Hello everyone, I guess an introduction is in order!
About myself
I realise that this may be too much information for some of you, so I added bold phrases that describe me in. However, truth be told I want to give an accurate description of myself so that constructive advice tailored to my mannerism and situation can be given for the issues I have, which I would elaborate later.
I’m a 21 y/o asian male from Singapore, currently awaiting matriculation into university next year. Built-wise, I’m lean (almost skinny) and average looking… maybe a 6/10? Nonetheless, I just ended 2 years of mandatory military service so I’m pretty fit ![]()
I am normally serious and probably a bit too mature - basically the kind of guy you might feel okay to initiate a deep conversation with right from the get-go, but not the kind to have fun and party with. However, since society at large values extroversion, I can hold my own and fake being joyful/cheery/loud with the situation calls for it, but that is seldom who I really am. With real friends though, I am different - dorky, random and the butt-of-all-jokes (in a good way
). It gets to me sometimes, but that’s another story for another day…
Basically, I am a fairly good listener, but a bad talker - I feel weird (and difficult to string sentences together) whenever someone listens to me. One point that may have contributed to my perceived age (a few people said I look 23-24 y/o) is perhaps in part due to my voice. I have a deep voice for my age/ethnicity, and whenever I speak to a room, I typically command the attention of everyone, despite being an utter failure at public speaking. When I speak to a small group of people, I feel as if they are listening with rapt attention (you know how when people normally listen, they do give attention, but the eyes look relaxed. When I talk, people’s eyes seem to become more alert… its disturbing) - almost too intense for me. I just want to talk, not give orders…
Introverted or not, my friends have said that I have started to open up since a few years ago, so I guess that’s a good thing, since nobody really values introversion any longer. In case anyone is guessing my MBTI type, its INFP. Lol, did you get it correct?
*Basically, I would wish to open up more naturally and display more assertive (not aggressive!) behavior as a person, without coming across as too mature. I had said that I am a good listener, and thus thought it would be better to have the best of both worlds when I enter the working society and ahem… cough cough dating world. *
How did i get to know Pherotalk/pheromones?
I think like most users, I was interested in colognes first. In the past 3-4 years I had been trying them out and was active in basenotes.net. Somewhere along the line, I stumbled upon this website pheromone-perfume.org, and thought it was a load of old tosh. Then in the past year, I decided to search even more in-depth into phero-perfumes, and got to a yahoo answers page linking to here. So that’s the gist of the story.
Do I still think that its a load of old tosh? Partially!
I’m really still a skeptic, because I would like to see results before I devote myself into intensely testing the various products.
MY URGENT ISSUES pertaining to my future ![]()
I said I was waiting to enter a local University next year right? Well, I hit a snag. They rejected me for the past 2 years
My grades aren’t downright bad, but they are probably in the last 10th percentile of the course that I want to get into (no its not Medicine, its not Law.) However, I already have a plan in mind (which I would prefer not to disclose) and there are few issues which I need your help with, as stated below:
I wrote the age, gender and time of meeting for fear that the wrong pheromones I use could do my harm more than good. Do these factors really matter?
If I do not specify, the person is asian.
1a. Getting help from an authority
I wish to obtain a letter of recommendation from the Member of Parliament of my constituency to assist in my university application. The MP will still probably write the letter if I had went there unprepared, but I wish for a more impactful letter that could turn the tides in my application.
- First I have to prepare what I wish to be in the letter for myself with a grassroot assistant, male/female, generally 40-50 y/o.
- Next I see the MP - male, very late 40s, is a lawyer for 20 years. The time of the meeting will probably be 8pm-11pm. He is an understanding person, and sincerely wishes to help.
1b. Getting help from my ex-teachers
I haven’t met them for quite some time, but their impression of me remains favorable. Should i get a product that instills trust or assertiveness when I meet them to explain my situation and that I would love to have their recommendation letters?
1c. Appealing for an interview
I wish to appeal to the Admission officers/Professors/Dean to grant me an interview to enter the course faculty of my choice. And that means writing (snail mail)to them or meeting them in person to maximize the impact of my case upon them.
- For the admission officer(s), I plan to try and ask for a woman, as in my opinion they are more understanding. If not, tough luck.
