Hello Everyone!
I got my first order of Instant Shine and Instant Gentleman yesterday. I tried them out, 2 sprays of IS to my forearms and a single spray of IG to my neck. Went to the grocery store, didn’t notice anything out of the ordinary until I went into the checkout line. The clerk was in her early 20s and looked rather plain. She was slouching and seemed bored. When it was my turn to checkout, I noticed that her posture improved, and she had more lilt in her voice. By the time I was ready to go, she looked radiant and beautiful! She had a broad smile, put her chest out, exposed her neck, and flicked her hair. Wow! That was an incredible transformation!
Later in the day, probably about 4 hours after application, my partner came home. (I’m gay and we had an exclusive relationship for 18 years.) We hung out in the kitchen while he told me about his day. He then commented if anything was wrong. He said I was quiet and seemed sedate. I said I felt fine, maybe a little tired, but nothing was on my mind. I also asked him the same thing because seemed very sedate, not as chatty. (He didn’t know that I was wearing pheromones.)
I’ve been reading on the forums that IG can make men more introverted, particularly the wearer. Since my partner and I are introverted and down-to-earth to begin with, maybe IG was accentuating our introversion and making us more stable emotionally. So, I’m thinking that maybe IG isn’t right for me. We’re both relatively grounded guys and fall on the masculine end of the spectrum of gender behavior. I don’t think we need to be anymore grounded and secure than what we already are. But, since I purchased a to-go spray, I’ll finish it out and do more observations.
Anyway, I got interested in pheromones because of a recent experience with another guy. I’ll write about that in a journal entry later. But, suffice to say that my partner and I decided to explore ethical non-monogamy. We’ve had lots of discussions about this, and we joined a poly support group.
So now that we’re back in the dating scene, I want to explore using pheromones to make the transition a lot easier. We’re not looking to swing or have orgy parties. What works for us is having our own secondary relationship. I’m 47, soon to be 48, and he’s 52. We both have very similar temperaments when it comes to sex. We prefer to get to know a guy first, establish a friendship, and then be sexual. Typically this would be 3-5 dates in. (Yeah, this is very atypical for gay men! We also don’t go clubbing, but we manage to meet some really nice guys.)
What might be good combination of pheromones for us at this stage in life? I know that gay men have similar reaction to male pheromones as straight women, so I’m assuming that the reports of women’s responses to men’s pheromones would be applicable to our specific situation and temperament.
I’m also wondering if pheromones can be used to reduce feelings of jealousy and anxiety? We both had minor bouts of jealousy recently, but that was easily worked through with active listening. Since IG made me more sedate and possibly more secure emotionally, could it also be useful to prevent or reduce feelings of jealousy? Could someone from the poly community comment on this?
Anyway, I was planning to get TUTH, possibly Ammo, IH, and another IS. (A314 isn’t available, so I’ll have to make do with out it. That’s why I got IG instead.) I’ll like to get feedback before I submit an order.
Looking forward to reading your responses!
