Ok, I am going on a first date with this really awesome, cute guy I met…on match.com. Yes, yes…it’s true! Haha..don’t laugh at me, it is working for me so far!
Anyways…WHAT DO I WEAR?
I have:
Instant Shine
Instant Honesty Instant Openness
Drive Him Crazy mix…MX106-111 (I think)
Essence of Women (I bought Pink Sugar to cover)
Instant Sexiness/A
I ordered Lust After Me, Come Talk To Me and Instant Sexiness/B but they haven’t arrived yet! And my date is tomorrow!!!
Feel free to cry, “Blasphemy! Heresy! Off with his head!”
I hope I don’t incur the wrath of Jasmin for this, but why not go as a blank canvas? No pheromones.
That way, you can read his true IOIs and make an accurate gauge of his interest in you as a potential partner. You can add the pheromones later on or even at a later date if the meeting goes well.
Ooh exciting! How cool of you to ask! Here’s my try at some recommendations. I’m sure the other gals will have great ideas to share.
You have chosen some great mixes to play with. I’d go with loads of Instant Sexiness, and a bunch of Instant Shine, and just a little bit of EoW. If he seems like he might be a tad bit introverted or nervous in person, I’d go with a spray or two of Instant Openness too. Life’s too short and pheros are too fun to go naked in this kind of sitch imo. Blow him away, aimless!
Sorry Ladies I’m gonna have to agree with the guys …I think u should go bare on the first date, that way u get a taste of him not on him with the effect of pheros.
That way you get to see sneak preview of what he really is and see if u like what u see and go from there. And that way too u can see if hes attracted to u the natural u without phero effects
But if you must use a phero I would say Instant Honesty that way u get a bit more than a sneak preview of his thoughts and feelings!
I agree with Lor here. I dont think it will skew anything if you wear 2 sprays of Instant Sexiness. Then after you get to know him if you see its working out you can use more.
pheromones just add comfort and attraction they dont fool people into thinking your something your not or skew the ability of someone to make rational decisions. They just give you a little edge this is why I think its safe to wear them on a first date. If he is attracted and compatable to you he will be with or without the mones. If he is not the mones will still attract him but they wont make him compatable.
Ahem. There seems to be a certain anxiety that surfaces around females wielding any kind of power or “unfair” advantage. Come to think of it, I don’t think I’ve seen any advice for guys asking about what to wear on a first date that includes the suggestion they skip the pheros completely. But maybe I just missed it. Good point, Carrie.
The thing is, first impressions are important and set the stage for the meshing of personalities that occurs later. Gee, why not just go without a shower in tatty old clothes and make an effort not to be too charming so you can make sure he really likes you for you? Nobody would do that!
It’s all about attraction. That’s what you’re there for. Of course you are going to use whatever makes you feel attractive. Pheromones are just one more tool. Although pheros can evoke some surprising responses, we’ve got to stop acting like they are some black magic spell that turns people into zombies and makes them act and think against their will. If only that were true, heh-heh.
I can’t imagine why anyone who has pheros to make themselves more attractive would leave them out of a date that they were excited about. Me, I would go light, use a little Instant Openness, a little Instant Sexi (which actually doesn’t seem to do that much for me but I seem to be the rare exception) and a little Instant Honesty.
You can always go without pheros on the second or third date if it all works for both of you. I don’t see any evidence that pheros will turn you into a different woman or your dates into different men - what they WILL do is bring things to the surface that are already there and even make them easier to express. They’re a facilitator, not dictator, of responses.
I would want my date to look ravishing, confident and would love to get a vibe that she is open about communication. Instant Honesty, Instant Openness and Instant Sexiness all will be so desirable for me on my date. On the other hand if you have Instant Sexiness B then maybe only a little Instant Honesty.
Many women here love how IShine makes them feel and it maybe crucial for a date, but I somehow get a very male vibe from the chief molecule in IShine, i.e. TAA. You can maybe dab some on your upper lip for self effects.
Actually, Carrie, I would feel the same. I personally haven’t used pheros to influence a first date. Later on, OK, but the majority of women that I’ve known have an ASD high enough to stop any possibility of pheros having an effect at least until they are comfortable around you. Which may take a fair number of casual meetings and 1 or 2 serious dates.
It may be different for women hoping to influence men, but nevertheless, the advice would be the same for both sexes on a first date scenario.
Emphasize the social pheromones, perhaps Instant Shine and IO. Those two should help to break down barriers to conversation and getting to know each other.
Add a touch of a more sexual pheromone like EOW. Not too much, but enough to suggest that there may be some “chemistry.”
I wouldn’t worry about creating the wrong impression with someone you’re getting to know. Pheromones excel at first meetings/impressions. However, with extended interactions personality and behavior become much more important. The pheromones make it more likely that there will be the extended interaction that gives a chance for you to evaluate each other’s personalities.
I concur with Carrie, nbully79 & GWTW. I love it when my wife SHINES - is absolutely RADIANT - when we go out. Alive, strong, vibrant, openly communicative. Any pheros that will help create that are great.
And that does not have to mean loud, flashy, over-the-top. It can be a relatively quiet, low-key evening. She may even be a little mellow. But I love it when she is a radiant mellow.
Do you know which pheromones, if any, she’s using to achieve that? Is it just Shine, or other stuff as well?
And about this dilemma about wearing pheromones to a first date…
You wanna know something? Pheromones won’t change who you are.. They just enhance what’s already there. Don’t be afraid to present your best foot forward.
And also, are you going to wear make-up? Will you blow-dry your hair and put some pretty clothes on? This is from the same realm. Pheros are just slight enhancers, they are not some voodoo hypnotism that change someone’s perception of you totally. I’d feel NO GUILT about this whatever.
I would say that it would be okay to use pheros on a first date, but I suggest you just would dress up etc as you would and use a perfume you like and then as finishing toch a spray or two of a phero that is non-aggresive just warm and open and thats it. Then forget all about it and just have a good time. I would say that if you OD and he is strongly influenced from it then he might think you are like that all the time or several times or often and if he finds its too much then he is not likely to tell you depending of course of what communication you both have and since you just meeting first time then you are both a bit on edge etc so I would dress up yes, we men love that!! and then just a touch of phero to make you perfect. Besides your eyes will also be on him and so he will also be a bit nervous hoping he is presenting himself for you.
Carrie: Well for me I am not in a hurry to get busy on a date and I would like her to see me for what I am. To be honest and mature so she can see my good sides and bad sides. No need to cover up or smokescreen. If men or women OD on pheros or anything else, we are actually subconsciously sending vibes out and this is immediately picked up by the other person. Also when we get nervous and perhaps also sweat just a little, say you in a club etc, then the natural pheros you radiate will change, because nervousness implies fear and thats a hormones as well as pheromone. So we communicate in quite a few ways unwilling displaying who we really are in the moment.
If we find ourselves being nervous, usually if we just take a deep breath and relax for few seconds, then get eye contact and simply say “you know I am actually a bit nervous but I am very happy that we finally got together” that usually will mellow any tension and most normal persons will respond to you in like manner because they to are feeling pretty much the same. Honesty goes a long way, and relaxation paves the way for great timing, naturalness and ease.
Well this was first post here with the ladies, I have the highest respect for women and you are all God´s gift to us men.
I hit the wrong keys “so I would dress up yes, we men love that!!”
What that line was meant to be was this: so I would suggest you dress up yes, we men love that!!
