I broke up with my gf of 4 months. It’s been about 5 days since then and it’s been hell. She told me she was really starting to love me, and would rather end it right now and hurt a little, then hurt alot years later. I had the choice of being in it for the long haul, or ending it.
We left on really good terms. Even had sex one last time. But she said once it’s over there’s no going back. She also explained how we can never be friends either. I miss her so much.. err how was this all related to pheromones?
Honesty. Yeah not the kind in the bottle. My inner war with myself was being deceitful about my usage of pheromones. She was mentioning how we should always be honest with each other, and I knew I couldn’t tell her regardless. I’m also not ready for commitment.
At least I’ve been trying tell myself that ever since I left her… sometimes you really don’t know until they’re gone.
I am sorry for being so blunt Pheraoh, but you need to kick your Inner Wussbag in the ass and out the door. There are so many women out there that you will have no problem finding a better one if you do not drag your Inner Wussy with you. Now go out tonight and be a Man. Meet, greet, talk, flirt, even bust on a few women. You will be back in the saddle in no time. You can thank me later when you post your success story. DrZorters
Aww Pheraoh Time for a Tisha hug ((((((((Pheraoh)))))))))
Its gonna be ok, if she was the one you would have not let her go. Its just wasnt the right time and if she was even though she says there is no going back there is always a way back.
Now spray on some happy social mones and go out and mingle. You dont have to pick up girls right away just have some fun and you will see that there is a whole world full of women and they all have noses.
Im right there with ya bud. Infact – it was my breakup that lead me here, to pheromonetalk.com … Honestly! My fiance of 3 years - we broke up 2 months ago…I can tell you right now, her being not the right one, and ending it now…The best decision you could ever make in your entire life. I cringe and die a little inside even as i write this, because i keep it all on the inside (my feelings about the breakup that is). Its a horrible situation. Reguardless of whether or not we left on good terms (Which we did), we WILL NOT ever be friends again. Its unfortunate, and its the way it has to be for us to both get over it and recover…You did the right thing my man. You did the right thing…
“end it now (3 years in) or have it REALLY kick us in the ass after married and possibly had kids”
I was the one not ready for commitment as well, and I thought i was. I was the immature one…because im a guy (Just let me use that excuse Tisha! it makes me feel better )
Doesn’t love hurt like no other. Maybe that’s why it is also the most beautiful thing. Sorry to hear the news. Given time, the scar will heal.
Do go on and go out and enjoy other people’s company. Don’t forget to blast yourself Shine ever now and then.
By the way, from what you have said, it seems that she actually is not shutting the door on the possibility of a friendship, just a Tisha’s said. Having said that, don’t rush or push it. Think months, not days.
One of the biggest ways I am doing this is by Getting out and not hermit crabbing my self in my room with my computer…Social life always first…Parties always first…friends first.
I have nothing to gain by sitting in my room and mourning…everything to gain by getting out
I really dont see it as being deceitful. You use it to enhance yourself and those around you. Just like girls use makeup, scents or push up bra’s. Its the same thing. When we are in relatonships we dont go announcing “Hey got a Push up on”
My husband and myself have a very trusting open relationship.
All he knows is I wear alot of scents and some of them do something. If you tell a person every little thing about yourself it takes the mystery out of you. I am not saying keep big secrets but leave some mystery. They really dont need to know every little thing. After being married for a long time I am always delightfully surprised when I find out something new about my husband. It helps to keep the interest in long term relationships.
Not too sure i agree with that as an ultra-romantic. People change, and theres always something wonderful to learn the next day, or even the next hour, that hasnt come up. You should just try not to have download sessions because they make everything get tied up into 1 minute stories.
I agree that people do change and there are wonderful new things to learn along the way but when you are a couple those changes happen to you together and its differant then finding out something thats just there own.
I guess its hard to explain but when your in a relationship for a while everything tends to become a “us” instead of a “you” or “me”. Its important to have the “us” but its also important to keep the “you” or “me” seperate from the “us” LOL This keeps things spicy IMHO
Well when Tater gets hitched, hell ask his attorney to use Tishas words while convincing his wife to sign the prenup. “Honey, we have to have a you and a me, not just an us, otherwise our lives together will be boring. Tisha said so! Whos Tisha? Well, its a long story. Yeah. Uhhh, you know how you walked into that Starbucks and seconds after you saw me you were spread-eagled on a table, begging to have my baby? Well, that was pheros from Jasmin. No, im not seeing another woman. I was at her site and Tisha posted this email and… No, Tisha and Jasmin are different people and… No, I’m not having an affair with either of them. Theyre both married and…”
I know what you’re living, for the reason I came here was to save my couple, and it doesn’t work as my girlfriend is highly negatively sensitive to pheromones, and I know how hard it is to realize and accept that it’s the end or near the end, whatever the period of the year and the length of time spent.
In fact, it’s interesting that you post this thread, for it helps myself with my own answers ; what I would answer you is that life is made of choices tha are no easy to make and that whatever happens, there is the good and the bad to take out of it, it"s just another choice which one we take.
It’s mty answer to your question, it’s my answer to my own question(s), so I’d be glad if it helps you as much as it does for me… cos you’ve made your decision !
Maybe having Tisha’s hugs could help me make a decision !
Aww.. thanks Tish. Well you called it. We’re back together already. Funny how things work out. I just sent her a text and next thing I knew we were both naked in bed
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