Hello everyone, I am a 32yo AfAm woman. I have been “cursed” with what I call “The Friend Complex” . Most of my friends are guys. I can hang out with a house full of men and totally be at ease, and they at ease with me. They constantly tell me how great I am, compliment my looks/style of dress/hair and say how fortunate the man who wins my heart will be. Some of them have shared personal things with me that they haven’t told anyone else, so I’m pretty sure that I am approachable and people trust me. Don’t get me wrong, I cherish that people are so comfortable with me, but hate the fact that my relationships rarely progress past the “just one of the boys” stage.
Does anyone remember the Vanessa Williams song, “Save The Best For Last”? I can so relate to the verse:
How could you give your love to someone else
And share your dreams with me
Sometimes the very thing you’re looking for
Is the one thing you can’t see
The above situation has occurred more times than I care to relate…
So I’ve decided to look into something that will give me an edge. In a couple of weeks, I will be visiting a dear friend and her new husband. Her husband has 5 awesome single friends who I hit it off with almost immediately at the wedding. The guys seem excited that I’m coming to visit, making plans to take me out and so on. I would love to test Instant Sexiness and Instant Openness to see if one guy in particular “ups the ante” , so to speak, but I’m totally open to suggestions.
Read over the product descriptions for the commercial products for women on the SmartMones store. You will be able to get a good idea about what some of the well-tested products do.
Welcome to the forum. Jas will be by soon with your GC I think she is taking a little break for the holiday weekend. She posted they would have limited staff this week.
Start out with the to-go products in the smartmones store above. They are small and good for testing so you can get a feel for what works for you without spending a ton of money.
Instant sexiness is great and will make you feel sexy and attract others. Remember when you feel sexy you send off a automatic vibe and its not a best pal vibe. Its comes in a A or B. To go only comes in A and most women start with that to see if that fits there personality more. It also has cops in it so that helps turn thing to a more sexual flirty nature.
Instant shine is a great product and forum favorite. Its a very upbeat youthful type mix which brings everyones moods up.
Instant Openness is good to help people talk and open up more to you but Instant Honesty will make them open up more intimately if mixed with the right products like IS/A or Lust after me.
Lust after me dosnt come in a to-go bottle but its reported to be good stuff.It attracts attention of a sexual nature. You have to decide for yourself on that one because its expensive. try doing a search in the ladies forum to see reports about this product.
Lastly alot of these products are going to help you feel more confidence and I suggest you take advantage of that and flirt a little. Send out that signal that you like being pals but you are interested in more.
Well its good to always start out with one at a time. This way you can get a feel for what each product does and how much you need to wear to make it work for you.
2 sprays is a good place to start. Spray them to places that warm up like chest, pulse points on neck, wrist. I like to spray one in my hair because most of our heat excapes from the head and when you move it gets the pheromones out there but I have really long hair. If you dont see any reactions up the dose a little till you find what works for you. Some people need 2 or 3 and some people need 4 or 5. Dont go much beyond that because to much can cause no reactions at all.
After you know what dose and what reactions are caused by what products then try mixing.
example of a mix
I have worn all 3 at the same time
2 sprays Instant sexiness
3 sprays of shine
2 sprays of Instant Openness
Oh and if you dont like the smell of them you should let them dry down for about 15 minutes then you can cover with your own scent. I really dont mind the scent myself so I can go either way with pretty much all the products but alot of people dont like the smell of neroli.
Hi chocaramel, I was wondering how things are going with your pheromone experiments. I’m still kind of new here myself, and enjoy checking out the different threads, and post, and just came across yours today.
Thats a nice poem you posted, its a shame that you havent progressed with relationships as much as you wish you had.
Just out of curiosity, how do you dress/act around guys? I’ll make it simple for you, us guys are generally stupid at picking up signals that a woman is interested in us short of doing a strip tease. Thats with the exception of most of the men on this forum, who have picked up learning to notice discreet indicators of interest.
