Hello...My first report!

[charles_p]

Hi everyone!

This is my first report, so it will be interesting to hear your views!

For some time now, I’ve been having issues with my confidence and self-esteem. I’m not an attractive person (visually), but I believe that I’m a nice person deep-down and I care greatly about those close to me, going out of my way to help them even if it hurts me in the process…you may think that’s kind of weird, but that’s who I am.

Yesterday I went to a club with a friend of mine. I was wearing 2 sprays of ammo and 2 sprays of instant shine.

Went to the club and headed over to the bar to order some drinks. What I like about this club/bar is that the music isn’t too loud, which means you can chat a little without shouting!

Anyway, we ordered the drinks and I was happily chatting away to my friend when we saw two girls who were very nice! I thought fantastic and went up to speak to them. We had small-talk and laughed quite a bit, I then plucked up the courage one of them to dance! But she said that “I can’t do that because people will laugh at me and my image will be destroyed for dancing with a guy that looks like you” Oh well I thought, nothing new there. The other girl didn’t really say anything and my friend saw that although I was still smiling and shrugged it off, I lost my mood slightly and so we bid them goodbye and turned back to the bar…

Literally about 5 mins later, one girl came up to me and said what aftershave am I wearing? I told her GIT by Creed and she said it was nice and would have to get her boyfriend some for his birthday. I was talking to her for quite some time about what she did etc.. and then she went off and joined her friends. Sadly, I overheard their conversation, which went something like:

“Hey Jenny what were you talking to that guy about?”
“He had a nice aftershave, got the name of it and I think I’ll get Andy some for this birthday…hehe, I always wonder why guys like him (i.e. me) come to clubs, it’s not like they’re going to get any action anyway…I mean look at him…you gotta be really desperate!”

I was a little deflated, but thought whatever, it’s her loss.

Me and my friend then headed to the dance floor…I tried to dance as best I could, people laughed but whatever, I was having fun and enjoying myself. I guess that’s what it is all about in the end!

Anyways at around 2am I headed back home, alone as usual. I’m going to another party this Friday, so let’s see what happens there! I’m planning ammo+shine+instant honesty.

God bless,
Charlie.

[LeafStamp]

You’re an AFC

You should check out IWForums and possibly LadderWiki if it ever comes back up.

But first I think you might need to sort yourself out. As the saying goes - no one’s going to love you if you don’t love yourself. So you need to take a look at yourself and like what you see - because someone out there will.

I used to suffer from low self-esteem and a bit of depression. To the point of getting chronic anxiety pains for 4 months. The only way I got over that is by saying “Fuck everyone. I’m going to do things because I want to do them.”. That was my epiphane. I’m still a nice guy and help people out - but I don’t let that control my life anymore. I say no.

The reason people judge you is because they can. Rise above it. I know this might not get through to you - God knows, it wouldn’t have with me. But eventually my self-esteem got so low that I didn’t think it could get lower, so I stopped caring. That’s when things started working out for me.

So what if strangers think you are ugly/smell bad/taste like cheeseballs? They’ll have forgotten you in a week. They’ll only remember the ones that left the good impression. I do stand-up comedy, and that’s the reasoning I give myself if I go out onstage and bomb. (think a room of about 160 people are staring at you, thinking you’re unfunny, and that you’re wasting their time and they just want you to go away). They walk away remembering only the people who did well on the night, not the ones who were bad.

And that’s how I see life. Maybe that might help you, maybe it won’t. But I don’t think phero’s will give you an easy way out from the downwards spiral. That’s something you have to do yourself

Good luck!

@charles_p

Hi everyone!

This is my first report, so it will be interesting to hear your views!

For some time now, I’ve been having issues with my confidence and self-esteem. I’m not an attractive person (visually), but I believe that I’m a nice person deep-down and I care greatly about those close to me, going out of my way to help them even if it hurts me in the process…you may think that’s kind of weird, but that’s who I am.

Yesterday I went to a club with a friend of mine. I was wearing 2 sprays of ammo and 2 sprays of instant shine.

Went to the club and headed over to the bar to order some drinks. What I like about this club/bar is that the music isn’t too loud, which means you can chat a little without shouting!

