I am a 42 year old man born in London but now living in the south west of the UK .
Why am I here? Well I find the science/ideas on the forum very interesting but my personal interest is that I am married but have been celibate for the last six years because my wife has no interest in sex.
To be clear (lol) I am pretty good-looking and visit the gym three times a week. I also get hit on by women fairly often. But while flirting is fun what I really want is sex and intimacy with my wife to bind together what is otherwise a fine relationship.
Earlier today I made my first purchase, A314 and TUTH (the first for work, the second for home use) but would be really interested in a y tips/thoughts about the use of pheremones to switch on my wife. For extra info she is 42 too.
You have my sympathy with your situation, my marriage has been similar for the past few years.
Along with the pheros you purchased, I’d recommend some Instant Honesty.
IH is geared to encouraged deep, intimate communication and to put people at ease so that they will open up.
Women are very complex, and if there is something lacking when it comes to closeness and security it will show in the bedroom.
It is a great need of ours to share our lives intimately with another, and this phero mix can help open up the lines of communication so that you can get to the root of the problem.
Thank you MoonlightBliss. I’ll follow up your suggestion and quite understand your point re: openness. My wife does struggle with communication for sure and this has to be a big factors in the issues.
Thanks again and I hope things improve in your own personal situation.
Overtly sexual pheros like TUTH are great in a healthy sexual relationship but can be counterproductive where other issues are involved. This is where something like IH can help by improving closeness, bonding and trust that makes it possible to open-up and deal with the issues that make intimacy difficult.
Instant Shine is another that will help steer IH in a good, happy/feelgood way.
A314 is excellent at improving your status and reminding her why you were a catch, ESP with more mature women who really tune-in to its vibe but it can also be a bit serious, severe and may not encourage the sort of communication that needs to happen. Again, IH helps the trusting, sharing, bonding aspect considerably, whilst IS gives it a more pleasurable dynamic.
Thanks Mobocaster, looks like I jumped in with both feet here, what you say makes sense. I’ll look again at these more ‘friendly’ products and decide which to go with.
Thanks again for the advice (and Androtics who unexpectedly made my first order a freebie)
I’ll order Instant Honesty at the weekend. I know it is about more than getting her hot and bothered, if she feels able to open up her feelings that would be a win all by itself.
Thank you Mickaelia, that is really thoughtful of you.
I have been trialling my first order for a week now and have seen a certain softness in my wife that I had not seen for a long time. I mean that in a good way, she has been very relaxed in my company and rather more physically affectionate.
These small steps are pretty thrilling given the whole family has been ill and she has been menstruating all at the same time.
Earlier this week I made a two orders for IH, IS, P83 and some more TUTH, hopefully enough to last nearly six months of reconnecting and rebuilding the relationship, focusing on the social vibe as suggested by others in this thread (with just a little sexiness thrown in)
My wife really does struggle with communication along with low libido and a reluctance to let her guard down. With time, love and mones I really think I can help her overcome some of these issues.
I’m not sure people are as interested in a diary about a marriage as they would be clubbing hits and misses but I’m considering transferring this thread into an occasional diary record, I will decide in the next few days.