I am a 35 yr old female from Colorado. I found you by looking for pheromones online. I have been with my 49 year old “boyfriend” for 15 years and am now trying despretly to get his attention. So any advice from anyone is welcome. My only question is what can I do?
Hi and welcome to the forum!
This is a really friendly community with lots of useful and fun info to read in the treads and heap of great people to chat to and get advice from.
It’s a lot easier for us to suggest phero’s for you to try if you tell us a bit more about yourself and your personality. Would you say you are shy, outgoing etc? How do you relate to others?
Hello there! 
What do you mean by what can you do?
If you mean pheromone wise, there are many different pheromones you can try. We can help you choose some, but need to know a little more about you.
How would you describe your personality? Are you shy or outgoing?
Is your boyfriend an alpha male?
Are you looking for any self-effects?
nice meeting you!
~Tiffany~
Sorry. I am not long winded. I mean what should I try with the pheromones and can some one offer some advice on how to get his attention. I am not shy but lean (weirdly) toward shyness with him, yes even more so after 15 years. I used to be 110 pounds and gained some weight over the years. I blame the wieght partially but I am still a curvy sexy woman 15 YEARS YOUNGER THAN HIM!! What the ??? I am also a little more than a little angry.
Hello and welcome to the forum.
Well I am going to leave the pheromone suggestions up to the ladies as they would know much better than I,
As far as the relationship goes - guys can be dense but we do pick up on the anger … I would think the best thing to do would be to talk to him in a very non-threatening but honest way. (You could always wear Ishine and IH when you do this to keep it a little upbeat but also help pry thoughts out of him.) If you go in with “You are doing this …” then he will immediately go defensive. Better to start out with “I feel like we are not as close and this makes me feel …” or “I miss when we used to …”
Just my 2 cents - married 20+ years - and always happy to answer questions …
Hi There,
Well Pheromonally I suggest Instant sexiness and since they both come in to-go size I would try both kinds A and B and see which one you like best.
Next I suggest IH for deeper communication and a feeling of closeness and connection
Ishine for a warm youthful charismatic vibe.
You mention your shy more with him now then before and the mention of weight gain indicates your self esteem is taking a hit here. Its time to pamper yourself and in doing so you end up pampering him as well and increasing your confidence and self esteem.
Talking is great, I have been married a long time myself but talking is not what keeps him interested or paying attention. You can ask for attention but just like in the beginning of the relationship you have to give him a reason to give it. He should do the same for you as well.
Girl, now one of the best ways to grab his attention is to grab the attention of other men in front of him. I am not talking about cheating of course but a little flirting go’s a long way. The reason I started using mones was to grab my husbands attention as well. Use your mones when you go out together anywhere as well as just around him. They do grab attention and he will notice it after a while.
I do many other things to keep our relationship fresh because I know that after a while it can be taken for granted and grow stale and the competition is fierce out there these days. If your weight is a issue for him mones wont change that. I would never suggest losing weight for a man anyway and that should only be done for ones own self esteem and health. If you feel its a issue for you and your own piece of mind get a sexy excercise video and get busy. I love Carmen Electras sexy workouts and I find when am doing them my hubby pops in the family room to see what I am up to. First two times I used the tape I never made it to the end because he got so worked up we had to take a naughty break. Getting in shape can be fun LOL
Other Things I have done to keep things fresh and they are just suggestions to give you ideals…
Victoria Secret is your friend. LOL Sexy nighties and undies make you feel sexy as well as grab his attention.
Flirt with him, We tend to stop doing this once in the relationship and we shouldn’t. Just like women need to feel sexy and desirable so do men and this is the number one reason they stray or bring there attention elsewhere. Someone else begins to make them feel this and draws their attention. Not saying he is cheating or anything but may as well cut him off at the pass so he doesn’t think about it.
Be naughty once in a while. I leave sexy messages on my husbands cell phone voice mail or send him a sexy email even though he is right in the other room.
Get caught staring at his package once in a while. This one always gets my hubby going.
Not saying you do this but dress LOL My friend had a similar problem and we were all talking about it last girls night out and I had to gently tell her that every day when she gets home from work its not a good ideal to pop on the sweats and old t shirt.
I could go on for days with tips, but my point is to shake things up. Give him a reason to pay attention because like everything else in life things can be taken for granted and lose its luster unless we take the time to polish it up.
This is a good subject to open a post in the lounge about because a lot of ladies come here for mones for the same reason your here and we can share our views, advice and tips on it. The men can chime in with their tips as well. its always great to get both perspectives. I will whip up a tips post tommorrow. 
Your GC is on its way
Tisha
Hostess/Guide
As Tisha said, either of the Instant Sexiness products (a or b) are excellent, and Instant Honesty would definitely help with communication.
Try not to try so hard to get his attention.
Instead of focusing on him, try focusing on other things like a new hobby or project.
If you make it seem as though its not that big of a deal, and you have better things to do, that just might bring him around.
Of course don’t do it in a rude or retaliatory way, just get very absorbed so that he realizes that he’s not the only interesting thing on the block, and that you don’t need his constant attention to be happy
I agree with this partly, You should focus and pamper on yourself because you deserve it and this is what builds self esteem and confidence but just as humans need attention to thrive so do relationships. It doesn’t have to be sexual attention all of the time. There are other factors that connect us and mones that can help in those areas as well like communication and connection. I tried the “I don’t care and have better things to do angle” It didn’t work for me at least. Playing hard to get only works in new relationships. He already has ya.
Having been in your shoes and taking both roads. I found pulling his attention back to me on a male to female level evokes more interest and attention from a man and in turn they begin to take interest and pay attention in other factors in your life.
Its just the way we are made, Men are aggressive and are visually and sexually driven, They are the hunters providers and protectors. This is how they define their worth Women are emotionally driven. We are the nurturers the listeners and the bonders. Its a biological reality and traits that we are born to. This is not to say a women is not as strong or smart as a man or that we need men to define ourselves. We can conditions our actions and beliefs but we can never escape those biological traits we all have. The feminists may not like that but what they forget is its those very traits and basic instincts that give women power and define us. Its those traits that men are drawn to.
OK bored you enough LOL,
Tisha
Hi, I have also tried this technique, he doesn’t seem to care at all. The stuff I bought and tried all week did nothing. I am afraid it may be time to just let it go. How did you pull his attention back? I am trying very hard to loose the extra pounds, but he just doesn’t seem to notice anything I do right, only what I do wrong.
Thanks,
bubbies