there to show your real (TAH) self as well. And if you think conversation could be stilted, maybe add some nol?
(Next week, I’m set up to go out with a seriously protective guy who works in a form of law enforcement, and I’ll be wearing my EST and cops for it. I aim to confuse him mightily so maybe he’ll let me play with his gun. )
I may be wrong but he definitely does not a Tal sounding kind of guy.
cant imagine a man like this finding IS/B or Tah threatening as it is
very girlie and sweet.
I personally would go with IS/B, 1 tiny drop or spritz of Lust after me (for nol and cops) and Instant Honesty (beta nol) for heart felt conversation.
or if you choose not to do IS/B,
Instant Openness, Instant Honesty and Lust after me (1 drop-sparsly),
not overwhelmingly sexual, just chatty and lightly intimate.
OK, I ain’t a girl so I’m not the most qualified to offer advice, but I was told in no uncertain words that the poll wasn’t optional, so here I am. Be advised that this advice is provided with no representation or warranties, and anybody trying it is doing so at their own peril.
I’m thinking something along the lines of IS(b), Instant Honesty, Instant Shine, EST and P83.
Instant Sexiness (b) because that fits you and gives off a vibe you’re comfortable with.
Instant Honesty to promote open conversation.
Instant Shine so that you’re both feeling good.
EST to get a bit of the cuddly/take care of me feeling going, and I think it would probably go well with the IS (b).
P83 for the intimate/sensual/want to get to know them effect.
I’m also up in the air on suggesting EOW or Lust After Me, but the ladies can better advice you on that.
But again, I am a guy and am actually pretty clueless in the way of womens products and what may or may not work for the ladies.
Well, exactly… I don’t. But you also don’t want to scare someone off by inadvertently making them think you’re the extreme of what you are… if that makes sense? I’m not a spongy gold digger, but eventually yes, I want to be taken care of financially by a man while I take care of him and his home. This used to be an ok aspiration for a woman, but these days men seem to look upon this as “grasping”.
Well, yes and no. I mean, I want to take things as they come and go with the flow. I’m not interested in forcing the issue if the interest is never there. I also don’t want to fudge it up from the get-go, if ya get my drift.
This was my immediate thought, but the fact that he’s wary of women taking him for a ride makes me think “what if he no longer likes the soft girls? What if he wants complete independence?” I’m not going to be something I’m not in order to win a man (that never works, imo), but I’m also worried about his hangups, to the point that I’m second-guessing common sense, I guess.
I think this guy needs to show you that he is over his past negative experiences and is ready to date you as you are–without icky divorce baggage.
And obviously, you should wear what you feel comfortable in. Just like clothes. If IS/A’s effects have no place in your personality or your true self, don’t wear it.
ariadne, I hope you don’t mind my butting in here, but I just read your thread and was wondering how your date went, if you’ve had it yet. Sounds like an interesting situation (and I’m just plain ol’ snoopy )
Ariadne.
Did you go on the date yet?
Obviously he is going to like you with or without any type of combo. Hmm but the pheros help like a drinkie or mood lighting, soooo.
So I am coming late to this poll, but I chose Is/B, IS and IH pretty much for the same reasons as Selva. This sounds like a fun, safe and not overtly sexual but just enough combo.
he sounds oddly familiar.
I would go easy on the Sexual pheromones, he may bolt like a startled deer on a first date. Take it easy and play it cool, see how he reacts, but after 5+ years he should be ready to move on but he will have to come to you.
yup.
Ok, so I am not 40,yet. Don’t have teen kids, yet. but I suspect everyone, and am recovering from swearing off all close relationships. I have been a country boy since birth, maybe I am just a redneck.
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