Anyway, we ordered the drinks and I was happily chatting away to my friend when we saw two girls who were very nice! I thought fantastic and went up to speak to them. We had small-talk and laughed quite a bit, I then plucked up the courage one of them to dance! But she said that “I can’t do that because people will laugh at me and my image will be destroyed for dancing with a guy that looks like you” Oh well I thought, nothing new there. The other girl didn’t really say anything and my friend saw that although I was still smiling and shrugged it off, I lost my mood slightly and so we bid them goodbye and turned back to the bar…

Literally about 5 mins later, one girl came up to me and said what aftershave am I wearing? I told her GIT by Creed and she said it was nice and would have to get her boyfriend some for his birthday. I was talking to her for quite some time about what she did etc.. and then she went off and joined her friends. Sadly, I overheard their conversation, which went something like:

“Hey Jenny what were you talking to that guy about?”
“He had a nice aftershave, got the name of it and I think I’ll get Andy some for this birthday…hehe, I always wonder why guys like him (i.e. me) come to clubs, it’s not like they’re going to get any action anyway…I mean look at him…you gotta be really desperate!”

I was a little deflated, but thought whatever, it’s her loss.

Me and my friend then headed to the dance floor…I tried to dance as best I could, people laughed but whatever, I was having fun and enjoying myself. I guess that’s what it is all about in the end!

Anyways at around 2am I headed back home, alone as usual. I’m going to another party this Friday, so let’s see what happens there! I’m planning ammo+shine+instant honesty.

God bless,
Charlie.

[matthie]

The girls are being childish, did you go to the nursery club? You’re better off without them!

[meow333x]

@charles_p

Hi everyone!

This is my first report, so it will be interesting to hear your views!

For some time now, I’ve been having issues with my confidence and self-esteem. I’m not an attractive person (visually), but I believe that I’m a nice person deep-down and I care greatly about those close to me, going out of my way to help them even if it hurts me in the process…you may think that’s kind of weird, but that’s who I am.

Yesterday I went to a club with a friend of mine. I was wearing 2 sprays of ammo and 2 sprays of instant shine.

Went to the club and headed over to the bar to order some drinks. What I like about this club/bar is that the music isn’t too loud, which means you can chat a little without shouting!

Anyway, we ordered the drinks and I was happily chatting away to my friend when we saw two girls who were very nice! I thought fantastic and went up to speak to them. We had small-talk and laughed quite a bit, I then plucked up the courage one of them to dance! But she said that “I can’t do that because people will laugh at me and my image will be destroyed for dancing with a guy that looks like you” Oh well I thought, nothing new there. The other girl didn’t really say anything and my friend saw that although I was still smiling and shrugged it off, I lost my mood slightly and so we bid them goodbye and turned back to the bar…

Literally about 5 mins later, one girl came up to me and said what aftershave am I wearing? I told her GIT by Creed and she said it was nice and would have to get her boyfriend some for his birthday. I was talking to her for quite some time about what she did etc.. and then she went off and joined her friends. Sadly, I overheard their conversation, which went something like:

“Hey Jenny what were you talking to that guy about?”
“He had a nice aftershave, got the name of it and I think I’ll get Andy some for this birthday…hehe, I always wonder why guys like him (i.e. me) come to clubs, it’s not like they’re going to get any action anyway…I mean look at him…you gotta be really desperate!”

I was a little deflated, but thought whatever, it’s her loss.

Me and my friend then headed to the dance floor…I tried to dance as best I could, people laughed but whatever, I was having fun and enjoying myself. I guess that’s what it is all about in the end!

Anyways at around 2am I headed back home, alone as usual. I’m going to another party this Friday, so let’s see what happens there! I’m planning ammo+shine+instant honesty.

God bless,
Charlie.

bro i used to have the same problem..im 5’3, fat and socially awkward
can you tell me a lil about you? age, looks, social skills?

[charles_p]

@meow333x

bro i used to have the same problem..im 5’3, fat and socially awkward
can you tell me a lil about you? age, looks, social skills?

Well I’m 25, I’m overweight and not exactly a good-looking, or even average-looking guy! But I’m happy with what I’ve been given…it’s not like I lose any sleep at night over these things, you are what you are…but it’s only human to feel a little deflated when others, especially others you really like, say such things about you.

Social skills? I’ve never been afraid to approach girls…I like to think of myself as a good conversationalist and am polite to people.