Well, I’m a 37 year old male living in Oregon. I’m married, but have been separated from my wife for 1.5 years. I won’t go into all the craziness of why we are separated, but I’ll say that I’ve worked through my issues and she, well, she’s got issues and is working through them (slowly).
At any rate, I’ve been working on getting back together with her over the last 1.5 years. We came close to getting back last fall, but it fizzled out.
As far as sex, well… there has been none with her since, well… hmmm… years!
So I’m looking at all the different angles to get over the hump so to speak. I need some mojo to get her moving back towards me again. She flat out states that she can’t be OPEN to me. The openness is the biggest issue with her. In order for her to “come back to me,” she states that she has to allow herself to be vulnerable to me. That seem to be the WALL that’s there and she can’t clear it. It look like only time will heal this (her inability to be completey open and vulnerable to me).
This process is taking forever and so I thought I might see how pheromones could help as a catalyst.
The only risk here is that she is moody. The last thing I want to do is spray a bunch of pheromone on me and have her be pissed!
I just ordered some AMMO… for the sake of experimentation and getting a general feel of pheromones. I do go out to bars with a few single friends of mine. So I plan on testing the pheromone waters out in public.
Based on what I’ve read, I plan on purchasing “Instant Female Magic” since my goal is for my wife (we are seriously on the edge of divorce) to drop her guard and open up to me. I can worry about the sex part further down the road, though if she suddenly wants sex (this would be nothing short of a miracle) I certainly won’t stop it!
You’re absolutely right, IFM is what you want to make her feel more comfortable and safe around you and take the edge off her moodiness. It’s great for that, and for any hormonal weirdness we women go through. Consider it the pheromonal equivalent of CHOCOLATE.
Another thing you’ll want to have is IH, which will help you two get down to the nitty gritty and encourage the level of safety and openness you need to achieve.
Later on when you’re approaching the possibility of being sexual again, tuth may be a great firestarter, but I wouldn’t pull that one out until you feel your chances of success are good. Until then it may just agitate her.
A314 might also be worth a look if increasing her trust and respect for you as a provider and partner would be helpful here.
good luck with your marriage, we’ll be here for you and hope to see you post about your experiences!
Firstly you’ve found yourself in the right place to get some pheromone assistance. Welcome.
Secondly, I can tell you that Carrie’s advice is absolutely spot on and what I would recommend myself. Instant Female Magic and Instant Honesty to begin recreating your connection, possibly some A314 if you need to demonstrate a higher value than that she normally associates with you and finally Turn up the Heat if the other 3 work and there’s a possibility of moving back into the ‘sexual partner’ zone!
And of course, I’m sure you’ll have fun with your Ammo out and about with your pals. It’s a well rounded product and one that I have recently returned to with great success.
I hope it works out for you and look forward to reading your tales of success.
All those advice from Nibbla and Carrie are wonderful!
I support the idea of using turn up the heat. It will let u have what u haven’t had for years . Don’t use too much thought or she will be very distant!
Instant honesty will probably get you guys more and deeper conversations, a great way to reset and restart ur love life!
Pheromones are not a magic formula - what you are looking at is some serious business. The pheromones will not solve that by themselves but if you are working at it - preferably with outside help - then they might be able to give you a little boost.
Ammo is a great product and helpfully it will remind her of some of what attracted her to you in the first place.
But based on my years of marriage I would go with Instant shine to help lighten the mood when you are together, Instant Honesty to help foster deep convesations which may help you get to the root of things while creating a sense of connection and Instant Female Magic to help soothe her when she is agitated.
I hope this helps. Please ask any questions. And good luck in getting back together.
thanks for all your great input people and encouragement. i also appreciate the womanly input, carrie. i do realize that there is no magic solution to my situation, but i’m certainly all about trying different angles.
looks like i will be investing some “Instant” and some “Instant” that, in the near future and will let you know how this progresses!
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