I’m male and about to hit 40. I’m from Wales (In the UK for those not familiar with it).
I’m not sure what to put in the personality bit because things change, people change and not necessarily for the better. I used to be fairly happy, outgoing etc. No I’m not so sure. I’m definitely moody and generally irritable.
My username says it all really, it’s all about damage limitation and repairing my LTR. To cut a long story short. My relationship is on the rocks and has been for long time. I have a 6 year old daughter. My parter has two sons and both have “issues”. One is on the Autistic Spectrum and the other has Tourette Syndrome and ADHD.
I left work to help care for my partner’s two sons. That was a mistake. I lost status when I did that and now it is time get that status back and more.
My hope is to chill things out with the family strife and get that spark back between me and my partner. I want be happier and change some aspects of my life around for the better.
I have IS, TUTH and AMMO 2012 and there is definitely something happening
I think I’ll be adding IS x2 (I used that stuff a lot), AMMO x2 and I want to try IG, A314 and TAC
I look forward to posting my experiences and maybe some reports on some of the experimental stuff if I get the opportunity to test.
That is a good range to start with and how I read your situation is that you may find that IH and the IH/IS combo will help too.
IH helps comfort, bonding and to open-up on underlying issues - The IS helps steer this into happier/playful territory as on its own IH can sometimes go deep in all the wrong ways. This will also complement Ammo, TUTH, and particualrly A314 - In a very deep trusting and meaningful way.
I’ve read a lot of your posts - they are very informative.
I am curious about IH but also very scared. My partner is very sensitive and has suffered previous abusive relationships. She has opened up to me plenty before but… I’m not sure if I want to trigger all that stuff too often.
I am keen to build more trust though, which is why I am keen on IG.
I’m loving IS. My partner even smiles at my jokes now! I’m pretty sure I’ll get all the Instant products before long.
Yes - This is where using something like IS is so important as it keeps the feeling happy and present.
You can use IO as well but that can induce an onslaught of drivel or TAA (main component of IS) for a more chilled/laid-back happy feel instead. I don’t find IO so good around A314 though. IH/IS is the quality over quantity conversation mix for me.
Yes, IShine along with IH keeps the convo’s in the green. With IH by it’s lonesome, the other person’s mood will direct the ‘barrage’ of Honest communication.
For your age, 2x is a good way to go. I also see that you included TAC. That gets me a warm fuzzy blanket feeling in the middle of winter. NICE one for any combo that is aimed at an LTR.
Start up a journal and let us all know what worked well, not so much, and not at all!
Please bear in mind that pheromones can only do so much and while it can assist to open up doors to communication in order to fix the problem, pheromones can’t fix the problems in relationships or your life itself.
The recommendations given will definitely work in sending the right signals and you can use this forum and our knowledge and experience to think of ways in addition to using the pheromones to put the spark back into your relationship.
