Oh EngineerLady my fellow lesbian/bisexual friend. How are you? I have to apologize for not replying sooner - I was locked out of my precious forum account. I love it here! So you have a millions questions and don’t know where to start. Welcome to the Bold and the Beautiful! Lol. That used to be a soap opera or something. I have to say you and I are pretty similar. We are both women in a traditionally male dominated field. We’re both sexy, femme, alpha females in committed (ish) relationships. Wonder what else we have in common? 
I’ve tested a lot of pheromones (hey, I like to have fun) so I’ll give you some advice based upon my experience. My best advice though, is for you to try them yourself. The great thing about Androtics is that most of their pheromones come in a small togo size so you can test them out easily without committing to a large bottle and without breaking the bank so to speak. Since you’re an Engineer I think you will appreciate, as I do, that the pheromones are based on research and testing. They don’t make stuff for the heck of it and call it magic.
I used to work with all guys and in some ways I still do. I know what you mean by being respected by them, but also using your charm to get their assistance. And without them taking it the wrong way when you use your charm. Haha. That sounds kind of sneaky of us girls huh? For respect at work use MX300, it gives you self confidence and others show respect without you giving off that bitch vibe. Add to that Instant Sexiness and trust me the men will flock. They WILL be more helpful. Careful though, it may encourage some of them to move into the touching zone. I never had a bad experience with that. It was mostly them touching my shoulder or the back of my neck or my arm. So it didn’t get inappropriate, just apparent. If you are a true alpha female, you may want to with Instant Sexiness B instead of A. I haven’t written about it yet, but I found SexiA makes me slightly aggressive and irritable. It’s too much alpha for my alpha. But you be the judge. They both come in togo.
If you want to take that to the next level and really start feeling yourself add MX135. It’s my gem. It’s my jewel. I’d run out of food before I’d run out of MX135 'cause with MX135 I can go wrangle me a date to buy me dinner! MX135 is all about the selfies (self effects). I don’t necessarily know how it effects others because it makes me feel so darn good I don’t care. Lol. One of my favorite combos to wear is MX300 + MX135. Its like I feel good, I look good, I know I look good, and others agree.
I know that is a lot to take in. Read my journal for more information. Last word of advice though, No AMMO At Work. Never ever. It turns some guys into incredible hulk and it’s not worth making a co-worker feel like that or damaging a working relationship. With that said it’s fun in public and out at clubs/bars/lounges. With any pheromone, you have to be cognizant of your surrounds and of the effect you may be having on others. If it’s not going the way you want, wash it off and put on something else. 
If you have more questions let me know.
Until next time…