Hi, new user and new mom Hoping to rekindle spark :)

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Hi,

I’ve recently become a mom, my DS is 3 months and amazing but I’ve seen to Have lost some some spark with my partner. it’s been a looong time-and certainly not because of my side. My significant other recently confided that he sees me more as a sister than a sexual partner. Which was rather devastating to me.

I’ve worked hard to keep and get back into shape. I fit into my old pants and while I’m still working to tone my abs I don’t feel like I’ve let myself go. I’m hoping using some phermones will help remind him what he saw in me.

From reading the formum I was thinking of trying some instant sexiness A and one I got the hang of that some instant honesty in case it was more than just transition that was bothering him.

But I am hopin for some feedback - is there another product I should try first for my purposes? Or for being a newbie?

I’m sure these questions do get asked a lot- I did try reading the forum first- but would love some feedback and advice- thanks a ton in advance :slight_smile:

I’ll be sure to report back with results.

~D

(I’m 23, and live in CA)

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I think you’ll find some great connections here, Dove. Welcome, and thanks for a candid introduction.

I’m not going to speculate on what will work for any specific individual guy – but the products you’ve identified sound like a great starting point on the road to discovery.

Some of the ladies will have more specific comments & observations. In the meanwhile, thanks again for sharing your situation and know that the folks here will be glad to help as they can.

Cheers!

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HI there, Welcome to the forum

For your case, try Instant Sexiness A or B and IH.

Instant Sexiness A will make you sexy, attractive and tought, the Angelina Jolie type. IS B will make you sexy and attractive, more feminine type.

Lust After Me is good for sexual but it is out of stock.

IH will make him closer to you. It can make him talk in more personal to you.

Good luck

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Hi Dove, welcome on board.

Coming from the same problem but from the male perspective ( wife lost interest after childbirth), I appreciate the frustration you feel.

Now before ladies jump down my throat, this post is purely focussing on the male perspective.

It’s a hell of a shock to the system for a guy, all of a sudden, he has a lot more responsibility, our entire attitude to life changes in the instant we first meet the baby.

He will get his libido back, the best thing to do is try to find a quiet time (yes, I know!) and discuss it. Believe me, whether or not you can get back into your old pants is not the issue!

Personally, I was scared to even go near my wife for a few months after our son was born, mainly (and it’s taken me 4 years to realise this) because I was terrified of an ‘accident’ and having to put her through that ordeal again. She then got into the mindset of 'he doesn’t find me attractive, I’m fat and floppy etc) Don’t let this happen, four years later, my marriage still has major problems.

IS/A is great, you might want to look at Instant Honesty to help get to the roots of his worries. We do have emotions, we do have concerns, we also retreat into our ‘cave’ when things can’t easily be solved. If he doesn’t want to tell you, he won’t tell you, it’s not a truth serum. What it can do is make it easier for him to open up if he wants to

One final thought, there have been some posts about whether pheros can affect the mother/baby bond. I suggest you have a look at those

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Hello Welcome to Pherotalk :slight_smile:

My name is Tisha and I am the hostess and Phero guide here on PT.

OK I got good news and just slightly bad news that we can work around. Your baby is three months old correct ? Babies bond partly with their parents through their natural pheromone signatures. So there are some products you will want to avoid for another month or so like the heavy alphas. MX134, MX300, TUTH and straight TAL. The rest babies respond very well to and it just so happens these are the ones you will be needing at first.

I would suggest increasing touch and verbal communication a little when you first start using them to give him comfort. They will not harm him or make him not know you. They are just part of how they bond. I am not trying to scare you or discourage you, there is nothing to be scared of. I am a mom myself and I just want you to have all the information.

Instant sexiness A would be a great start and some IH. I do suggest you keep a eye out for LAM when it comes back. This is a high copulin mix, not a sisterly mone product if you know what I mean. Ishine is a great addition to add warmth and charisma.

Now for some girl to girl advice. I have two boys myself and when I had them my husband started acting the same way. I am not saying its normal and happens to everyone but it happens. Thing is… that little baby boy is getting all the attention and the big baby boy starts to feel like number two. He is not jealous of the baby he is jealous because your connection with the baby is stronger then your connection to him or at least he perceives it this way. I know your tired babies can do that even though its a joyfull tired. But its time to run on down to Victoria Secret and get something you would never wear in front of your brother.

You want to pull out all the stops here and use what ever means necessary to let him know your not his sister or anything like it. Leave dirty messages on his cell phone, Get a sitter and spend alone time with him, Get caught walking around naked, Thats my favorite :smiley: When the kids were baby small and it was alright to be naked around them I would clean the bathroom naked with the door open. My hubby would go “Holy shit what are you doing” and I would innocently say… “Oh Im sorry I am using bleach and didnt want to ruin my outfit”. Get caught staring at his package, this increases sexual tension :stuck_out_tongue: One good thing to do is if you do happen to go out somewhere together even just the store wear your mones. Its quite eye opening for a guy to see other men taking a second look at their wives.

By the way after those first tough years I promised myself never to stop trying to make my marriage more spicy which lead me to using mones. It took a little while for him to respond to them because they have pre conceived notions and it takes a little time for them to process and reprogram those notions but dont give up. They do come around.

I do hope you will participate in the forum. There are alot of great women here who can give you lots of advice and ideals on how to grab his attention with mones and other means :wink:

Your GC is on its way :smiley:

Tisha

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Well now Ms. Dove … it just isn’t going to get any better than that. Give it a go & let us know.

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Thank you so much, it is helpful to know what to look out for with my son and how to help him cope. He will be four months in a week so it seems that he is old enough to be able to start a little…I’ll be going slow.

I especially appreciate the girl to girl advice- he started freaking out even when I was pregnant, so it has been a long time…which means that sort of thing comes less naturally to me than it used to after being rejected so many times. But I think a few of those would work pretty well. :slight_smile: