Hi satyricon,
Thanks for the intro, you have provided a lot of information. I am also sorry to hear this story, as it does seem very painful for you, and her.
I’d like you to consider the social products within the instant range - Instant Openness and Instant Honesty should help her open up to you and give you the honest reasons why it is not working for her, hopefully she will elaborate on her fears soon - it does seem like she is not being 100% honest with you at this stage. Instant Gentleman is another wonderful product that may assist with attraction. I would normally suggest Ammo, but it has not worked as well with Asian women in the past.
I’d like you to read about these products and others in the Mens Guideand let us know if you have any other questions.
Good luck, and be sure to return and let us know about your results.