Hi ladies, I have a question about attraction, I hope you don’t mind me asking
My LTR is largely non-responsive to pheromones - I know it takes time to adapt to a new signature but I see very little (though some of the socials have had some communication enhancement I think, and communication is what I’ve been working on but ironically it seems to be leading to the friend zone).
So here’s my question: if you are in a bar with your man and other ladies are attracted (however subtley) do you notice? ie. if say, Ammo is having no discernible impact on my LTR but other ladies in the bar are paying some kind of attention does that become a by-proxy attraction affect of Ammo on my LTR? She’s pretty chilled and I don’t want to make her jealous, I’m just trying my darnedest to re-encourage her seeing what she did in the first place across a dimly lit room, LOL. And I’m wondering if seeing other people see something in me will make her start to re-notice things herself.
Second part of the question - if you are out with a man who is just a friend and other ladies are giving him “the eye” do you notice that as well? Or only if you have an interest in him yourself? I’m not specifically talking about my LTR here.
What ladies pick up from other ladies is a mystery to me
As far as noticing other ladies, I don’t really pay attention unless it is blatantly obvious. And I would not be jealous, unless my guy was returning the IOI’s, then I would be pissed.
As for your LTR getting used to your new signature, how long have you been using pheros around her? And do you switch out your daily mix from time to time, ot do you use the same thing all the time?
Have you guys spent much time apart? Like one of you going on a trip of some kind? Depending on the length of the trip, she may well re-notice the things that first attracted her to you. You may have heard the saying, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”. Well, its absolutely true.
Attraction is what draws us together and its different for everyone so No ladies wont all be attracted to the same guys as each other. However we do pick up on body language and cues that the other ladies in the room are giving when they are into someone. Women are very observant in this way. It depends on your ladies personality traits and whether they are paying attention to those signals on how they react to those signals though. I wont be attracted to someone just because other people are.
Women look at my husband all the time. Some even hit on him right in front of me. LOL He is totally oblivious of it which makes me laugh. I will say to him “that women is flirting with you” and he will be like “what women” ? I guess it makes me more attentive to him because I know if I slack off in the relationship he may start noticing those cues and hits. Its one of the reasons I started using mones. I like to keep the relationship fresh. I have seen so many great relationships become settled and I didnt want that for mine.
Now there is a couple we go out with all the time the male is attractive and other women with send cues or flirt with him and the my female friend will get pissed at her husband even though he didnt do anything or respond and he sometimes ends up sleeping on the couch. I do notice the looks and cues women are sending him even though I have no interest in him in that way.
See what I mean about it depending on the women’s personality if this method will work. My female friend is not secure in her relationship or in herself so she lashes out at him.
Women study relationships from birth almost since we are more emotion driven. Men dont bother till they get older so I would have to say that yes a good percentage of us are aware when people are into each other or when one person is attracted to another but it wont always influence our own attraction nor is it something we consciously think about.
Do you feel you just have become settled or that she is losing her attraction for you ?
I’m careful not to return IOIs, though like most men I’m weak and pathetic and register it myself as a little + for my ego
I got into pheros in September and have been mixing it up, trying to keep consistent for a week or two at a time. Communication pheros seemed to be working (ie her talking about issues) but not much from anything else, while I’ll see things with other people.
We spend time apart every couple of months - there’ll be a week apart and occasional weekends too. She is always affectionate initially but then it dies off in a couple of days and it’s back to normal. She hates the thought of us not being together though while recognising it’s not perfect and that the friendzone is a necessary part of being a couple but shouldn’t be the whole thing. So she knows things could do with getting better it just seems we hit a stumbling block on the “how”. (And I take responsibility for that too.)
That single paragraph answers my question I think!
We’ve definitely become settled. We’re pretty frank with each other and she tells me that she hasn’t lost her attraction to me - to the contrary she thinks I’m better looking than years ago when we got together (I’ve done a lot of gym work since then!) and I trust her that she hasn’t. We’ve just lost that “spark”. Neither of us is looking for anyone else though so my mission is to reignite it and I’m looking for ways to do that - I’ve tried the traditional and the not-so traditional. I guess I’m just looking for other ways to reinforce it through positive vibes from others. The fact I feel I need others to give that positive reinforcement about myself is probably indicative of a low self-worth which may be part of the problem!
I’m confident we’ll get there given time, and mones are going to give me that little extra boost. I was just wondering if I should apply them to influence other people to give a good impression to my LTR if that makes any sense.
Thanks ladies! Consider this topic answered and closed!
My man is very handsome, but usually when we go out together arm in arm other women don’t even dare look at him let alone flirt. I don’t know how they are when he’s alone. I wouldn’t mind if he got looks. I think he’s intimidating too and so am I.
One time an older woman kissed him on the lips at some bar when I was away for a sec (she was very dominant type) he looked all innocent and cute and I came and sat with him and she told him that she was my mother. Um ok. I didn’t really care or see her as a threat because he is very particular with the type of girls he likes (younger/skinny), also he doesn’t like older or dominant women.
I would kind of love it if women flirted with him in front of me cuz I have never seen that besides the incident with that lady. I think it would be something fun to make fun of him about later. But that wouldn’t make me more interested in him or see him differently at all.
A lot of the guys that my friends find attractive I don’t find attractive. So attraction is different for everyone. Visual comes first then smell. Some of the guys my friends were hot for I thought they were hideous. I’m sure they think I have terible taste as well.
I can see myself as someone who would respond to a man’s pheromones, not sure if I have ever been pheromoned. Might get me more hot for someone.