I’m not saying you should be obvious but if you are giving off the wrong signs a guy you actually like might not think you are interested.
I did as Tisha suggested and did 2-3 of ISx and IO covered with Pink Sugar. I was interested to see what the reaction would be. One guy who is normally very reserved around women (I later found out) was all sorts of talkative, sweet and complementary to me. As our conversation continued, we discovered that we have a great deal in common (music, hobbies, future goals). It kinda freaked the both of us out. My friend and her husband were in shock at how he was acting. Her husband even went as far as to say that he had never seen him respond to a woman the way he responded to me. When they “innocently” questioned him about me later that evening (why do friends do that? LOL), he indicated that he was interested. He’s got some family obligations going on with him right now that prevent him from getting too serious right now, but I still think of this as a hit because the option of something down the road is there, even if it’s not right this second. I’m OK with that for now. Because he lives several states away, I haven’t seen him recently, but we do keep in touch. He wants to come to my town for a visit, so we’ll see what happens.
The Instant Shine worked wonders too…I believe that my friend’s husband tolerates me because I am one of her best friends, but he has always been a little threatened by our relationship and has shown this in some offhanded comments he’s made to me and about me in the past. Anyway, I had the IS on and was around him, and he was really, really nice to me, couldn’t do enough for me. Really something!!!
Rattle, I get what you’re saying. But I’m just not a super-flirty kinda girl. Maybe my close friendships with guys has cursed me in this area. I’ve heard the guys speak disparaginglyabout girls who wore tight, revealing clothing or who were real touchy-feely. That’s not my demeanor anyway, but after what I’ve heard from them, I would never go there. I usually listen for interests of theirs and ask a question or two to get them to open up so I can learn a little more about them. Maybe the IO adds a lil’ sumthin to this M.O…
If you like the chattiness of instant openness you’ll enjoy honesty too. Tishas post in the Womens section titled Womens Pheromone Guide is a must read if you haven’t seen it.
It looks as if this post was lost in the shuffle, hope you get your gift cert. soon.
Seems like you’ve the right approach to men, alot of guys would be put off women who dressed like…well, theres no nice way of saying it but whores…From your latest post it does seem like the pheromones have done the trick so from this I’m guessing your overall ‘game’ is good.
By wrong signals, I meant closed-off/defensive body language such as a folded arms, chin down posture.
I am so glad the products are working out and it will just get better as you learn to use them and what works best for you in certain situations.
You dont need to wear tight cloths or be flirty. Although a little subtle flirting once your interested in someone wont hurt
What rattle says is true though. Your posture and the way you engage in conversation with someone shows your interest in them. If you have a closed posture. Arms crossed, no eye contact, standing with body facing partly away from person, ect… It sends a signal that you lack confidence and/or are uninterested in them. I am not saying you do this by the way.
Look forwar to hearing more about how it is going with the products. Stop by the ladies section to chat when you can.
Sorry to be that guy that uses your screen name to hit on you, but I’m going to be that guy. You sound delicious! I wonder if you really are. With a name like that you don’t need anything here except a … Oops never mind. You can tell I’m a guy and I always have one thing on my mind.
Sorry we missed you in this thread, but hey it was your name that caused quite a stir. Why not tell us how you came up with it???
Oh yeah I sent out your email GC via the Candy Land game. Once you see it in your inbox all you have to do is roll a 3 with the dice 11 times and it will open and spray you with hot fudge, caramel, whip cream and some gooey ooey chocolate syrup. Makes a mess, but so yummy and fun.
. Most of my friends are guys. I can hang out with a house full of men and totally be at ease, and they at ease with me. They constantly tell me how great I am, compliment my looks/style of dress/hair and say how fortunate the man who wins my heart will be. Some of them have shared personal things with me that they haven’t told anyone else, so I’m pretty sure that I am approachable and people trust me. Don’t get me wrong, I cherish that people are so comfortable with me, but hate the fact that my relationships rarely progress past the “just one of the boys” stage.
, so to speak, but I’m totally open to suggestions.
