Okay what the heck… last night couple of my friends (guy and girl)said I come cross as cocky - stock up and kind intimating 85% of the time and thats the reason why girls don’t come up to me ? wtf I didn’t know thats how people see me and just an FYI I didn’t have anything on.
so I need to change that image ASAP or its going to hurt the so call relationship or whatever I have with this girl.
Well now, there are always some easy things you can do to fix being thought of as cocky and… stuck up, was that? Smiling more will probably help, with an open-air to it… not a smirk. Smirks dont win affection points. Notice how your eyebrows react when talking to someone and/or are positioned normally. Drawn eyebrows indicate being closed off or angry… slightly upraised eyebrows can indicate interest and sincerity in a discussion. Folding your arms as well is a body language for being closed off or withdrawn, keep that in mind. Maybe its just body language like this that is sending the wrong signals to people? Did they give you any specifics?
well they said the fact that I don’t talk to people makes them thing I am better or something and I don’t even think like that.
Hmmm… maybe you should consider wearing some instant openness then in a spot where it would have a self-effect as well as an effect on others. That way you would feel more chatty and others would be more likely to approach you.
ya ill give that a try… I mean the people who already know me are fine with me because of the fact that they know who I really am but just new people get scare or something lol
Hold up dude, sometimes words confound communication. Go back to those same people and get some feed back on what specific BEHAVIORS they think are counterproductive and also the reasons why they think the behavior is counter productive. Keep in mind it could also be a lack of behavior that gives them this impression.
If you go off changing things based on vague terms like “cocky”, “stuck up” and “kinda intimidating”, you could look wimpy, wussy or worse. These terms are very close to “confident”, “independent” and “bold”. The difference between bad and good here is small and may be only a small matter of adjusting a few minor body language or style issues.
Pheromonally Instant Gentleman should give you a more comforting manly vibe if that’s what you need.
I like the hold up dude lol 
I guess its because I stand out from the crowd I mean I am not the type that enjoys talking for no reason … there so I don’t always have lot to say unless the topic is somewhat important. and guess that can come cross as me being stock up ? I don’t know.
Stuck up could mean different things but when I think of someone as stuck up it usually means they need to be better listeners not better talkers. If you are the strong quiet guy, make a more intense effort to look at people while you listen to them and respond with questions instead of nodding and saying “right, right”. Remember the topic is important to THEM whether it matters to you or not. Failing to engage someone because what they have to say is not important IS being stuck up. LOL. Yes, I’m guilty too.
remember that most people only care if you care about them. you could go to a party, have big excited albeit brief interactions with every person you meet, and then not talk to them again the whole night. You may find out later that everyone thought you were a hit at that party.
This is because you left everyone with this feeling of “wow, he must have really liked me”.
you don’t have to do more small talk, or try to seem more accepting. Just:
a) smile more
b) look for things to appreciate in people, and tell them about it.
in terms of pheromones, I highly recommend P74(nice cool guy) and instant shine. Instant gentleman might a good choice too.
I don’t have P74 
… I really want get CTTM because believe it or not I am really shy and from what I can read that helps.
yes and no. you may find it makes you chatty, and others similarly, but the self effects will wear off over time, and if you use it around the same people all the time, they will get used to it too.
Its good to remember that pheromones are merely amplifiers of what already exists. so if you want to be a certain way. pheromones can’t ‘make’ you that way, but if you start to change the way you act, phermones will be much more effective.
ex: if you go talk to the girl instead of sitting and waiting for CTTM to make her come talk to you, you may find she has lots and lots and lots and lots and lots to talk about. however if you don’t talk to her, for all her willingness to talk, you might never speak with her at all.