Hello, My name is Harsh. I’m 25 year old guy from London. I’m pretty asocial, a bit socially anxious and have consistently picked academic courses(Btec ICT in College, then Computer Science in Uni) and a profession(Programmer) that coincidently has made and does make it near to impossible for me to meet girls my age on a casual basis. For example, currently at work there are 2 women in the office, none of which are in my age group. Which means I’m extra quite and awkward in social situations, especially when there are are attractive girls around.It sounds stupid but being completely surrounded by guys for 10 years has completely disconnected me on a conversational level with the opposite gender, unless I’m being formal.
So lately I’ve actually consciously been trying make an effort to be more social by pretty much any means I can think of. I joined the Gym, finally bought clothes for every social situation I could think of so i could never use it as an excuse, did uncharacteristic things like went on a stag holiday which is not my thing but it was an experience, pretty much anything that would help get me out of my house. I’ve also recently realised that i do have to two saving graces. I clean up a lot better than I thought, in fact I surprised a lot of people and 2, a decent amount of alcohol will flip my personality from introverted to extroverted like i’ve seen no other. These things help but relying on alcohol for anything more than a few good nights of laughs, is not really practical, I don’t want to be become an alcoholic just to be social.
The biggest problem I’m still having is being able to connect with strangers, regardless of gender. It takes me along time for me to build a connection with people and that’s where my biggest weakness lies. That’s where I think the pheromones will help. There are a few pheromones that sound pretty awesome. Instant Shine is probably the most appealing as as well as instant openness. I’ve done some reading throughout the forum and I have decent grasp on how they work, which ones do what. I also know pheromones are not a magic bullet and I know ill have to work on my social skills but any help I can get is a boon.
In summary I’m someone whose leading a life I didn’t plan to be living, I’m doing everything I can to steer it in a direction I can be happy with and I think pheromones are something I need to give an honest go.
Welcome! You know I prity much started in the same place as yourself. Very introverted and somewhat analytical. But at some point I realized that I could use this intelligence to my advantage! Observing social interaction and eventually finding here.
But the biggest hurdle to overcome in yourself is being self conscious. I think the biggest thing to do internally to overcome this is realizing that everyone around you are just people too. They all act in almost predictable ways once you’ve observed enough personality types. Who cares if they judge you, their usually more preoccupied with what others are observing of themselves. Yes, after that point building social skills and casual talk is useful.. It can just be a matter of knowing a few basic topics of interest to carry a conversation for the most part
What your going to find here is a new catalyst in which to grow yourself. I see you’ve done some reading which is great, the more you can learn to master this art the further it will help you evolve. But I must recommend a product that has some respect vibe to it. Either look into IG or AMMO for this. I think it could change your life, being that other s will hold you in a higher regard while you may experience some self effects in terms of self confidence.
The IO and IS will definitely help with social anxiety and put you in a more cheerful mood, that mixed with either ammo or IG and you should be off to a great start!
Be sure to let us know how it goes, and don’t be shy asking about applications here! Were here to help!!
Great that you are already being initiative, think that’s a good start to your journey, you have chosen IShine and IO for a starter, at yoru age this is a good starting point
Changes starts with yourself, and I can see that you are already doing so, great to have you here!
Hello!!! Harsh_UK… a welcome to you!!! Computer programmer… hmmmm… I think the title gave it away!!!
Wow… such an excellent intro post. Gives some good points as to what you want mones to do for you. As you have been working on facets of your person, such as your wardrobe and physical makeup…
The social interactions, small talk and flirting is where you’ll need to focus on… Mones will help and the ones you thought of.. Instant Shine and IO are a very good start. I also think that you could also use AMMO as a confident, sexy man leader of the group vibe… BUT, I can’t stress enough, YOUR ATTITUDE, YOUR EXPRESSIONS, DEMEANOR, YOUR WALK have to have congruity and HARMONY to the chemical mone signal that you wish to portray…
NOW, as you may have gathered, this forum has been around for many years and has accumulated some serious advice, not only on mones but, socially focused as well. Check out some classic threads that I think you will appreciate.
I know you have the WILL to make the changes… now, let the forum help you out while you make those changes!!! Start up a journal in the men’s section to get advice and thoughts from the more experience mone users!
You really don’t want that every time you got to make that switch from introverted to extra that you got to have some alci in you so am really happy you found us.
I totally agree that IO is the first product you should look at to ease you into conversation and break the iceeeeeeeeeee.
IH for deeper level of communication and Ammo to give of that strong, masculine vibe.
Let us know what you decided on how it worked for you compared to alcohol.
