Hi, here having problems with girlfriend.

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nice to know of this site.

I am aged 20, male.

A Singaporean, and I’ve been reading this forum for some time, but just reading. Here to try something out this time.

I had this girlfriend for a year or so, she has a strict ‘no-sex-before-marriage’ policy, so I respected it. We make out, and soon, she had this barrier against me.

We were no longer making out, she had this fear of me, and I hope to find a remedy for the situation here. I’m handling it fine except for the close and intimate relationship we had before. It’s all just holding hands and kissing on lips.

I wanted to get more out of this relationship. I hope being here will change things. I really want to get back with her like before, and sustaining it.

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Welcome.

You might want to consider talking this out with her. It sounds like you already have a good idea of why she is acting as she is.

Ih is a good product for heart-to-heart conversations.

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Hello and welcome to the forum.

A lot of guys come to the forum with a variation of this problem. Communication is the key to any relationship.

Please read the thread in my signature block for Married Guys. I know you are not married but many of the ideas carry through for dating or longer relationships.

What i would recommend for the talk is some IH. It helps generate feelings of connection and often deeper conversation as a result. It should help her open up about whatever the issue is. It may not be what you want to hear, but it may well be from the heart.

Another product to consider for the talk would be IShine. It could help her to feel a little more upbeat and hence willing to talk even about something difficult.

Please ask any questions.

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I’ve tried talking to her, but she doesn’t say much. Usually ending up with ‘it’s okay’ or ‘nevermind..’. I don’t know how to talk to her anymore.

Sometimes, she tries to convince herself to make-out with me, but she’s scared of regretting. I can tell she’s trying her best, maybe she’s faking, maybe not.

I just want to help her overcome her barrier.

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Well a good combination of IH and Ishine will help her open up about what she wants and expects.

At the same time there are other members from Singapore here also and the impression I get is that a lot of the girls are like your girlfriend. Very conservative when it comes to dating.

It sounds like she does not trust herself making out with you. Perhaps if you assure her it will not go any further she may be more inclined to at least make out a little. And if she gets somfprtable with that …

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IMO, she might lost some trust in you. so try IH as other guru here suggested.

Reading your post, I think of several cases she might become this NOT-LIKE-BEFORE.

  1. Lost of trust: maybe something you have done make her feel this. Try to convince her, and inspire her that you love her this much. (even if you are pretend to do so, try your best)

  2. No-Fun/Bored: maybe there has not been so much fun being with you/taking with you lately.
    Solution: being with her, you need to give her all type of taste of life. Make her happy and laugh out load, make her sad, make her flushed/shy, even making her cry (but not too often).

Do not spend all your love her (60percent i suggest) or put too much pressure of love with her. Give her some personal space, and thinking back for you. For example, 2 days to show that you care for her, love her, then a break of a day (to make her missing you, missing your caring, as she might feel today she is missing these/that thing from you).

Initiate some thing humor or fun. Teasing is a great fun with girl at this age. Try to tease her sometime, then compliment the teasing by praising her.

Do not tell her everything all at once, you need to learn to initiate sentences, and make her inerested, and ask you back what she want to know. This is a great communication skill. If you don do this and speaking blah blah blah alone, she might think ‘‘I AM BORED with all your words, why telling me these?’’

Do care for her, but do NOT go into too personal.

Do not do something again and again. Bored

For asian gals, using these mixes (Thighen then Loosen, care-ignore, tease-praise) would work well from my experience.

Many more to learn in our life!
Think before you do!!!

so sleepy now, I am going to bed now.
See you all tomorrow

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Thank you. All, especially fantisto. I think you showed me what’s wrong with myself. Will order IH once my paycheck is in. Thank you again.

This forum is more than just promoting pheromones huh? Haha. I’m having a good time here.

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Actually, someone will be around later to give you your $25 gift certificate, which will come in your email. This should be enough to cover the cost of 2 to-go’s. Instant Honesty and Instant Shine would be perfect for you to start with :slight_smile:

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Welcome to Pherotalk Overtone!

When you are inlove or love someone sex is a natural expression of this love. I am glad that you respected your girlfriend’s decision to wait when another guy would have gone or tried to pressure her.

As the guys/girls suggested Instant Honesty is good for intimacy and will make her feel close enough to open up.

She being afraid is not the best sign at this time and you want to make her comfortable with you and trust you. A314 is a trust and respect pheromone and you might wanna give it a try. Give her some personal space and pretend that sex is not an issue or on your mind.

This brings to mind my firs time.:stuck_out_tongue: I was totally afraid and unsure, he maintained a relationship and kept a distance when we were together. Eventually, I dealt with my fears realized that’s not all he wanted and we made magic. shhhh, this is between us

Your GC is on it’s way!