- Most of the professors are 40-50 years old, both genders, may be Caucasian (20%~). The deans are all male, late 40s.
- Will applying the pheromones to paper work? Or is it a freaking dumb idea? (In case I mail them)
1d. Attending the interview
University 1: The interview will most likely be an essay, followed by a talk with a couple of professors to assess my intellect and personality.
University 2: Corporate style full-on barrage. I will probably be sitting in front of a panel of professors, who will fire endless salvos of questions at me (why do you want to join this uni? What are your strengths? What do you think of this recent incident? You said this, but ended up agreeing to that… explain!). Exciting, and traumatising.
University 3: To the best of my knowledge, they have no interview.
I do not know the age of the people involved. Probably 30-50 y/o, both genders, Asian or Caucasian.
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2. Chasing girls
What, did you think I’m some kind of sexless automaton?
I would like to date soon too, my previous relationship was ages ago! I normally go for caucasian or asian girls (mostly), more of the cute or lovely instead of the omg-she’s-so-hot-1000-guys-are-chasing-her kind. I’m entering university so I guess 17-24 y/o girls are the kind I want to chase. ![]()
Questions by a skeptic
Well I did say I was one… here they are:
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Will using something that instills trust to promote deep conversations with someone good at this be too much of a good thing?
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Will using pheromones change my personality? I still want to be myself, not slowly become some kind of super party animal over the years!
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Can a person smell pheromones? I don’t have distinct body odor, but after I go for a vigorous run I can smell something spicy on my clothes. It sorts of smell like… semen
at the start, but sniff at it longer and it smells almost chemical-like… as if it was ammonia from a chemical lab! -
What do you guys think of this site, do-pheromones-work.com? Is it reliable? And these products:
a. Scent of Eros for Men
b. Alpha-7 Scented for Men
c. Liquid Trust
d. NPA for Men
e. A314
f. Pheromax
I have heard that d. and e. are rather similiar, and that both are very potent.
I also heard that f. is complete bullcrap. -
Why is it that the Singaporeans on this forum only posted a few posts (and all near their registration dates) after which, they all disappear? If the products really work that well they would have decided to participate in the forum right? I am under the impression Pheromones isn’t something you master after 4-5 tries!
Also, why is it always the same few people replying to the introductory threads?
Disclaimer: I do not wish, nor have the intention to offend anyone, only that the above statement is my observation over the past week regarding this forum and pheromones in general. -
Morally speaking, I am very conflicted regarding the use of pheromones. If it really is as effective in subconsciously influencing people’s actions, then we would be using something biologically reactive, not artificial (e.g clothes, perfume, hairstyle) anymore. In short, how would we really know our achievements, social or otherwise, is a result of our own efforts and not that of artificial pheromone enhancement?
Do you guys use pheromones every single day? Or only at times when you know there are certain significant events about to occur (e.g clubbing, interviews) and that you wish to influence it? I, for one, wish to treat a girlfriend as the way I truly am, and would never wish to use pheromones to influence her way of thinking one way or another - I can’t live with myself if she ever found out about me using things to influence her behavior around me while keeping it behind her back (a concept agonizing enough for me), which brings us back to whether our achievements are self-earned. Or maybe I am just a naive 21 y/o who knows too little about the world ![]()
Also, if everyone starts using pheromones, won’t a critical mass be hit someday, where half the people in the club/workforce are actually wearing pheromones and influencing their interactions with each other? Will chaos not ensue?
Well, whew… what an exceedingly long post! But I feel like I got a load off my chest
Please, if you do not wish to read thru the whole chunk of words, I humbly ask for you to advise me regarding the section “Urgent Matters” - its red for a reason, it concerns my future. While it may seem distasteful to read what I wish to do to secure a place in a local university, I can only say in my defense, that I wish to be in charge of my future (because no one else can), that I hope that I have impressed upon you how much time, effort and consideration I have put in with regards to my further education, and that I sincerely wish for help (even non-phero tips!) from members of the forum.
Let me end off with a quote that applies to my unconventional university application, and perhaps to all of your lives too:
“Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.”
– Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Well, that’s it! I plan on actively participating in this forum and thank you so much for having me as a member of the community!!!